Porque é que um homem te rejeita se gosta de ti e o que fazer em relação a isso

Provavelmente, a pior sensação do mundo é oferecer o nosso amor a alguém e vê-lo rejeitado num instante.

Porque é que um homem a rejeitaria se gosta de si? Even when we seemingly blame him, the truth is that we always feel we’re at fault.

Not knowing eats us away. Feelings of unworthiness arise, and we feel like we’re destined to be alone.

Porque é que ele a rejeitaria quando você tinha a certeza de que as coisas estavam a correr tão bem? Qual é a parte culpada? Como é que tudo correu mal tão depressa?

Well, I’m here to offer you empathy as well as show you all the possible reasons why a guy would reject you if ele gosta de si, and how rarely you’re at fault.

Porque é que um homem te rejeita se gosta de ti? 19 razões possíveis

You’re probably very confused now; not really sure why this guy won’t accept you. You feel like you’re not good enoughe estão a lutar com sentimentos de indignidade.

You’re thinking: ‘’There must be a good reason why he doesn’t want me.’’

E há sempre. Mas, muitas vezes, não desempenhamos qualquer papel nisso. Por vezes, o problema está noutro lado. It’s usually another girl or the guy himself.

It’s your job to recognize if it’s that or you. If it’s the former, there’s not much you can do about it, and if it’s the latter, you can always work on yourself (not to please the guy, but to be a better person!).

Stay with me, and let’s explore all the possible reasons why a guy doesn’t want a relationship with you!

1. Ele gosta de si mas tem medo de ser rejeitado

Guys aren’t as confident as they seem. If he has even the slightest doubt that you’re not really into him, it will discourage him from fazer um movimento.

And, you know how it is when doubt settles in your mind. It only increases with each passing second, and in the end, it manages to fully convince you that it’s telling the truth.

Então, porque é que um homem a rejeitaria se gosta de si? Bem, porque ele prefere adorar-te de longe a confessar o que sente e ser rejeitado. O medo da rejeição é muito mais forte do que o seu amor por si.

What’s the solution?

Bem, a razão da incerteza dele é, na verdade, os seus sinais contraditórios. Talvez começar a ser mais aberto sobre o que sente.

You don’t have to explicitly say ”Hey, you, I love you.”, but what you can do is show him your emotions in other ways.

You can be extra flirty, touch him more often while you’re talking, and make contacto visual prolongado. Or… you could actually say the words.

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2. Ele pensa que o seu amor está noutro lugar

Have you mentioned another guy in front of him without ever confirming that you’re single?

Have you talked about someone in such a loving way that it is sure to raise doubts in someone who fancies you? I sure made both of those mistakes…

Of course, it’s not a bad thing to have a male best friend you love so much that you want to shout it to the world.

However, if you’re telling it to the guy you’re romantically interested in, I hope you don’t fail to mention the actual nature of your relationship.

No fim de contas, estás aqui. Está a ler isto e quer fazer as coisas bem. E pode fazê-lo!

Openly admire your friends, but also make it crystal clear that you aren’t romantically involved with them. Isso facilitará muito as coisas, tanto para si como para a sua paixão.

He may finally gather the strength to ask you out now that he knows you’re unspoken for! As one of the citações inspiradoras de paixonetas diz:

“There is nothing better than when your crush has a crush on you, too.” – Unknown

Por isso, dê-lhe a oportunidade de exprimir o seu afeto por si.

3. Uma outra rapariga desperta o seu interesse

Já alguma vez se apaixonou por mais do que uma pessoa ao mesmo tempo? Se já, então sabe que nunca sente o mesmo por todas elas.

There’s probably one guy you find truly precious, and the rest are distractions because you can’t seem to have him…

Bem, os homens também o fazem! Ele pode gostar imenso de si, mas não o suficiente para começar uma relação consigo.

Ele sopra quente e frio the whole time because he’s still hoping for someone else.

Comprometer-se consigo significaria abandonar a mulher por quem tem verdadeiros sentimentos. In all truth, he seems like a nice guy, and you should be grateful that he’s not wasting your time!

You don’t want to have a partner who is secretly infatuated with someone else, now, do you?

4. He doesn’t want a girlfriend

Why would a guy reject you if he likes you? This one may be hard to believe, but maybe he just doesn’t want a relationship right now!

Talvez tenha acabado de arranjar um emprego e queira destacar-se nele, dando-lhe toda a sua atenção. Ou talvez tenha finalmente encontrado a motivação para estudar e, desta vez, tirar todos os As!

Por vezes, as pessoas têm mesmo outras coisas em que pensar. O amor pode não ser uma delas.

Besides, romantic love isn’t the only kind of love there is.

Ele pode ter embarcado em uma viagem de amor-próprio porque percebe que a cura o aproximará da paz de espírito que procura.

Isn’t it so much more fulfilling to seek a romantic partner when you’ve resolved all your major issues instead of projecting them onto others?

P.S. If you happen to have mental health issues, I know it’s not easy to just get rid of your problems and know that you don’t deserve any less love because of it!

5. He’s still recovering from his ex

Já alguma vez experimentou aquela sensação de êxtase ao sentir-se finalmente atraída pelo homem certo, mas tudo foi arruinado numa questão de minutos?

Maybe you followed him on Instagram and saw that he didn’t delete pictures with his ex-girlfriend on social media. Or, maybe he’s still posting sad love songs.

Even though you sense that he’s really attracted to you, there’s this odd distance between you; boundaries you don’t dare to cross.

You can’t help but wonder whether he’s genuinely attracted to you or just being nice.

Andar demasiado depressa não é uma opção. You just feel that he’s still in pain over a break-up with someone he genuinely cared about.

I hope you realise that the problem is not you… nor is it him. You just happened to meet at a very wrong time.

He still needs to heal, and I’m sure you don’t want to be anyone’s rebound girl. Appreciate your little experience, but move on.

Mereces alguém que só pense em ti.

6. Ele só quer sexo

I don’t like saying this, but it’s very possible that this guy only wants sex, and he’s only interested in mamas e rabo.

Quando ele viu que estavas pronto para uma relação séria e empenhada, decidiu fugir.

Claro que, se partilhasses os seus desejos, tudo bem, mas como estás aqui a ler isto, sei que tinhas expectativas maiores.

Allow yourself to grieve, but remember that you deserve more than he wanted to give you. Don’t accept anything less just for the sake of having SOMETHING.

You may be tempted to indulge him and to stay, hoping you’ll somehow change him and make him realize how great your relationship could be.

Embora as pessoas sejam capazes de mudar, nunca devemos deixar que alguém nos use dessa forma.

Que ele continue a ter a sua relações casuaise vais procurar algo que te satisfaça verdadeiramente.

You deserve to have someone you don’t have to try that hard for!

7. Ele não quer compromisso

It’s also quite possible that the guy actually wanted to offer you what you wished for, but in the end, he still decided to reject you.

A culpa não é tua.

Por vezes, uma pessoa pode convencer-se de todo o tipo de coisas, encontrando uma razão para o abandonar quando a única razão real é apenas o seu próprio MEDO.

Provavelmente, ficaram desiludidos com alguém e não querem voltar a passar por essa experiência, por isso estragam a relação antes mesmo de ela começar, porque pensam que um dia o fará de qualquer maneira.

They ruin it so you can’t.

As sad as this might be, if you keep trying for him, yet get no results, it’s time to face the facts.

He has issues to solve, and you are not his therapist… just a person in need of love. So, go to a place where you’ll actually get it.

8. Ele pensa mal de si próprio

Have you ever gone out with a guy for the first time and he showed clear signs of affection, yet you didn’t hear from him the next day… or any other day?

Why would a guy reject you if he likes you? It may actually not be about you at all…

Maybe you did show him how much you liked him on that one date, but he still managed to convince himself that it’s all in his imagination. Isto deve-se ao facto de ele ter uma autoestima muito baixa.

He may think he doesn’t look appealing enough to you, or that he made too many embarrassing jokes you laughed at out of pity.

There’s usually no way of knowing whether a guy has reached this level of insecurity. But… there is something you can do.

Gostaste do encontro, certo? Então, conta-lhe! Pode ser que ele fique confiante o suficiente para fazer as suas próprias confissões!

After all, it doesn’t always have to be the guy that makes the first move. If he’s so unsure of himself, help him out a little bit.

9. You’re too clingy, or too distant

There’s quite a possibility that a guy likes you, but doesn’t want you liking him so much that he feels suffocated.

Se quiser estar com ele 24 horas por dia, 7 dias por semana, e ficar ligeiramente irritada quando ele dedica o seu tempo a outra coisa, ele pode achar isso cansativo.

Let’s be honest. No guy wants to be numa relação com uma namorada pegajosa.

Know that it’s fine to want closeness with someone, but people also want to be by themselves sometimes. You should not only respect that, but try practicing it yourself.

Claro que, se for demasiado ignorado pelo homem, that’s not due to his need for some privacy, but due to not wanting to be with you. Faça a coisa certa por si próprio e deixe de tentar.

Another thing he might dislike is quite the opposite – you are too distant.

Maybe you like your alone time way too much (in his eyes) while he’s trying to get closer to you. What you have to decide here is this:

Do you want him in your life so much that you’re ready to slightly change your ways? Or, is he just some guy who’s not more valuable than your personal freedom?

10. You’re too eager to be with him

Sabes que os homens gostam de perseguir, não sabes? Well, that might also be a reason why he continues to reject you – you’re trying too hard.

Talvez ele goste mesmo da sua personalidade, mas ache que a sua ânsia é demasiado desanimadora para querer tentar algo mais.

Este tipo de homem só prospera quando finalmente a conquista depois de dias, ou mesmo meses, de tentativas.

What’s important to know in this case is this: He’s just not for you.

If you’re the type of person who is brave enough to actually act on how you feel, you ought to never lose that. I hope you realise what a gift that is.

So many people want your courage, so don’t be throwing it away only for some guy!

Porque, na verdade, se um homem gosta mesmo de ti por quem sois, ele apreciará cada um dos vossos avanços. O que importa para ele é VOCÊ, e NÃO a perseguição.

11. Parece demasiado arrogante

I don’t know about you, but I was shocked when people demonstrated to me how intimidating I can look at times…

When you unconsciously look too proud and angry with the world, even if you’re the prettiest and smartest woman there is, it is actually a common reason why a guy doesn’t approach you.

…Because you are unapproachable. Ou, pelo menos, parece, embora possa ser a pessoa mais doce que existe.

The only thing you can do to remedy this effect (because it’s okay to look however you look, no need to change that!) is to perhaps smile at him if he happens to be nearby.

Or, approach him yourself and show him that you’re not as he pictured you to be.

12. You don’t need him, and he hates it

Existe um conceito psicológico chamado instinto de herói. Essencialmente, um homem quer que precises dele para se sentir o teu herói.

Ele ofereceu-lhe boleia, mas você recusou? Insistiu em pagar o almoço desta vez?

Well, this kind of guy will not enjoy your objections to his acts of kindness because he NEEDS to feel important. It’s all about him.

He’s a narcissist que acredita que és uma coisinha frágil que tem de ser protegida por ele.

Por isso, se lhe faltarem as qualidades femininas de uma mulher, como a suavidade, a sensibilidade e a co-dependência, este homem irá para o outro lado sem mais nem menos.

He might like you a lot, but that’s not what truly motivates him to make a move!

13. O teu sucesso faz com que ele se sinta mal

Pode ser triste, mas muitos homens hoje em dia querem que tenhas menos sucesso para poderem ser teus protectores.

When you start talking about your achievements, all he can hear is: ”I failed”, or ”I can’t let a woman hold greater power than me.”

Of course, it’s not always necessarily sexist. It can be a personal issue of his, that is, jealousy.

If he really is sexist, then trust me, you don’t want that kind of guy. Wouldn’t you want someone who’s genuinely happy every time you tell him good news?

If it is jealousy, on the other hand, it’s a bit more complicated.

While it is awful to know someone envies you, they don’t necessarily want you to fail. They may just feel bad about not having what you have.

It’s not easy to accept that, but if it’s genuine love you both feel, you might want to talk it out. Be the one who’ll reach out to him and show him how worthy he is, too.

14. He’s bothered by your guy friends

Talvez tenha dificuldade em encontrar amigas e esteja sempre rodeada de homens. Bem, o rapaz de quem gosta pode não ficar muito satisfeito com isso.

This doesn’t mean that you should abandon your friends. Just try explaining to him the nature of your relationship. Or, even introduce them! Have mutual friends.

Be honest – if you have noticed that your guy is constantly around a lot of women, wouldn’t you think that he’s involved with one of them?

It’s important that you let him know about their position in your life, and while you’re at it, maybe even tell him what’s his. Talvez ele tenha coragem suficiente para se atirar oficialmente a si!

15. He doesn’t feel the connection

Has it ever happened to you that you truly enjoy someone’s company, but there’s still something missing…

Todos nós gostamos de pensar que temos um género, e talvez tenhamos. Mas, no fim de contas, o que importa não é a cor do cabelo da pessoa ou se ela partilha os seus interesses.

Por vezes, temos pouco em comum com uma pessoa, mas mesmo assim gostamos do que ela nos está a dizer. Talvez o seu homem se enquadre nesta categoria.

Então, porque é que um homem a rejeitaria se gosta de si?

This doesn’t mean that it’s your fault. You don’t have any flaws that you need to work on, or anything of the sort. You’re just not right for each other.

Encorajo-vos a deixá-lo ir , and start looking for a kindred spirit of your own! Although, truthfully, best connections happen when we’re not really looking for them.

16. He doesn’t think it’ll last

It could just so happen that a guy likes you very much, but there’s still something telling him that it’s not going anywhere.

Está sempre a dizer que nunca se quer casar ou que se vê como uma senhora idosa que vive sozinha com os seus gatos?

It’s quite possible that he mistakes your words as a sign you don’t want to be with him rather than a sign of you fearing to die alone.

You may think that by saying this, you’ll somehow motivate him to make a move, but in reality, you’ll only discourage him.

Instead, try opening up about your fear, or at least find another way to motivate him because this won’t work.

Sometimes, though, it’s not about what you say, but rather about how the guy sees things.

If he feels that he can’t see a future with you, know that it’s not on you to convince him otherwise. No entanto, se gosta mesmo dele, pode experimentar.

But, in all honesty, if he can’t see it for himself, he’s telling you all you need to know.

17. He’s immature

Este tipo de guy doesn’t have the emotional maturity para lidar com uma rapariga de quem ele gosta da forma que ela merece.

He may even be extremely rude, just like a little boy, when he has a crush on you. You don’t really need that.

Merece gentileza, e talvez alguma provocação bem intencionada, mas NUNCA rudeza.

You may try to solve this issue, but it’s really not your job to raise a guy. He has to be ready to accept his issues, and work on them himself.

You’re not meant to be a parental figure, but his support system.

18. He’s not that into you

I’m not telling you this gladly, but it’s very possible that a guy keeps rejecting you simply because he doesn’t like you.

Talvez tenha percebido mal as boas maneiras dele e tenha visto cada ato de bondade como um sinal claro dos seus sentimentos por si. Ou talvez tenha transformado tudo num sinal.

Acontece-nos a todos. Vemos o que queremos ver.

Se notar uma falta de afeto por parte dele, talvez seja altura de desistir dele. I know it’s hard, but it’s better than chasing a wild goose.

I’m sure there’s a guy out there who is more than happy to be with you. For now, be there for yourself.

Start practising self-care by abandoning the guy that doesn’t appreciate you.

19. You’re in the friendzone

This is something we dread more than anything else – wanting to be someone’s romantic partner while they desire nothing more than to be a good friend of yours.

Por vezes, isto é muito difícil de verificar, mas pode fazê-lo se prestar atenção. Um sinal revelador pode ser o facto de ele falar da sua excitante vida amorosa.

While this can also be a way to make you jealous, more often than not, it’s proof of a lack of interest.

A única forma de ter a certeza é confessar-lhe os seus sentimentos direta ou indiretamente, e ver como ele reage. Whatever happens, at least you’ll know for sure.

I know it’s frightening because this way, you have hope, but you realise that you are wasting your time waiting for something that may never come.

Ver também: Se ele gosta de mim, porque é que ainda namora online? 9 razões comuns

Como saber se um homem está a esconder que gosta de si?

Um dos maiores indicadores de que um rapaz gosta de si, mas está a escondê-lo, é o nervosismo, o cuidado com a aparência (antes de a ver), muitos toques subtis, etc.

Existem várias razões para os homens esconderem o seu afeto por si, e as mais frequentes são a timidez ou jogar duro para conseguir .

Namorar um rapaz tímido é uma experiência única, mas também um desafio. O mesmo se aplica aos homens que preferem o jogo do difícil.

If you aren’t sure as to whether a guy truly likes you or not, here are the most common signs that scream he totally digs you (but is hiding it):

• He teases you (all the time)

• Subtle touches are frequent (this is the biggest cue of atração física )

• You often catch him looking at you

• He tries to impress you

• Nervousness

- Ele faz-lhe elogios

• He’s protective over you

- Contacto visual prolongado

• He remembers everything about you

So, if the majority of these signs describe his behavior, then you know he’s trying to hide how much ele quer-te.

Como saber se um homem a está a rejeitar?

Irá notar a rejeição na sua linguagem corporal. Ele distanciar-se-á de si, tanto física como emocionalmente.

He won’t care about your advances nor will he appreciate time spent with you. It will feel like everything else is more important than you.

Have you ever been in his presence, but instead of being excited, he couldn’t wait to leave to do something else? Or, have you ever texted him, and he found the time to reply… ten hours later?

That’s your cue. Deixar de analisar o seu comportamento para encontrar uma réstia de esperança nele ignorar as suas mensagens means he doesn’t care about you as much as you wish he would.

Como fazer com que um homem se arrependa de a ter rejeitado?

Well, you can be the best version of yourself you can be, and make him see all he’s missing out on. If you’re leading your best life, he may want to be a part of it.

Além disso, se puder oferecer tudo o que ele procura numa mulher, he’ll miss you de certeza.

Têm o mesmo sentido de humor? Vai e faz outro gajo rir à frente dele.

Vêem os mesmos programas de televisão? Falem sobre isso à frente dele sem o incluir na conversa.

Será que ele gosta de uma mulher de mente aberta? Partilhe as suas crenças e ideais com o mundo!

No entanto, espero que reconheças a irrelevância de um tipo que precisa de tantas provas do teu valor.

Como é que se aceita a rejeição de um homem?

Bem, fica com uma dica e não te aproximes dele.

No entanto, saiba que a sua dor é válida e leve o tempo que precisar para a processar. Falar com alguém de confiança.

If you’re having a hard time opening up to your friends, go to a therapist. Either way, share your story.

Let your goal be trying to appreciate all the good he gave you without ever reflecting on it again. Feel the precious moments, but don’t relive them!

It’s exhausting to live your life filled with hatred. He doesn’t deserve it, and neither do you. Besides, not every guy will reject you, so don’t give up your hope just yet.

Em suma,

Ainda se pergunta por que razão um homem a rejeitaria se gosta de si ou porque é que ainda é solteiro? Saiba que raramente tem algo a ver consigo!

It’s mostly his own insecurities, or simply the fact that you two aren’t a match after all.

This doesn’t mean that either of you is to blame. Dependendo da situação, deve ser honesta sobre o que sente por ele ou deixá-lo para o seu bem-estar.

Don’t hold onto hatred, but rather accept things as they are, all the while appreciating the good memories.

Lembra-te que mereces mais do que te agarrares a alguém que não quer nada contigo.

Mas, se ele o fizer e, no entanto, tiver dificuldade em mostrar-te, ajuda-o fazendo-o ver o quanto estás apaixonada por ele! Eu acredito na tua coragem, e tu também devias acreditar!

P.S. Aqui estão as melhores maneiras de dizer a alguém o quanto gosta dele.