Porque é que afasto as pessoas: A verdade por trás dos seus medos

Afasta as pessoas - é o seu estilo, não é?

Despite this, you keep asking yourself why you can’t let people in, and yet, whenever somebody gets near you, you do the same thing again. You shut everything down, and you push them even further away.

Ergue-se de novo o muro e essa pessoa fica sem si.

You don’t even bother explaining because you often catch yourself not knowing why you do it in the first place. So it’s easier just leaving without a trace than explaining something you’re not sure of.

Você afastar anybody who could care for you—why is that?

“You can’t always be pushing people away. Someday, nobody will come back.”- The Dear One

Ninguém pode ser tão duro connosco como nós próprios. Ninguém pode ser tão duro contigo como tu o és contigo próprio.

You’ve been through way too much. Nobody can possibly fathom the trauma and loss you had to endure in your young life.

Nobody knows those things because you don’t let anyone see what you are lidar com.

Nunca permites que ninguém esteja tão perto de ti. The minute somebody steps too close, you take a step back. Always creating a gap between you two, aren’t you?

Regardless of what you’ve passou por na vida, tentamos ver o lado bom das pessoas. Fazemos o nosso melhor para acreditar que dias melhores estão para vir, mas nunca damos a nós próprios espaço suficiente para que esses dias bons cheguem.

Sometimes, it’s just not possible to look brightly on the things that are coming towards you. There is always a dose of scepticism and doubt inside you.

You’re the type of person that thinks about everyone but herself. You’re always the last person on your priority list.

You’re the type of person who’s there for everyone in the blink of an eye, and the first one to make the rest of the world happy, even if they don’t deserve it.

You weren’t suficientemente bom pelas pessoas que amaste enquanto crescias.

There was always that ‘something’ they expected of you, and no matter what you did, it just wasn’t enough. Nobody told you that all this is not your fault.

Continuaste a pensar (e continuas a pensar) que mereces a dor que recebes na vida.

You somehow feel you caused it for yourself—you must have done something wrong, so now God is ‘returning the favor’, and you never dare question it.

You feel like you need to pay the price for something, but you just can’t wrap your mind around what that is.

Assim, quando acabamos por ficar sozinhos com a nossa escuridão, continuamos a acenar com a cabeça quando essa escuridão vem abraçar-nos, e abraçamo-la com tristeza nos olhos.

You just don’t let people see it.

Recusa-se a ser a vítima. Decidiste não deixar que ninguém te visse de joelhos. Por isso, seja o que for que a vida te atire, tu aguentas sozinho.

Nunca ninguém verá as vossas lágrimas porque continuas a acreditar que, se mostrares uma coisa, nada te impedirá de te despires.

If you let it all out, you are frightened you’ll never be able to stop, and it will only push people away even more… and that’s what scares you the most.

You don’t want to scare people away. You can’t live with that. You’d rather push them away. That’s something you can live with.

It’s never the right time.

There is always something more important than relationships, from bonding with people. You always have so much on your plate, and you just can’t handle anything else. It’s better to wait.

There’s always that one little thing that prevents you from letting anyone in.

There is always a small flaw or an imperfection, and because of that flaw, you simply can’t let that person into your life. It just creates a wall between the two of you that is insurmountable.

The real truth is you’re scared.

You’re just too scared to admit it or you’re just too scared to let people in. You keep finding these stupid excuses to comfort yourself with.

Desculpas que fazem com que afastar toda a gente pareça melhor. Só que isso nunca acontece.

You keep rationalizing your actions when in fact, they have nothing to do with reason. It’s all about your heart, and your heart is scared.

You don’t want to be like that. You don’t want to be scared, and you don’t want to push people away. It’s just way less painful to push them away primeiro do que deixá-los entrar e vê-los ir embora sozinhos.

The thing is, and you wouldn’t admit it for anything in this world, you just want someone to tell you it’s OK.

And it is OK. For real, it’s fine.

Alguém há-de vir e provar que estás errado, está bem?

Somebody who will show you that the world isn’t as dark and twisted as you make it seem in your head.

Existem tantas oportunidades fantásticas para si, mas recusa-se a vê-las. Há tantas pessoas por aí que são bom para si and your soul—you just need to open your eyes to see them.

There will come a person who’ll be able to see your worth and who’ll let you see how worthy you are.

He’s going to be the one to prove to you that there are people out there who deserve you, and people who can make you happy. There is someone out there who won’t hurt you, you know.

Só temos de aguentar mais um bocadinho.

You’ll know when the ‘right’ person enters your life—just don’t push this one away.

Quando essa pessoa chegar, vai fazer com que tudo pareça melhor. Ele terá uma maneira de a fazer sentir-se forte, poderosa e bonita.

E quando essa pessoa entrar na sua vida, dê a si mesmo o privilégio de ser amado da forma que merece ser amado.

Don’t push this one away because he is going to be the one who finally makes everything seem worthwhile.