10 Sinais de que ele está a impor limites
A maioria das pessoas tem dificuldade em estabelecer limites numa relação porque pensa que isso pode afetar negativamente a relação.
No entanto, ter ALGUNS limites é importante ter e manter uma relação saudável.
Por outro lado, há quem exagere nos seus limites pessoais numa relação.
Boundary-pushing is a behavioral pattern – it’s toxic and surely impacts every relationship negatively.
Independentemente do que o seu parceiro faça, um empurrador de limites nunca está satisfeito. They’re always demanding more and setting some new rules for their significant others.
It’s so difficult to deal with those kinds of people. Especialmente se tiveres sentimentos por eles.
You aren’t okay with how they always want to push their ways through their boundaries, but you don’t say anything and instead keep doing what they want you to because you’re afraid of losing them.
Here are some signs of a typical boundary pusher. If you recognize some of them in your partner’s behavior, leave him before you lose yourself.
1. A sua palavra é lei
Ele pensa que tem o papel de pessoa dominante na vossa relação. Faz todos os planos por si e espera que lhe peça autorização para fazer certas coisas.
He doesn’t like to be asked twice for the same thing. If he says that you may not or he won’t do something, he expects you to accept it and not to ask him for it ever again.
2. Ele ignora o que dizes
Ignores, doesn’t listen… It’s not important. The point is your opinion isn’t important to him. He’s already decided on everything for you, and what you have to say about it is irrelevant for him.
3. He’s controlling
Ele quer saber onde está sempre a ser. Ele escolhe os teus amigos por ti e decide com quem podes andar.
He even doesn’t allow you to visit your family too often or he wants you to spend more time with his family than with your own.
If he doesn’t like a cousin or maybe even a sibling of yours, he’ll restrict you from hanging out with them too.
4. Ele desrespeita-o
Parece distraído quando falam. Quebra frequentemente as suas promessas e nunca pede desculpa por isso. Goza com algumas das suas escolhas ou com a sua aparência.
He disrespects you in so many ways, but if you do something like that to him only once, he’ll be offended and won’t speak with you for days.
5. Ele planeia todos os teus dias
Like we have already said, he is overly controlling and wants to know your every step. That’s why he makes your daily schedules.
He wants to be sure that you won’t do something he doesn’t like, so he’s taken it upon himself to carefully plan your every day.
6. Ele faz tantas coisas por ti sem sequer pedires
He treats you as his property. He thinks that just because you’re his girlfriend, he has the right to make decisions for you. Even seemingly unimportant things, like for example, ordering food in restaurants.
7. He doesn’t want to compromise
Se ele nunca é disposto a comprometer-se em qualquer coisa, isso significa que ele não respeita os seus limites.
He just loves to get what he wants. I mean, who doesn’t, right?
Mas, se quisermos ter uma relação saudável, ambos os parceiros devem ser compreensivos e estar dispostos a fazer cedências.
8. Ele é o Sr. Sabe Tudo
You aren’t allowed to voice your opinion because he is the one who always knows things best. He is always right and you can never contradict him.
9. Ele é cheio de si
Está sempre a falar de si próprio. Adora gabar-se de si próprio em todas as oportunidades que tem. It’s like he’s addicted to bragging.
He wants to be in the spotlight. You have to listen to him and look him in the eyes all the time because he’ll get angry if he sees that he didn’t manage to get your undivided attention.
10. Ele quer que te justifiques a ti próprio
He’s just so controlling and you can’t do anything without his knowledge.
Moreover, he likes to ask you questions and pretend that he is jealous of some of your friends or colleagues, just so you’ll start justifying yourself.
You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone, no matter how much you love someone. If that person honestly loves you, you won’t need to justify yourself, because they believe you.
