15 características que definem uma namorada pegajosa (e como se livrar delas)

When people are in love, they often get clingy, especially girls. Even though there’s a thin line between love and clinginess, your significant other won’t understand that too well.

So, when a girl starts to act like she needs her guy to be with her all the time, he’ll probably run and won’t look back, scared off by her neediness, unaware that this is not the real her; it’s just her insecurity manifesting itself in a faulty way. Ele rejeitar-te-á mesmo que goste de ti. 

Maybe you’ve also foi pegajoso nas suas relações anteriores sem sequer saberem quanto tempo durou, e talvez por isso estivessem todos condenados.

Os vossos namorados tiveram muito pouco espaço pessoal, o que é uma daquelas pequenas coisas que significam muito a longo prazo.

Uma namorada pegajosa tem muito medo da ideia de uma separação, e é por isso que fica tão ciumenta das amigas dele e começa a enviar-lhe mensagens de texto incessantemente e um pouco demais quando se sente ameaçada por elas.

Possessiveness is one of the key traits of a clingy girlfriend and the less time he dedicates to her, the more she’s going to start badgering him with text messages and give him zero to no alone time.

A primeira vez que ele começa a notar os pequenos sinais de apego, em vez de a deixar de lado, a melhor ideia é ter uma conversa franca com a sua rapariga.

This is rarely something that can’t be fixed, so he should give her some time and show her his patience.

If this is a new relationship, he should give her a chance to show him that she does have her interests and isn’t as needy as she may be presenting herself.

He needs to trust the vibe she gave out when he first met her, and remind himself of how amazingly cool she is when her low self-esteem isn’t getting the best of her.

She may seem like a clinger now, but that’s only because she cares so much.

And clingy girlfriends are nothing if not caring and compassionate. Needy girls can end up being guys’ best friends and lovers all in one, once seen through their insecurity.

Guys, hold onto your girls and help them get better. And girls, if you find yourselves in this, just know that this is just a small part of you and it’s easily fixed – read and implement these tips to get to a healthy place and be the best girlfriend your man could ever wish for.

15 características das namoradas pegajosas:

She doesn’t give him enough space

This is something most guys are terrified of. They simply hate it when their girlfriend doesn’t leave them any alone time that they badly need.

They hate it when she’s always there when they’re talking on the phone, texting their friends, and talking to people on the street.

You know, nobody likes to be suffocated with love and attention because that’s not natural.

So even if she loves her man and she wants to spend some time with him, it’s important to remember that maybe he needs some time for himself just to organize his thoughts.

Trust me, he’ll be so thankful for that and the relationship will be healthy and stable.

Toda a gente precisa de um pouco de espaço pessoal e proporcionar isso a um homem ajudará a relação a florescer.

She talks even when he’s not interested

The worst thing for a man is a girl who talks for hours over the phone about things that he’s not interested in.

Isto pode enlouquecer qualquer homem, por isso é melhor que as chamadas telefónicas sejam curtas e informativas.

She can ask her man how his day was or just check up on him, but she should try to avoid a long conversation, especially if she’ll be the only one talking.

Imaginem como seria ter um parceiro que só falasse de si próprio.

It would suck, right? That’s how a man feels around a clingy girlfriend every day.

Falar com os melhores amigos sobre todas as coisas relacionadas com raparigas e mexericos é a melhor maneira de o fazer, mantendo sempre as coisas relacionadas com a relação para o parceiro.

She doesn’t have her own life and hates him for having his own

Uma rapariga assim quer que o seu homem se dedique a ela 24 horas por dia, mas isso é impossível.

Quero dizer, numa relação normal e saudável, ambos os parceiros devem ter a sua vida privada com os seus amigos e família e depois desfrutar da sua vida em conjunto quando chegar a altura certa para isso.

If you’re the type of girl who hates on her man for going out and having some fun, you can be sure that you’re being clingy.

Por isso, para evitar que o seu homem sinta pena de si, saia e divirta-se um pouco. Só temos uma vida, por isso aproveite-a enquanto pode.

P.S. Girls who have a lot of fun on their own are very attractive to men! Show him you’ve got a full life that you live like there’s no tomorrow and I promise you he’ll be more drawn to you than ever. Happy girls are the sexiest!

She’s insecure when hot girls are next to her man

Por alguma razão, uma rapariga assim pensa que todas as outras raparigas são muito melhores do que ela e que o seu namorado a deixará se encontrar uma rapariga mais divertida e atraente do que ela.

This is the worst thing that can happen to a girl in a relationship because by thinking like this, she’ll never make any progress with her self-esteem.

To feel good in your skin, you should try to flirt with some good-looking guys when your man isn’t around.

After you do that, you will feel better and desirable and you won’t be so clingy because you will realize that there are more cute guys out there, other than your man.

And yes, you will start to gain a different outlook on life. For as long as you just look and don’t touch, it’ll boost your confidence and help you get your mojo back!

She doesn’t like it when her man spends time with his friends

Este é o seu pesadelo, literalmente. Ela pensa que, ao fazer isto, o seu homem lhe vai ser infiel porque os amigos homens dele vão obrigá-lo a atirar-se a outra rapariga.

That’s why she wants him only for herself, because when he is with her he will do everything that she wants.

But you need to know that this is not a good foundation for a healthy relationship – you need to change something if you want to keep your man close.

Please bear in mind that you can’t make him love you if he doesn’t feel it and that you will just make things worse if you try and keep him by force.

No final, se os dois estavam destinados a ficar juntos, encontrarão o vosso caminho de volta.

Ela é extremamente desconfiada

She is suspicious of every girl who enters her man’s life. Well, you know what?

Quanto mais desconfiada for, mais o seu homem sentirá isso e desejará terminar a relação convosco.

If he wants to have an affair, you won’t be able to forbid him from doing so. Only his love for you can stop him, so don’t sweat the small stuff.

Ao fazê-lo, está a prejudicar-se a si próprio e a concentrar-se nas coisas más em vez das boas.

Try to relax – if one man doesn’t respect you and love you, it means that he isn’t the right one for you.

Por isso, o que é preciso fazer é deixar o errado ir embora para que o certo tome o seu lugar. E acredite em mim, esta atitude vai compensar a longo prazo.

It may seem substantially difficult, but with time, you’ll see that it was the best decision you could’ve made.

Ela quer estar sempre em contacto

Esta é uma das características mais evidentes (e irritantes) de qualquer namorada pegajosa.

She will constantly call her man to check up on him and ask him what he’s doing. She does this to find out if he is in the company of any girls.

This may flatter him at the beginning of the relationship when everything’s still spicy and nice, but as time passes, he’ll become more and more irritated by her frequent calls.

So, to keep him interested and into you as much as possible, don’t check up on him every half an hour.

Make him miss you by having super fun with your own friends. It’ll only be a matter of time before he looks for you just like you were looking for him.

And once he’s the one pursuing you, it’ll be clear how clinginess is never the answer.

Live your life, have your fun, and give him the chance to miss you. That’s your solution and a way to keep him hooked for a long time.

She thinks her partner doesn’t love her as much as she loves him

Isto acontece quando uma rapariga é pegajosa e obcecada por um certo homem da sua vida.

Only in this state of mind will she think that her man doesn’t love her as much as she loves him.

Ela nunca vê as coisas boas, só as más, e com isso começa a criar algumas ideias falsas e pouco saudáveis sobre a sua vida amorosa.

On the other hand, if you really see that your man is neglecting you and that he is canceling your dates at the last minute just so he can go out with his friends, you should know that’s not the way a girl should be treated.

Em qualquer dos casos, o melhor seria sentar-se e falar abertamente com ele.

Maybe he’s keeping some feelings to himself so that if you say something first, he will find it easier to open up to you.

If this method doesn’t work, just finish your glass of wine and leave as he is not the one who deserves you.

Ela quer que ele se comprometa o mais rapidamente possível

When a girl is clingy and needy, she’ll want her man just to herself. That’s why she’ll insist on getting married even if she’s not quite sure that she’s really ready for it.

She thinks that she will never find a man who’ll love her like her partner and therefore has to use all means necessary to make him commit to her.

She’ll do crazy things and believe that’s the right way to win a guy over.

Mas a verdade é que precisamos de ouvir o nosso coração quando se trata de amor e não exagerar com o bombardeamento de amor.

Nenhum homem gosta disso e, em vez de o fazer ficar, isso só o vai afastar de si.

Guys often get cold feet when confronted with situations like this, so don’t think that you will get him if you keep on doing all these things.

Let it happen organically, otherwise, it’s doomed to fail at some point.

She tells everyone on social media that she’s met her soulmate

Ok, muitas raparigas publicam frequentemente fotografias com os seus namorados e coisas do género, mas uma namorada pegajosa vai um passo mais além.

She posts photos of her man saying that he’s the best thing that has ever happened to her and she’d be lost without him.

She says that to her friends on social media and many of them think she’s a pain in the ass because of it.

Other people also have their loved ones, but they don’t talk about them 24/7 on Facebook. To her, though, it doesn’t matter. She needs to post it in order to prove to herself that it’s real.

Ela adora viver na sua bolha de amor perfeita, onde tem o seu príncipe encantado e tudo é perfeito.

She doesn’t actually live in reality and that might be the reason for her strange behavior.

Mas isto não é isento de correção. Podem amar-se em privado e será igualmente fantástico. Quanto menos as pessoas souberem, mais saudável será a vossa relação.

Ela é obcecada pelo seu parceiro

She believes that the man she’s met is her perfect match and she will never find someone like that ever again. That’s why she becomes so obsessed with him.

She works hard on keeping him close, and even if her partner doesn’t feel good in that relationship, she tries to convince him to stay because she can make him happy.

She’s pretty obsessed with him, and believes that she’d fall apart if he had to leave.

E se outra mulher o seduzisse, todo o seu mundo se desmoronaria.

That’s why she does things that she never thought she’d do, and in so doing, loses her self-esteem.

Uma rapariga como esta tem realmente muito para oferecer, mas deixa que o seu amor a cegue e dá a impressão de estar desesperada.

Once you see that your world is just as amazing without him, will you understand that a guy isn’t the center of your universe. He has become an integral part of your world, but he’s never irreplaceable. There’s plenty more fish in the sea.

Tem uma baixa autoestima

One of the reasons a girl becomes clingy can be her low self-esteem. If she thinks that she’s not worthy or good enough, she’ll do whatever it takes to prove the opposite.

She’ll even do all the crazy things she thought she’d never try. And all for the wrong reasons.

She doesn’t believe in herself. She doesn’t believe she is beautiful.

Ela pensa que pode ser substituída por alguém melhor do que ela, e esse sentimento está a comê-la viva.

But if she had just a little more faith in herself, perhaps she wouldn’t feel this way. If she had more courage to stand up and fight for herself, she wouldn’t go through all this turmoil.

E se fores uma rapariga assim, lembra-te de que tudo pode mudar na tua vida se mudares as tuas prioridades e a tua perspetiva de vida. Nada é permanente. Podes facilmente encontrar o teu caminho de volta.

A sua baixa autoestima pode ser o resultado das pessoas que tem à sua volta.

Make sure those are good, kind people and you’ll start noticing small yet significant changes.

Está sempre a discutir com ele

A clingy girl always fights with her partner because she doesn’t like it if he pays attention to anyone but her.

She wants to be in the spotlight all the time, and if she doesn’t get it, she gets pissed off.

The catch is that she has put a lot of effort into her relationship, and if it’s not reciprocated, she’s bound to feel disappointed.

She’s under the impression that her partner will leave her and easily get bored of her.

Ela inventa o pior cenário possível na sua mente e nunca desiste dos seus pensamentos negativos. E tenho de admitir que ser uma rapariga assim não é nada fácil.

Ela tem de travar as suas batalhas interiores e só raras pessoas a conseguem compreender.

But she also needs to know that life is in front of her and that she shouldn’t sweat the small stuff.

She’s not calm when he’s not around

A clingy girlfriend isn’t able to be calm if her partner’s not there. She always thinks of the worst possible scenarios about why he isn’t with her.

Every time he goes out with his friends, she thinks he’s cheating on her, which gets her so frustrated and sad. And the saddest part is that he genuinely meant no harm.

Ele só precisa de algum tempo sozinho para se concentrar em si próprio e nas suas amizades, mas ela tem planos diferentes para o seu tempo.

Isto pode realmente afetar uma relação, por isso, se tiver esta caraterística, tente acalmar-se um pouco.

If you smile at life, it will smile right back at you!Take it easy. You simply can’t force love to come into your life.

It will happen naturally if it’s meant to be. So let it happen and try to find some peace on your own.

Ela pensa que todas as outras raparigas são melhores do que ela

A girl like this believes that she’s not beautiful or good enough for her partner and that he’ll leave her as soon as he finds someone more attractive. But she couldn’t be more wrong – she just doesn’t see her full potential.

She’s an amazing and warm person, but unfortunately, in the age of modern dating, things like that don’t really matter that much to some guys anymore.

Don’t let your twisted beliefs make you doubt your beautiful qualities.

Not everyone is perfect; therefore, you shouldn’t aspire to be perfect either.

You are unique and that’s what the right guy will fall in love with once you meet him.

If it hasn’t happened thus far, it only means your guy is out there somewhere waiting for you.

As coisas boas vêm para aqueles que esperam. Tu és fantástica tal como és, por isso deixa que as pessoas certas vejam isso e te amem por isso.

Deixe a sua personalidade única brilhar e nunca mais se subestime.

You’re far too amazing and strong to let your low confidence weigh you down ever again.