Para a rapariga que ainda está à espera: Nenhuma resposta ainda é uma resposta

Lá está você de novo, a olhar para o seu telemóvel e a percorrer as suas mensagens. Está à espera dele, de uma mensagem que mude tudo e a faça recordar a razão pela qual se apaixonou por ele.

You want to see that he cares. You want him to make you believe that it’s not over yet and you want him to have a response of any kind, but dear, let me tell you that no response is still a response.

You’ve been waiting for too long. No matter how much time that includes.

If it’s been two days or a week, it’s just too much time wasted on someone who doesn’t even bother to show you that you mean a lot to him. He doesn’t react and it doesn’t bother him to lose you .

Ele sabe que a vai perder. Nenhum homem é suficientemente estúpido para acreditar nisso. ignorar uma mulher ele conseguirá o afeto dela.

He is doing this on purpose and no matter how much you want to deny that, it’s a fact.

Acreditas mesmo que um homem que te ama se comportaria assim? Um homem que te ama terá medo de te perder, de te magoar ou de te fazer chorar.

Ele vai abraçar-te com força e vai querer passar todas as horas do dia contigo. A homem que a quer ter na sua vida won’t make you wonder whether he is serious about you because you will simply know.

You will know if he appreciates you enough by the way he doesn’t play games with you because people who want you in their lives tell you that you’re needed.

But this man, the one who is not responding, he will be surprised the next time he sees you, texts you or calls you and you don’t greet him.

You don’t text back and you don’t pick up the phone. He will be surprised and he will regret not making an effort to make you stay by his side. I can guarantee you that no man is heartless enough to not consider another option, to think about what would happen if he acted differently.

He won’t take your cold behavior so easily because he doesn’t know how to deal with people who are just like him.

Mereces muito mais do que olhar fixamente para um ecrã vazio . You deserve more than crying over his unsent texts and all those times you wanted to talk to him, but he wasn’t there for you.

Sei que foi muito bonito falar com ele. Foi muito inspirador tê-lo na tua vida e ter a certeza de que encontraste um homem que te faz sentir tão especial.

Agora, quando todas essas coisas desapareceram, ficamos a pensar no que correu mal. Pensou que vocês os dois tinham tanto potencial, por isso esperou e esperou. Esperou que ele desse o primeiro passo.

Esperaste que ele te mostrasse que quer que as coisas se tornem sérias. Mas ele continua a desiludir-te constantemente. Continua a mostrar-te que o que esperavas é coisa da tua cabeça.

You’re now stuck in this cycle of tears and agony that keeps you from moving on. You’re constantly breaking your own heart and you feel it in your chest, stabbing you and begging you to stop doing it. But you can’t give up hope, can you?

Yes, yes you can. It doesn’t mean that you’re giving up on something real. You’re not giving up on someone who is ready to do everything it takes just to make you happy.

You’re walking away from someone who doesn’t even know what true love feels like. You’re moving on e isso não é algo que nos torne fracos.

You have learned a lesson. You have had an experience with someone who didn’t even bother to show you their kindness and respect.

But how about the next time you meet someone and get so invested in them, you let it be someone who shows you love. Someone who isn’t ashamed to dedicate a whole day to make you happy.

Someone who doesn’t mind making you a priority every single day.

The next time you meet a guy, don’t get stuck waiting, looking at your phone for a call, but live your life. You don’t need a man and he will never be something crucial in your life.

Just give yourself the permission to live your most amazing life without ever needing that call, needing that text. Maybe his ‘no response’ is a clear message to stop waiting and start living?