Ele diz que é sensível, mas estes 9 comportamentos provam que ele é, na verdade, um manipulador

Estás muito feliz por finalmente teres encontrado um rapaz que é emotivo e não tem medo de se abrir sobre as suas emoções. Ainda assim, algo parece estranho.

You’re blaming yourself for not being able to deal with his emotions, thinking you’re just not used to having a sensitive boyfriend.

If you can sense that there’s something wrong, there’s a chance he’s a manipulator who pretends to be sensitive as a part of his con.

Veja estes sinais de um manipulador disfarçado.

Ele compromete-se a fingir

Aos olhos destreinados, parece que ele fez de facto um compromisso em prol de uma relação saudável.

However, in reality, he uses every possible situation to make it look like he’s doing you favors.

For example, if you ask him to go out with you, he might say something like: “Well, I already had plans but I can cancel them for you.”

In fact, he didn’t even have plans but wanted to use the chance to make himself look good and flexible.

Parece que ele descarrega sempre a sua bagagem em ti

Of course, it’s okay for a guy to share his problems with you but a manipulator has a unique way of doing that. He finds a way to control you with his traumas or sad experiences from his past.

Por exemplo, ele pode ter sido traído e agora usa isso para a obrigar a ter muito cuidado com a forma como interage com outros homens, porque diz que o facto de falar com outros homens desencadeia todas as emoções negativas que ele tem do passado.

He’s always the victim

You often hear him say that he’s such a nice guy and that’s probably why everyone is always hurting him. He can make every situation look like he’s the one who got hurt, no matter what the real story is.

Everyone is out to get him and it’s always him who ends up being a victim in almost every possible scenario.

His ‘care’ feels weird

He’s sneaky with giving you advice that only serves him. He formulates his sentences so it seems like he truly cares but he’s actually trying to get you to do what he wants.

So, if he doesn’t want you to do something, he might say something like, “I just really don’t want you to get hurt/disappointed.”

At first, you think that he must really care about you but it feels really weird and it’s like every time you listen to his advice, you’re left feeling empty and confused.

Ele puxa-nos para os seus estados de espírito

You’ve noticed that however he feels, you start feeling. Sure, you might be um verdadeiro empático but you’ll notice that he intentionally tries to pull you down and isn’t satisfied until he succeeds.

He can’t stand you being happy if he’s sad and he wants you to feel responsible for his feelings as this gives him a way to blame you whenever something goes wrong.

He doesn’t seem sincere

He usually does what you want him to do and says all the right things. He’s a natural people pleaser but you can sense that there’s something fake about it.

You can see by paying attention to his facial expressions that he isn’t honest.

As coisas que ele faz por si parecem exageradas e planeadas com demasiado cuidado e ele raramente comete erros, especialmente no início da relação.

Quando algo parece demasiado bom para ser verdade, normalmente é.

Ele procura uma atenção constante

You’re just about to go to a party which he knew about and he calls you to tell you he’s not feeling well and you have to go see him.

You will be glad to at first but with time, you’ll notice that this is a pattern. He does this on purpose to drag you away from having fun with other people and focus all your energy and time on him.

He tells you sad stories at ‘convenient’ times

Ele tem muitas histórias tristes e, de alguma forma, consegue partilhá-las consigo nas alturas mais convenientes.

Usually, when he’s done speaking and crying, he’ll ask for something such as a favor or money or he’ll ask for you to do something you’ve already said no to.

This is a definite sign he’s manipulating you and you should dump him, no questions asked.

Ele chora a toda a hora

A guy being brave enough to show his emotions is amazing but this guy cries all the time, especially when things aren’t going his way.

There’s a good chance that whenever you need to tell him something really important which he assumes will be uncomfortable, he suddenly gets super emotional and cries.

It’s like he can cry on command whenever it’s convenient for him.

Se, ao ler isto, se apercebeu de que o seu namorado emocional é, na verdade, um manipulador e agora se sente desiludida ou zangada, nós compreendemos.

Leaving that kind of guy will be tricky since that’s where his manipulation tactics will reach their highest level.

Stay strong and don’t let him trick you into staying with him. You now know better.