14 Sinais precoces de que ele não é a pessoa certa para si
Ele nunca inicia nada
Ao contrário de um verdadeiro cavalheiro, ele deixa-te fazer todo o trabalho pesado. Tens de fazer um esforço, enquanto ele nem sequer levanta o dedo mindinho.
Tu inicias a conversa nove em cada dez vezes. Tu combinas encontros. Planeiam os vossos fins-de-semana. Já reparaste que estás a fazer muita coisa e vocês ainda agora começaram?
Of course, it’s OK to initiate a conversation and plan things but if you are the only one doing it and he just goes with the flow, he is just playing the field and not so into you.
Se fosse, esforçar-se-ia, faria a sua parte.
He has, “A lot on his plate,” right now
The famous, “I am so freaking busy,” excuses. They probably make you want to roll your eyes every time you hear them but you play along, you let it slide, even though deep down you know nobody is that busy.
Look at it from your own perspective—you are never too busy for the people you care about. You make time, no matter how little it may seem, you do your best. That’s why it shouldn’t be a problem for him to make time for you if he cares.
If he is, “Super busy,” all the time in the beginning, just imagine how “Busy,” he will be in the future.
Evita encontrar-se consigo em público
If your encounters have limitations like only at night, in the middle of the night, only his place or yours, only some remote places (where there’s only a small risk of bumping into somebody either of you knows), he is up to no good.
Há alguns cenários prováveis. O primeiro é que ele só está nisto pelo sexo, o segundo é que és o seu plano de reserva e a última é que és uma miúda de programa sem o saberes.
Ele ignora todas as coisas importantes sobre si
He doesn’t respect your religious views or any of your other beliefs. He doesn’t respect your heritage or what you stand for.
He doesn’t have to be the same as you but he has to respect who you are and where you come from, that’s not something that should be ignored.
Ele não está disposto a ceder um pouco para a fazer feliz
He sees no place for compromise and adjustment, he only cares about his well-being. So, he would never go out to lunch with your relatives, stay home when you are feeling down, watch a movie he doesn’t like and so on.
Those ‘little big’ things that show that he is willing to do something that is unlike him are the ones that show real affection and emotions and he is lacking them.
Ele evita encontrar-se com os seus amigos
Ou apresentá-la aos dele, já agora. Conhecer amigos é importante, as suas opiniões contam, especialmente no início da relação. Eles são uma parte integrante da sua vida.
Mas, de alguma forma, ele não aproveita a oportunidade de conhecer os seus amigos e nem sequer lhe passa pela cabeça apresentar-lhe os dele.
He is not in it for the long haul so he isn’t concerned with you guys making spots in each other’s life.
Ele está a tentar mudar-te
He hasn’t even made an effort to get to know you properly but he already sees some faults in your behavior.
He stresses the things you should be doing differently and nothing you do ever seems right. He shouldn’t be making you this self-conscious.
Este é um sinal de alerta importante de um psicopata emocional que nunca deves ignorar. Ele não tem o direito de fazer isso e o facto de querer mudar-te tem mais a ver com ele do que contigo.
When you are in love you don’t see flaws that early on, you only concentrate on the good stuff. On the other hand, he is not perfect either and you are probably looking at him as though he is. If he is making you feel like you have to change right at the beginning, imagine how much worse things will get as the relationship progresses.
O seu comportamento é imaturo
Ele está a jogar quente e frio. Dá-nos toda a atenção e depois afasta-se. Num minuto está lá e no outro não está em lado nenhum.
Espera muito tempo antes de responder às mensagens. Ele tem um olhar perdido quando outras raparigas estão por perto e gosta de a ver com ciúmes.
He is not ready for a relationship or any sort of commitment and he isn’t going to change any time soon.
Ele normalmente exagera
He always makes a mountain out of a molehill. He has this urge to always be right and prove you wrong, like it’s some kind of competition he needs to win.
He forgets it’s not the problems, arguments and small fights that matter.
It’s never about winning or losing, it’s about the two of you working together to solve some problem or agreeing to disagree. If he puts these petty wins above you, he is not the one for you.
It’s still the honeymoon phase of a relationship and you are more sad than happy
Estes deveriam ser os teus dias mais felizes. É a altura em que devia estar nas nuvens e a sonhar acordada e, em vez disso, passa os dias à espera que ele lhe envie uma mensagem, que arranje tempo, e fica preocupada, perturbada e triste.
You don’t know where you stand with him and it’s driving you crazy. Is this really the honeymoon phase or warning signs telling you to get out?
Tu não és tu quando estás com ele
Diz coisas que são completamente fora do seu carácter. Sente-se nervoso a toda a hora. De repente, finge gostar de coisas que odeia do fundo do coração.
As relações provocam inevitavelmente mudanças, queremos ser melhores, fazer melhor e estamos inspirados e motivados, mas devem nunca mudes a tua essência.
When you are with the right man, you are relaxed, comfortable and the best version of yourself and not somebody you yourself don’t recognize.
Ele tem problemas com a ex
His ex is very much a part of your relationship. He might not be over her yet so he keeps comparing you with her, bringing her up in random conversations or he’s still in touch with her.
Her presence influences your relationship in a negative way and you don’t know if he really is ready to move on.
Be careful about this one, and remember you deserve so much more than being somebody’s rebound.
Arranja desculpas para o seu mau comportamento tão cedo
“He doesn’t care much about labels but he cares about me,” or, “He is not into texting so we rarely talk,” or, “He is too busy with work to spend time with me,” or, “He needs more time, that’s all.”
E continua a repetir frases semelhantes a estas, sabendo muito bem que está apenas a inventar desculpas.
He is not living up to your expectations, he isn’t putting in any effort, he has one foot out of the door, ele não é o único para si e provavelmente está demasiado apaixonado para ver as coisas com clareza.
He only wants you when it’s all rosy
You can’t always be at your best. You are going to have bad days and that’s inevitable. Life happens, things go badly. But he doesn’t want to be around you when you are sad, upset or tired.
He wants to be around you only when everything is rosy and you are smiling. This just tells you that he doesn’t care about your feelings, that he is incapable of empathy or providing comfort.
Ele não está presente quando mais precisamos dele. Ele não é a pessoa que estará lá no melhor e no pior. Ele não é a tua pessoa para sempre.
