Porque é que ele me está a ignorar de repente? 30 razões possíveis

Things were going so well. You thought you’d found the man of your dreams. Then he suddenly distances himself, and you’re left wondering, ”Why is he ignoring me all of a sudden?”

Começamos a culpar-nos e a tentar perceber o que fizemos de errado.

A culpa foi mesmo sua? Ou há mais alguma coisa em jogo?

Se quer aliviar a sua alma, então sugiro que continue a ler porque todas as suas perguntas SERÃO respondidas.

Porque é que ele me está a ignorar de repente? 30 razões

If you can’t compreender um homem by yourself, here’s a list of the 30 common reasons he is ignoring you:

1. Ele tem outras coisas em que pensar

Yes. Maybe your guy is too busy studying for the perfect grade or dedicating himself to his new job. You don’t have to assume the worst immediately.

Why not ask him about it? See what he’s up to.

I know he can make stuff up just to reject you, but you can easily sense when that’s the case.

If he’s really just busy, he’ll reassure you that everything’s fine and promise you that he will reach out to you.

If he acts indifferent, though, that’s a sign ele nunca fará de si uma prioridade.

2. It’s his way of seducing you

I know this sounds very twisted, but he could also just be playing hard to get. He’s all game because he’s afraid to admit that he’s totalmente a fim de ti.

He thinks you will be more attracted to him if he’s not trying too hard.

So, he starts ignoring you and hopes that he will magically end up in a relationship with you without putting in any effort… but, yes, this tactic usually leads to nowhere.

3. He’s got serious emotional issues

Talvez he doesn’t want a relationship. Maybe he has serious problems that get in the way. He doesn’t want to be involved with you until he’s at peace with himself.

He could be struggling with depression or something else. He doesn’t want to burden you, so he deals with it alone.

A única questão é: quão controláveis são as suas dificuldades? Será que o vão afastar completamente?

Se isso acontecer, a bola está no seu campo.

4. He’s not sure about your feelings

Before blaming him for ignoring you, first, make sure that you’re not giving him mixed signals.

If you treat him coldly or never ask him any personal questions, he’s going to think you’re not interested in him.

So, don’t be surprised when he becomes demasiado receoso de admitir os seus sentimentos.

When he gets this vibe from you, he’ll protect himself the only way he knows how – distância.

Por isso, preste mais atenção às suas palavras e à sua linguagem corporal.

5. He thinks you’re too good for him

Sim, o pobre coitado pode estar apenas intimidado por si! He probably thinks you’re out of his league and that you would never pay him attention.

It’s no wonder such um homem ignora-te. Os seus problemas de autoestima fazem-no demasiado receoso para se aproximar de si.

Se não lhe mostrar que também gosta dele, pode nunca mais ouvir falar dele!

6. Texting isn’t his thing

Some guys just prefer getting to know you in person. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you.

No entanto, se ele gostar de si, acabará por sugerir um encontro.

Ser um mau textualizador não é desculpa. Os seus sentimentos verdadeiros revelar-se-ão.

Mas se ele nunca manda mensagem primeiro and keeps on ignoring you without showing that he’s interested, then he has no intention of being with you.

7. A sua timidez é um obstáculo

This one’s a pain! I’m currently crushing on a rapaz tímido que inicialmente parecia muito interessado em mim.

Ele estava sempre a perguntar onde eu estava, por isso marcámos um encontro. Mas no dia seguinte, ele mal olhou para mim! Estava a esconder os seus sentimentos!

Se a sua experiência é semelhante, então sabe como tudo isto é confuso.

MAS, há uma solução muito simples para o seu problema: basta enviar-lhe uma mensagem de texto!

Descubra o que o seu homem gosta e utilize-o como início de conversa. Provavelmente será mais fácil para ele falar nas redes sociais do que cara a cara.

And no, there’s no shame in enviar uma mensagem a um rapaz primeiro. It’s better to go after what you want than waste your time dreaming about it.

8. He’s got commitment issues

Ah, o fobias de compromisso! Parece que estão em todo o lado!

Just when you think you’ve found the one, he backs out because he’s afraid of a relação séria.

As soon as he hears the word ‘relationship,’ uma separação vem-me à cabeça.

Provavelmente, ele está desejoso de estar consigo, mas o seu medo é muito mais forte do que o seu amor.

Well, you can’t wait for him forever… But, what you can do is talk to him about it and show him how great things would be if he could let go of his fear. Go and do it!

9. He’s not into you

Sorry, but this one’s a legit option, too.

I know you were looking for a better reason, but sometimes a guy ignores you because he doesn’t know como dizer a alguém que não está interessado.

You will recognize this if he literally does it all the time and doesn’t show any interest AT ALL.

I know it hurts, but when you think about it, he’s doing you a favor.

He isn’t leading you on. He’s a great guy who’s (indirectly) honest about how he feels. Accept it for what it is and move on.

10. Ele percebeu que falar contigo é errado

Por vezes, um homem sente-se tentado a falar consigo porque gosta demasiado da sua companhia.

Mas quando se apercebe do quão errado é, decide deixar de enviar mensagens/asking you out… and around and around it goes!

Ele pode fazê-lo se for já ocupado ou se ele sabe que os teus sentimentos são muito mais fortes do que os dele.

He’s emocionalmente desequilibrado, so his desire to reach out to you sometimes overwhelms him. But this guy’s got a conscience (sort of), so in the end, he leaves again.

Be the one to leave HIM this time. And for good. Don’t let him give you the mínimo indispensável já não.

11. He doesn’t even know he’s ignoring you

What? How can someone NOT know they’re ignoring you?

Well, it’s very simple – he isn’t all that interested.

This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t care about you at all. Maybe you’re just in the friend zone, so he doesn’t feel the need to send you text messages so often.

Whatever the reason, you aren’t exactly a priority, so he doesn’t see it as ‘ignoring you.’

12. Ele apaixonou-se por outra pessoa

This one’s a classic. Continua à espera da sua resposta while he’s hitting it off with another woman!

Has he stopped flirting with you? Does every conversation feel forced, like he can’t wait for it to end?

If you feel that way, then you’re probably right. Trust your intuition and save yourself before you’re in deeper trouble!

13. He doesn’t feel a connection

It’s possible that this guy really liked you at first but then realized you just aren’t a match. He saw that he couldn’t connect with you on an emotional level.

Maybe you haven’t laughed at any of his jokes. Or maybe you didn’t understand something that was really important to him.

Sometimes, we all have that ‘click’ in our head that tells us someone isn’t the right person for us. And that’s fine! It’s much better than pretense.

14. Something’s bothering him

Your man could just be in a bad place right now. Maybe he’s having family issues or is under too much stress.

Either way, his struggle is preventing him from texting you. He can’t enjoy your company when he knows the problems will still be there when he goes home.

If this is his reason for ignoring you, he won’t stay away forever. And I’m truly speaking from personal experience.

Instead of blaming him and constantly asking yourself ‘’Why is he ignoring me all of a sudden?’’ just try giving him some time.

15. He’s angry with you

Pensem na vossa última conversa. Ou então, recuem ainda mais. Ele pareceu aborrecido com alguma coisa que disse?

That could be the real reason why he’s ignoring you – he is escondendo o seu coração partido.

I know it can be hard to determine. I was once in a long-distance relationship, and I didn’t have the opportunity to talk face-to-face with my boyfriend.

It was hard to start the topic online because I couldn’t see his facial expressions, and I’m not a big fan of video chats.

Mas, no final, perguntei-lhe sobre o assunto. Ele estava zangado, mas conseguimos resolver o problema sendo honestos um com o outro.

Sim, a comunicação é sempre fundamental.

If he’s demasiado imaturo para ter uma conversa saudável, inicie-a você mesmo.

16. You don’t have anything in common

Different interests may attract you, but it’s obviously a desinteressante para ele. Ele quer falar com alguém que esteja entusiasmado com as mesmas coisas.

If there were too many uncomfortable silences the last time you were together, that’s your cue.

Your opposing personality is just not ‘it’ for him, but he doesn’t know how to tell you. He just ignores you until you figure it out by yourself.

17. You’re not that important to him

Este tipo de homem é um narcisista. Ele gosta das suas conversas mas podia muito bem viver sem elas.

He’s probably aware that you’re into him, but that doesn’t stop him from reaching out and messing with you. All he cares about is having fun.

Maybe hurting you isn’t his goal, but he still sees you as a toy meant for his amusement.

18. You’re too eager to be with him

Men pull away as soon as they see that you’re trying too hard. As you well know, they like the chase.

When you’re not a challenge, he’s pronto a deixar-te, mais cedo ou mais tarde.

Of course, it’s okay to try. Don’t hide your feelings. It’s always better to be honest than wait for him to do everything.

Mas ser pegajoso isn’t an option either.

Men love a woman who wants them… not one who depends on them.

19. You didn’t live up to his expectations

We all idealize our crushes. He probably didn’t see the real you but rather the version he wanted you to be.

And, once he opened his eyes, he realized that you weren’t the person for him.

If you’re wondering, ”Why is he ignoring me all of a sudden?” then it’s probably because he has finally accepted reality and moved on to someone he genuinely likes.

20. You’re moving too fast

Nem toda a gente consegue entrar numa relação tão facilmente.

Some guys want to get to know you first. They want to make sure that it’s the right decision.

Se pergunta se o seu homem for tomar café todos os dias ou se quiser mandar mensagens 24 horas por dia, ele pode distanciar-se.

This doesn’t mean that he’s done with you for good. He just precisa de espaço mas não tem outra forma de lho dizer.

21. Ele quer algo novo

It’s sad, but some men can never be satisfied for long. He was probably very interested in you at first but eventually got bored.

Está sempre aborrecido porque procura emoção e quer conhecer pessoas novas a toda a hora.

Sim, ele pode ser um namorador em série.

Each woman is replaced with a new one after a while. So, don’t think it’s your fault.

22. He’s a sadist

‘’Why is he ignoring me all of a sudden? I did nothing wrong!’’

Sim, bem, alguns homens só querem magoá-la. Na verdade, a intenção deles é brincar consigo e fazê-la sentir-se mal.

If that’s your guy, he probably made you feel special in a fases iniciais da vossa relação.

Parecia demasiado bom para ser verdade. E de facto era.

As suas verdadeiras cores começaram a aparecer quando ele decidiu distanciar-se após a intimidade e ignorar-vos porque ele prosperava com a vossa dor. Fazia-o sentir-se poderoso.

Don’t be one of the women on his list! Look for a homem bom que cuidará de si.

23. He’s somewhat forgetful

This might sound like a lame excuse, but it’s really possible.

Talvez tenha surgido algo importante de repente e ele se tenha esquecido de responder. Alguns homens são assim.

It all depends on how often he does it. If it’s happened just once or twice, then you have nothing to worry about.

But if it keeps happening, then he isn’t just forgetful… He is intentionally ignoring you.

24. You’re not the only woman in his life

Este homem pode estar a dar-se bem com muitas mulheres ao mesmo tempo; acontece que você é uma delas.

He probably doesn’t take any of you seriously. If he did, he would be devoted to only one of you. But he doesn’t care about devotion.

He’s got serious issues that prevent him from forming a long-term relationship. He’s scared of falling in love, so he jumps from one woman to the next to deal with it.

25. He believes you’re into someone else

Sim, ele pode ter interpretado mal os seus sinais, especialmente se continuou a falar de outra pessoa.

Talvez ele tenha confundido o seu melhor amigo com um namorado e agora pense que não tem qualquer hipótese consigo.

Ele vai continuar a ignorar-te se não lhe disseres a verdade.

Explain that he’s just a friend… or, if you’re brave enough, confess your feelings. If you’re so sure he’s apaixonado por tinão perca tempo!

26. Ele quer vingar-se de si

Do you keep asking yourself ‘’Why is he ignoring me all of a sudden?’’ so often that you completely forget you were the one who started the vicious cycle?

Yes, maybe he’s giving you the silent treatment because you ignored him first.

Needless to say, this isn’t very mature, so don’t be like him. If you think his silence is a big deal, share it with him – otherwise, you’ll get nowhere.

27. You’re too judgy

Nenhum homem quer uma mulher que esteja sempre a fazer-lhe a vida negra.

If you constantly criticize his choices and make him feel bad about himself, it’s no surprise he’s ignoring you.

Se queres que ele volte, aprende a ser mais solidário.

Faça-lhe um elogio de vez em quando. A não ser que TU mudes, não tens nada que o culpar.

28. He doesn’t know how to respond

”Porque é que, de repente, ele está a ignorar as minhas mensagens?? Did my story bore him so much?”

Well, consider the possibility that it wasn’t answerable in the first place.

It doesn’t mean he didn’t listen to you or that he no longer cares. He’s just not sure what to say.

Not knowing how much it’ll hurt you, he sees ignoring you as his only option. Be upfront about how you feel.

29. Os seus amigos são a sua prioridade

Pode ser que ele tenha começado a negligenciar os amigos depois de a conhecer.

Talvez ele se sinta mal por estar a passar mais tempo consigo, por isso decidiu mudar isso. Isto pode tornar-se ainda mais difícil se os amigos dele o estiverem a pressionar.

Explain to him that it doesn’t have to be that way. He doesn’t have to neglect them or ignore you.

Há tempo para todos, se o utilizarmos de forma sensata.

30. His family doesn’t approve of you

Sometimes, our family members think they’re the ones dating our boyfriend or girlfriend. So, they expect us to act how they want. They don’t care about our feelings.

O seu homem pode estar a ter o mesmo problema.

Talvez ele goste de passar o tempo with you, but his family doesn’t like you for some reason. Wanting sem problemas, começa lutar contra os seus sentimentos por ti.

You can’t really blame him, but you can try to convince him that it doesn’t have to be that way.

Ver também: Porque é que o meu amigo me está a ignorar? 20 razões e soluções

O que fazer quando ele te ignora sem motivo

Se um homem ignora-te, deves fazer a única coisa que podes – falar com ele.

As we’ve seen, he could be doing it for a number of reasons. But, overthinking won’t help you at all.

You could analyze every detail, and you still won’t know the real truth.

Your only solution is communication. No matter how much the answer might hurt you, at least you’ll know.

O melhor conselhos sobre relações O que vos posso dar é isto:

Don’t prolong this any further. You deserve to know. And it is on you to find out. Be more mature than him and ask him all about it.

Quando começar a lidar com os problemas desta forma, será mais fácil praticar da próxima vez.

Considerações finais

I hope your thoughts are much clearer now, and there is no more wondering ”Why is he ignoring me all of a sudden?”

After all, you deserve peace of mind… but only you can achieve it.

Take the matter into your own hands and practice healthy communication. You’ll see how much your love life will improve.