Él Dice Que Es Sensible Pero Estos 9 Comportamientos Demuestran Que En Realidad Es Un Manipulador

Estás muy contenta de haber encontrado por fin a un chico emotivo y que no teme abrirse sobre sus emociones. Sin embargo, hay algo raro.

You’re blaming yourself for not being able to deal with his emotions, thinking you’re just not used to having a sensitive boyfriend.

If you can sense that there’s something wrong, there’s a chance he’s a manipulator who pretends to be sensitive as a part of his con.

Echa un vistazo a estos signos de un manipulador disfrazado.

Te compromete falsamente

Al ojo inexperto le parece que en realidad hizo un compromiso en beneficio de tener una relación sana.

However, in reality, he uses every possible situation to make it look like he’s doing you favors.

For example, if you ask him to go out with you, he might say something like: “Well, I already had plans but I can cancel them for you.”

In fact, he didn’t even have plans but wanted to use the chance to make himself look good and flexible.

Parece que siempre descarga su equipaje en ti.

Of course, it’s okay for a guy to share his problems with you but a manipulator has a unique way of doing that. He finds a way to control you with his traumas or sad experiences from his past.

Por ejemplo, puede que le hayan puesto los cuernos y ahora lo utiliza para que tengas más cuidado a la hora de relacionarte con otros hombres porque dice que el hecho de que hables con otros hombres desencadena todas las emociones negativas que tiene del pasado.

He’s always the victim

You often hear him say that he’s such a nice guy and that’s probably why everyone is always hurting him. He can make every situation look like he’s the one who got hurt, no matter what the real story is.

Everyone is out to get him and it’s always him who ends up being a victim in almost every possible scenario.

His ‘care’ feels weird

He’s sneaky with giving you advice that only serves him. He formulates his sentences so it seems like he truly cares but he’s actually trying to get you to do what he wants.

So, if he doesn’t want you to do something, he might say something like, “I just really don’t want you to get hurt/disappointed.”

At first, you think that he must really care about you but it feels really weird and it’s like every time you listen to his advice, you’re left feeling empty and confused.

Te arrastra a su estado de ánimo

You’ve noticed that however he feels, you start feeling. Sure, you might be un verdadero empático but you’ll notice that he intentionally tries to pull you down and isn’t satisfied until he succeeds.

He can’t stand you being happy if he’s sad and he wants you to feel responsible for his feelings as this gives him a way to blame you whenever something goes wrong.

He doesn’t seem sincere

He usually does what you want him to do and says all the right things. He’s a natural people pleaser but you can sense that there’s something fake about it.

You can see by paying attention to his facial expressions that he isn’t honest.

Las cosas que hace por ti parecen exageradas y planificadas con demasiado cuidado y rara vez comete errores, sobre todo al principio de la relación.

Cuando algo parece demasiado bueno para ser verdad, suele serlo.

Busca atención constante

You’re just about to go to a party which he knew about and he calls you to tell you he’s not feeling well and you have to go see him.

You will be glad to at first but with time, you’ll notice that this is a pattern. He does this on purpose to drag you away from having fun with other people and focus all your energy and time on him.

He tells you sad stories at ‘convenient’ times

Tiene muchas historias tristes y de alguna manera se las arregla para compartirlas con usted en los momentos más convenientes.

Usually, when he’s done speaking and crying, he’ll ask for something such as a favor or money or he’ll ask for you to do something you’ve already said no to.

This is a definite sign he’s manipulating you and you should dump him, no questions asked.

Llora todo el tiempo

A guy being brave enough to show his emotions is amazing but this guy cries all the time, especially when things aren’t going his way.

There’s a good chance that whenever you need to tell him something really important which he assumes will be uncomfortable, he suddenly gets super emotional and cries.

It’s like he can cry on command whenever it’s convenient for him.

Si al leer esto te has dado cuenta de que tu novio emocional es en realidad un manipulador y ahora te sientes decepcionada o enfadada, te entendemos.

Leaving that kind of guy will be tricky since that’s where his manipulation tactics will reach their highest level.

Stay strong and don’t let him trick you into staying with him. You now know better.