7 sinais de que ele está apenas a aproveitar-se da sua bondade
Ohh, Deus. Quantas vezes ignorei os sinais que me diziam que ele estava apenas a aproveitar-se de mim, confundindo as suas acções com amor.
I guess that most of us have been there: thinking that we have hit the jackpot relationship, just to realize that we have made a huge mistake by giving ourself away too much to someone who doesn’t appreciate us at all.
Sim, estas pessoas existem mesmo, os demónios que nos seduzem com os seus olhos sonhadores e nos levam a fazer delas uma prioridade.
Para si e para todas as mulheres que têm medo de que os homens que amam se estejam a aproveitar delas, eis alguns sinais e bandeiras vermelhas a que deve estar atenta:
1. Não tem qualquer problema em pedir favores
Sempre que precisa de alguma coisa, vai ter consigo sabendo que o vai ajudar.
I do know that this is something you should do in a relationship but if he’s calling you for every little thing then I do not think that that’s love.
Especially if he calls you to loan him money! To be honest, what are you giving him that he couldn’t be asking for somewhere else?
If he’s always in your house searching for food and asking you to do the stupidest tasks for him, then he really is taking advantage of you.
2. Mas ele nunca está lá para ti
No matter whether it’s something small or something big, he is simply never there for you.
He doesn’t call you to see how you’re doing nor does he come to check on you when you’re sick.
O que acontece é que ele arranja todas aquelas desculpas estúpidas só para não estar perto de si.
He can’t even bother to help you move something heavy, he’d rather sit around and wait for you to do it yourself.
3. Ele quer sempre sexo
I mean, what guy doesn’t? But if the first thing he does when he comes to your house is take your bra off then that’s not really something you should be happy about.
You might be too hot to resist but there is a bigger chance that he is taking advantage of you and he simply can’t have a meaningful conversation first.
4. Desaparece e cancela encontros
Whenever you two go out with your friends, he simply disappears, telling you that he feels like he’s not fitting in with the crowd.
He never stays the night at your house and he’s just never there.
Also, he cancels your dates when he doesn’t feel like going out but when he calls you, he gets mad if you can’t go out. So, double standards much?
5. Nunca se compromete
He doesn’t really bother to compromise with you. It’s the way he wants it his way or no way at all.
Por vezes, é frustrante, porque ele é demasiado teimoso para que lhe consigamos dizer algo sensato.
He is always the one making decisions and he doesn’t even bother to hear your opinion.
Ele simplesmente nunca te consulta quando se trata de qualquer assunto que envolva os dois.
6. Ele parece não estar emocionalmente disponível
Whenever you listen to him talk it’s never about something important or emotional.
It’s always something funny or a joke, because he’s afraid to show his emotions.
He doesn’t let you see who he really is and he never talks about his personal life.
If he’s having trouble at work, he’d rather die than tell you what’s going on.
He doesn’t even bother to show you any affection to make you feel special or needed.
7. Ele só te telefona quando quer alguma coisa de ti
Well, this one hurts a lot. But if he only calls you when he needs something from you, not even bothering to ask if you’re in need of anything, it’s clear that all he wants is to take advantage of your kindness.
If that’s really what’s happening in your relationship then you should get out of it as soon as possible.
If he doesn’t show gratitude and if he doesn’t even bother with you then there’s nothing you can do about it.
