14 sinais de alerta de homens pegajosos (e como evitá-los)
Same as guys who don’t like mulheres pegajosas, we don’t like clingy men.
Saber o que procurar no seu comportamento pode ajudá-lo a evitá-los antes que as coisas fiquem complicadas. E acredite em mim, podem mesmo ficar complicadas.
Os homens pegajosos, no início, parecem muito giros e atenciosos, mas com o tempo tornam-se irritantes.
Por vezes, pode até tornar-se perigoso, uma vez que enfrentam a rejeição e passam a persegui-los.
Here are the biggest warning signs that you’re dealing with a clingy man in order for you to avoid him more easily.
Ele quer saber TUDO sobre ti
It’s natural to want to get to know someone we’re interested in but there are certain things that are not meant for the first dates or the early stages of a relationship, things that require trust and time.
Isto inclui parceiros românticos passados, a nossa história ou os nossos medos e memórias mais profundos.
Mas ele continuará a fazer perguntas, por mais que se tente mudar de assunto ou ignorá-las.
He just NEEDS to know everything about you, because you’re so ‘special’ to him.
Manda-te mensagens no momento em que lhe dás o teu número
Todos nós sabemos que existe uma regra não escrita para não enviar uma mensagem a alguém no momento em que nos dão o seu número, para não parecermos necessitados ou pegajosos. Deve manter-se calmo e descontraído.
But he’s completely oblivious to that rule or the way he may come across.
Ele manda-te mensagens no momento em que lhe dás o teu número e as mensagens não param de chegar.
He’s blowing up your phone—all the time
He has no problem with sending multiple unanswered texts and the only time he’s not blowing up your phone is the time you spend together. But the moment you separate, the blowing up continues.
He wants to know what you’re doing all the time
It seems like you’re the only thing that’s on his mind. It feels like you’re his hobby, job and biggest passion, he just needs to know where you are and what you’re doing.
He will bomb you with questions all throughout the day: “How are you feeling? What you’re doing now? Is it hard? When will you finish?” It’s obvious that this guy is not just clingy, he’s a boundary pushertambém.
Os seus amigos são praticamente inexistentes
He always has time for you and it seems like he has no other friends. He mentions his co-workers from time to time and some old childhood friends, but it feels like you’re the only person in his life.
Quando um homem está atentoEle vai arranjar tempo para si, mas vai dizer-lhe que há outras pessoas na vida dele.
Os amigos e a família dele continuarão a ser as suas prioridades, mesmo quando oficializarem a relação. Mas um rapaz pegajoso vai ignorá-los no momento em que tiver a sua atenção.
He’s always texting first
There’s nothing wrong with texting first, but sometimes you should be chased instead of being the chaser all the time.
But he has no problem in texting first, it’s almost as if he’s afraid that you won’t text him unless he does it first.
Sem interesses próprios
This one truly is a red flag in the beginnings of a relationship, no matter what kind of man you’re dealing with.
Estar com um homem que não tem interesses próprios significa que se torna o único interesse dele, o que leva a uma relação possessiva e controladora.
If you catch yourself babbling on and on about things you enjoy doing, while he just says that he’s not really interested in anything but his work, it’s time to pay attention to other signs in his behavior.
He’s already planning on multiple dates—when you only just had one
He is in such a rush, so excited about being with you, that he already planned your next dates, while you’re not even sure if he’s the one you should’ve gone with on a first one.
Clingy men tend to rush things, whether it’s when being intimate, dating or becoming exclusive. In his mind, you’re everything he needs.
He’s all over your social media
Ele seguiu-a em todas as suas contas nas redes sociais no mesmo dia em que a conheceu.
Ele foi tão fundo no seu feed que gostou de fotografias que até se esqueceu que estavam lá.
You know that no matter what you publish, he’ll text you in no time and comment on your post. It’s like you’ve got yourself your own creepy stalker fan.
Ele tornou-se amigo de todos os seus amigos imediatamente
Se este não for uma bandeira vermelha, then I don’t know what is. Most men will add your friends on social media only once you’re in a serious committed relationship and not even then will all of them do it. This is just a huge sign that he’s way beyond clingy.
Ele precisa de ser constantemente tranquilizado
No matter what it is, he needs to hear you say it hundreds of times. He needs to know that he’s not boring to you, that you still care about him, that you still want to go on a date with him.
Ele precisa de si, não para aumentar o seu ego, mas para o construir a partir do zero.
He’s perfectly fine with being one of the girls
Há dias em que precisamos de passar algum tempo sozinhos, em que precisamos de passar algum tempo com a nossa cara-metade e há dias em que precisamos de passar algum tempo com as nossas filhas.
We need that time to let go of all of the negativity, to enjoy ourselves and celebrate the fact that we’re amazing friends.
Mas se ele não tem qualquer problema em estragar essa noite para si, quando praticamente se convida a estar consigo, tem um agarrado.
Ele fará com que se sinta mal por não o convidar consigo, para que acabe por ceder e deixar que ele lhe estrague a noite.
You can tell he’s holding back his opinion
When you’re discussing certain issues or hypothetical situations, you can tell that he’s holding back his opinion, that he’s waiting for you to speak your mind, so he can agree with whatever you said.
It’s not because he has no opinions of his own, it’s because he wants to show you that you two are a perfect match, he wants to keep you around for as long as he can.
He wants to be exclusive—ike, now
Regardless of the fact that you two just met each other, he’s ready to be exclusive and tries to convince you into thinking that you’re perfectly suited.
Um homem desesperado precisa de uma mulher ao seu lado e fará tudo para a manter lá.
If you feel like you’re trapped and things are moving too fast, don’t hesitate to leave such a relationship. It won’t get any better, trust me.
