14 señales de advertencia de los hombres pegajosos (y cómo evitarlas)
Same as guys who don’t like mujeres pegajosas, we don’t like clingy men.
Saber qué buscar en su comportamiento puede ayudarte a evitarlos antes de que las cosas se pongan feas. Y créeme, pueden complicarse de verdad.
Los hombres pegajosos, al principio, parecen muy monos y atentos, pero con el tiempo se vuelven molestos.
A veces incluso puede llegar a ser peligroso, una vez que se enfrentan al rechazo y se ponen en modo acosador.
Here are the biggest warning signs that you’re dealing with a clingy man in order for you to avoid him more easily.
Quiere saber TODO sobre ti.
It’s natural to want to get to know someone we’re interested in but there are certain things that are not meant for the first dates or the early stages of a relationship, things that require trust and time.
Esto incluye parejas románticas pasadas, nuestra historia o nuestros miedos y recuerdos más profundos.
Pero seguirá haciendo preguntas, por mucho que intentes cambiar de tema o descartarlas.
He just NEEDS to know everything about you, because you’re so ‘special’ to him.
Te manda un mensaje en cuanto le das tu número
Todos sabemos que existe una norma no escrita de no enviar un mensaje a alguien en el momento en que nos dan su número, para no parecer necesitado o pegajoso. Hay que mantener la calma.
But he’s completely oblivious to that rule or the way he may come across.
Te envía mensajes en cuanto le das tu número y los mensajes siguen llegando.
He’s blowing up your phone—all the time
He has no problem with sending multiple unanswered texts and the only time he’s not blowing up your phone is the time you spend together. But the moment you separate, the blowing up continues.
He wants to know what you’re doing all the time
It seems like you’re the only thing that’s on his mind. It feels like you’re his hobby, job and biggest passion, he just needs to know where you are and what you’re doing.
He will bomb you with questions all throughout the day: “How are you feeling? What you’re doing now? Is it hard? When will you finish?” It’s obvious that this guy is not just clingy, he’s a boundary pusherTambién.
Sus amigos son básicamente inexistentes
He always has time for you and it seems like he has no other friends. He mentions his co-workers from time to time and some old childhood friends, but it feels like you’re the only person in his life.
Cuando un chico es atentoSi no, te dedicará tiempo, pero te hará saber que hay otras personas en su vida.
Sus amigos y su familia seguirán siendo sus prioridades, incluso cuando lo hagáis oficial. Pero un chico pegajoso los ignorará en cuanto tenga tu atención.
He’s always texting first
There’s nothing wrong with texting first, but sometimes you should be chased instead of being the chaser all the time.
But he has no problem in texting first, it’s almost as if he’s afraid that you won’t text him unless he does it first.
Sin intereses propios
This one truly is a red flag in the beginnings of a relationship, no matter what kind of man you’re dealing with.
Estar con un hombre que no tiene intereses propios significa que tú te conviertes en su único interés, lo que conduce a una relación posesiva y controladora.
If you catch yourself babbling on and on about things you enjoy doing, while he just says that he’s not really interested in anything but his work, it’s time to pay attention to other signs in his behavior.
He’s already planning on multiple dates—when you only just had one
He is in such a rush, so excited about being with you, that he already planned your next dates, while you’re not even sure if he’s the one you should’ve gone with on a first one.
Clingy men tend to rush things, whether it’s when being intimate, dating or becoming exclusive. In his mind, you’re everything he needs.
He’s all over your social media
Te siguió en todas tus cuentas de redes sociales el mismo día que te conoció.
Se metió tanto en tu feed que le gustaron fotos que incluso olvidaste que estaban ahí.
You know that no matter what you publish, he’ll text you in no time and comment on your post. It’s like you’ve got yourself your own creepy stalker fan.
Se hizo amigo de todos tus amigos de inmediato
Si esto no es una bandera roja, then I don’t know what is. Most men will add your friends on social media only once you’re in a serious committed relationship and not even then will all of them do it. This is just a huge sign that he’s way beyond clingy.
Necesita que le tranquilicen constantemente
No matter what it is, he needs to hear you say it hundreds of times. He needs to know that he’s not boring to you, that you still care about him, that you still want to go on a date with him.
Te necesita, no para aumentar su ego, sino para construirlo desde cero.
He’s perfectly fine with being one of the girls
Hay días en los que necesitamos pasar tiempo a solas, días en los que necesitamos pasar tiempo con nuestra pareja y días en los que necesitamos pasar tiempo con nuestras hijas.
We need that time to let go of all of the negativity, to enjoy ourselves and celebrate the fact that we’re amazing friends.
Pero si no tiene ningún problema en fastidiarte esa noche, cuando prácticamente se invita a sí mismo a estar contigo, te has metido en un lío.
Te hará sentir mal por no haberle invitado contigo, para que al final cedas y dejes que te arruine la noche.
You can tell he’s holding back his opinion
When you’re discussing certain issues or hypothetical situations, you can tell that he’s holding back his opinion, that he’s waiting for you to speak your mind, so he can agree with whatever you said.
It’s not because he has no opinions of his own, it’s because he wants to show you that you two are a perfect match, he wants to keep you around for as long as he can.
He wants to be exclusive—ike, now
Regardless of the fact that you two just met each other, he’s ready to be exclusive and tries to convince you into thinking that you’re perfectly suited.
Un hombre desesperado necesita a una mujer a su lado y hará lo que sea para mantenerla allí.
If you feel like you’re trapped and things are moving too fast, don’t hesitate to leave such a relationship. It won’t get any better, trust me.
