10 sinais seguros de que ele quer algo sério

Relationships are hard. And I mean, really hard. You are doing your best, trying to find a way to make it work, but sometimes, regardless of how hard we try, it just doesn’t work out: he is not interested in a relationship; he is a player; there is no chemistry.

There are countless reasons, but let’s face it girls—almost relationships and commitment phobes are the worst of them all.

Fazem-nos sentir como a mulher mais sortuda do mundo e desaparecem quando as coisas se tornam sérias.

It’s not because something is wrong with us; it’s because they are not ready to commit.

E deixa-nos a pensar se todos os homens são iguais; deixa-nos a pensar se não seremos nós os não amáveis.

E fazer alguém sentem que não são amáveis é a pior coisa que se pode fazer a uma pessoa. Acredita em mim, eu saberia.

We have all found ourselves stuck in front of the wall called ‘what the hell do I do now?’.

It’s the point of a relationship where you are no longer dating casually, but you’re still not sure if he is interested in getting serious.

E o namoro já é difícil por si só, sem toda esta dúvida sobre se somos ou não o par ideal.

Por isso, se não está preparada para essa conversão séria e embaraçosa e para a ajudar com este problema, reunimos sinais de que ele quer algo sério.

If you don’t find any of these, feel free to walk away. No one deserves your time, unless they are willing to give you theirs.

Ele arranja tempo para si

And I don’t mean that kind of time where he comes to you late at night to have some action or that kind of time where you have to let him know days in advance, so he can fit it in his schedule.

Ele muda os seus planos para si porque gosta verdadeiramente de passar tempo consigo.

Ele está lá fora com os amigos e repara que não te estás a sentir bem e, quando dás por ti, ele está mesmo ali ao teu lado, a fazer-te companhia até melhorares.

Ele cancela os seus planos já feitos, para poder passar a noite consigo. E continua a respeitar o seu tempo a sós e os seus limites.

O fase de lua de mel is amazing, we all know it. But even when it is over, he is still there—making plans and going out of his way to make you happy.

This is a sure sign he wants something serious with you because he already made you a part of his life even if he didn’t say it to you. Sometimes, actions can tell so much more than words do.

Ele mostra-te

Em todo o lado e para toda a gente. Os jogadores vão exibi-lo em restaurantes chiques e no bar, mas nunca o levarão a sair com os amigos.

Ou, então, passarão todo o tempo em casa consigo, porque há uma grande possibilidade de ele ter outros engates.

Mas o homem que vê um futuro consigo nunca a esconderá. Levá-la-á para todo o lado porque está verdadeiramente orgulhoso e feliz por tê-la ao seu lado.

Ele apresentá-la-á aos seus amigos e familiares ou continuará a gabar-se de si e a insistir que eles estão ansiosos por conhecê-la.

That’s a good sign he is up for a long-term relationship and not just a enganar-vos.

If introducing you to his family is something he can’t wait to do, there is no reason for you to worry anymore about him being serious.

Ele leva-te aos seus lugares favoritos

Todos nós temos lugares favoritos onde vamos quando nos apetece contemplar e pensar, lugares onde vamos quando estamos tristes e lugares onde vamos quando queremos divertir-nos.

Sharing those places with someone new in our lives is like sharing something deeply personal; it’s like taking them to our childhood home. You don’t take just everyone there.

É preciso ter a certeza de que a pessoa vai estar presente a longo prazo e que é realmente o tipo de pessoa com quem queremos partilhar a nossa casa.

If he took you to his favorite bar, appreciate the gesture, because it’s kind of like letting you into his heart.

Ele sentiu-se suficientemente à vontade consigo para partilhar algo tão íntimo.

And even if his favorite bar isn’t the type of place you would go to, trust me: his love for it and enthusiasm for bringing you there will make you see it in a whole new way.

Já não será o bar da esquina; será um lugar só para vocês os dois. Algo como o vosso próprio pedaço de céu.

Mostra iniciativa

Quer se trate de planear encontros ou de comunicar, ele não tem qualquer problema em ser o iniciador.

You regularly wake up to the ‘good morning’ texts and there is no way you can go to sleep if he doesn’t send you ‘good night’.

Pode parecer que ele o faz a toda a gente e que está apenas a ser educado, mas acredite: ele está a fazê-lo porque quer mostrar-lhe que se preocupa consigo.

No man will text multiple times without an answer if he isn’t seriously hooked up to you.

And with all of these ghosting trends, he makes sure that you don’t have to worry about him disappearing.

Ele faz com que nos sintamos desejados e especiais, porque realmente o somos.

E quando se trata de encontros, ele consegue sempre surpreender-nos. Se não lhe apetecer sair, ele aparece em sua casa com gelado, vinho e uma lista de filmes para ver.

Se lhe disseres que queres ir ao cinema, ele surpreende-te com os bilhetes.

It’s because he listens to you when you are talking and even when what you are saying seems like nonsense, he will still remember it.

Ele partilha o seu passado consigo

Let’s be honest here, no one feels like talking about their past with just anyone.

Sim, falamos de memórias do liceu, de paixonetas e de algumas coisas mundanas, mas quando o assunto se torna profundo, mantemos a boca fechada até conhecermos melhor a outra pessoa.

And sometimes, not even then do we decide to open up because they show us that they’re not really worthy of sharing.

Mas se ele partilhar o seu passado consigo, e refiro-me ao passado dos seus amantes, aos seus medos e aos seus maiores sonhos, então ele está a falar muito a sério sobre si.

Men don’t usually open up, but if he opened up to you, that’s the only sign you really need.

Unless he did it like on the first date because that is a whole new level of seriousness. I’m thinking more like seriously messed up.

You don’t really want that kind of man who is too pushy and too eager about getting serious.

Amor e compromisso leva tempo e um pouco mais do que apenas um encontro.

Perde-se a noção do tempo quando estão juntos

Quer esteja num restaurante chique, a fazer caminhadas ou simplesmente a relaxar em casa, o tempo passa a correr.

You genuinely enjoy each other’s company and you make memories every step of the way.

A conversa flui e não há silêncios embaraçosos, porque até gostamos do silêncio quando o partilhamos.

He makes it all look so easy because he is truly interested in everything you have to say—including your opinions, your memories and fears.

He is all ears when you are talking and it seems like it’s all he ever wanted to do.

Ele quer saber mais sobre si e não apenas como correu o seu dia. Ele quer conhecê-la mais profundamente e abrir-se com ele é como falar sobre o tempo.

And he has no problem with opening up to you, too. This is a sign that spending time with you is something he wants to do for a longer run and he wouldn’t mind if it ends up being a lifelong commitment.

Tem-no em consideração quando toma decisões

Se reconheceu este sinal, parabéns! Encontrou um homem que a ama e que a quer manter por perto.

Ele terá sempre em consideração os seus desejos e necessidades quando fizer planos, porque também quer que seja feliz.

Even if it’s deciding when to take days off, he will ask you about it, because he wants to spend them with you.

It’s just another way of him showing how much he cares about you and how much he is actually serious about being with you.

Os homens que não estão lá para um longo prazo nunca a terão em consideração, porque só se preocupam com eles próprios.

They will do as they please and just let you know what they decided. And, sometimes, they won’t even do that.

That’s definitely not the type of man you want to have in your life because no matter how much you love them and how hard you try, they will never change.

São verdadeiras narcisistas who only care about themselves. He will convince you otherwise and make you believe that he is truly there for you, but if you failed to find any of the signs from this list, I’m afraid that he’s only there for himself.

Pede frequentemente a sua opinião e respeita-a

The foundation of the strongest relationships is respect. It’s the mutual admiration and trust we have in each other and without it, it’s hard for a relationship to work out.

If he asks for your opinion quite often and actually listens to what you have to say, you have his respect and it’s a great sign of you two making it together.

And if he changes his own opinion because of yours, it’s even better.

Significa que ele não é um egocêntrico que acredita que é o melhor que existe.

It means that he respects your knowledge and isn’t afraid to admit that he is not the smartest person on the planet.

Let’s be real girls, we have all met someone like that. But if your man is truly amazed with your passions and the way you think, ele está apaixonado por ti verdadeira, louca e profundamente.

And I’m not talking just about your body; I’m talking about the whole package here. Body, heart AND mind.

Não tem qualquer problema em falar sobre o futuro

Uma boa maneira de saber o que raio se passa na cabeça dele é perguntar-lhe sobre o futuro, e não sobre o futuro da vossa relação.

Ask him about his plans for work, about holidays and stuff like that. If he’s already counted you in those plans, you don’t have to look any further for signs of getting serious. He already is.

And it’s truly amazing if you don’t have to ask him about the future. If he talks about it with you and makes plans for a longer run, he already made up his mind.

To him, it’s no longer casual dating and it’s not questionable if he is going to stay or not.

He is sure of his feelings and all he does now is make sure you’re on the same page with him. It’s making you feel loved and safe in the relationship.

‘YOU’ and ‘I’ became ‘WE’

He no longer talks about ‘his’ wishes and needs and there is no ‘I’. It’s ‘we’ and you can actually feel he means it.

He already sees you as one because that’s what love is truly about. You are two individuals who are pieces of art for themselves, but together you make one hell of a masterpiece.

Together you create something so much more than just two people being together, and that’s something he already feels and makes sure you feel it too.