Isto é o que significa se ele não te contacta há um mês

Quando um rapaz nos deixa ou nos deixa sem nos dar um desfecho, a primeira coisa que queremos fazer é aplicar a regra de não contactar. Mas e se a situação se inverter?

What does it mean if he hasn’t contacted you in a month?

Aí está você, lutando consigo mesmo para não lhe telefonar e fazendo o seu melhor para faz com que este homem sinta a tua falta. No entanto, é óbvio que ele está a fazer a mesma coisa.

A whole month has passed, and you’ve seen no sign of this guy.

Is this a red flag that he doesn’t care about you? Is aplicação da regra de não contacto e está à espera que a contacte primeiro? Será que ele seguiu em frente e está melhor sem ti?

The possibilities are endless. And all you want to know is what is actually driving his behavior. What does it mean if he hasn’t contacted you in a month?

Bem, apesar de cada homem ser diferente, existem algumas respostas universais para esta questão. Aqui estão elas.

7 Things To Consider If He Hasn’t Contacted You In A Month

O seu coração discute com a sua cabeça sempre que bate

Most men are extremely stubborn creatures. They don’t like to be controlled, and they especially despise being told what to do.

At the end of the day, they even fight with themselves. I’m sure this situation is pretty familiar to you as well.

I’m talking about those moments when you feel like your heart is literally arguing with your head everytime it beats. Well, that’s exactly what’s going on with your guy over here.

Por conseguinte, if he hasn’t contacted you in a month, it doesn’t have to mean that he has a secret life you know nothing about.

In fact, the explanation can be pretty simple: he doesn’t know what to do about you.

I don’t know what went on between you two, but it’s more than clear that his heart is telling him to go right to your doorstep and declare o seu amor eterno por ti.

On the other hand, his mind thinks you’re not a good option for him.

Of course, this has nothing to do with your value. This doesn’t mean I’m telling you that this man thinks you’re not worthy or good enough to be with him.

It’s possible that you two aren’t compatible. Ou ele está a lutar contra alguns demónios que não faz ideia de quais sejam.

Either way, the point is that this man doesn’t know what he’s doing nor what he wants to do next.

You’re not the only one who is clueless here – he also sees that he’s at a crossroads, and he has no idea which direction to choose.

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Por mais horrível que te sintas neste momento, há um lado positivo em toda esta situação. A boa notícia sobre este homem é que ele a ama.

Well, actually, I’m not familiar with the details of your relationship, so I don’t know if “love” is too strong of a word. But to say the least, he cares about you deeply.

How can I be so sure about this? Well, when someone doesn’t give a damn about you, they don’t have a hard time giving up on you.

If his brain is telling him that you’re wrong for him or that you two shouldn’t be together, why would his heart have a say in this matter? That is, if he doesn’t have any feelings for you?

Por isso, aconteça o que acontecer no futuro, saiba que foi muito mais importante para este homem do que ele queria que fosse.

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On the other hand, the bad news is that this is the kind of a guy who puts his stubbornness above his feelings. Even if you end up together, it won’t be your happily ever after.

Most of the time, he behaves like he doesn’t know what he wants. So, do you really want this kind of man to be your forever person?

Another piece of bad news is that you shouldn’t be surprised if he ends up leaving for good, despite the love he feels for you.

Ele pode colocar a sua cabeça acima de tudo e, se isso acontecer, não há praticamente nada que possa fazer para mudar a sua decisão.

He’s returning the favor

People assume that women are more vengeful than men; let me tell you that revenge knows nothing about gender. It’s a proven fact that men can be extremely vindictive when their hearts are broken.

Por conseguinte, it’s possible that your ex-boyfriend hasn’t called you for one simple reason: because you didn’t call him either.

Or maybe he’s trying to pay you back for something you did in the past. Don’t worry. I’m not talking about huge things only. This could be the smallest inconvenience he had to go through because of you.

This may be something you’ve forgotten about completely. But he continues to remember, isn’t it obvious?
Há duas opções aqui.

Uma delas é que este tipo tem estado a planear a sua vingança contra si há já algum tempo.

Se ele deixou-te pendurada e deixou de responder às suas chamadas de repente, talvez tenha esperado que se apaixonasse por ele a sério.

Perhaps he wanted to make sure he’d gotten under your skin so he would be able to make you experience true heartbreak.

On the other hand, it’s also possible that he is just giving you a taste of your own medicine. Have you tried reaching out to him during this month? Or have you been silent, as well?

He may be waiting for you to make the first move. This guy doesn’t care that he’s male – he doesn’t want to be the one to humiliate himself.

Yes, that’s right. This is how he sees it. He would think of himself as a pathetic loser if he contacted you. He would think that he’s chasing you and boosting your ego at the same time.

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If he hasn’t contacted you in a month because he’s paying you back, you can easily end this charade in a couple of moves. Tudo o que tem de fazer é ser o primeiro a telefonar-lhe.

This might sound like I’m asking you to swallow your pride, but sadly, that’s the only way to recuperar o seu ex-namorado para si. Caso contrário, este jogo poderia prolongar-se para sempre.

Look, the ball is in your court – that’s the good news. Even though things don’t appear that way, the truth is that this situation is completely in your hands.

I promise you that he will give up on his revenge the moment you call him. After all, he got what he wanted, didn’t he? So what would be the point of keeping it up?

He will let his feelings take over, and he won’t continue with this game of playing hard to get.

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On the other hand, do you really want to be with a man who goes through life with such immaturity? Let’s face it: instead of speaking up about what’s bothering him, he does everything the sneaky way.

Isn’t it true that you would have to watch your back whenever you’re with him? He obviously never forgets, holds grudges, and will always pay you back for your actions.

Besides, it’s also clear that he doesn’t care much about your feelings – even if he does love you. He’s allowed you both to suffer just to get his way.

His ego is more important than his feelings, and it’s up to you whether this is something you can put up with.

Os homens jogam o jogo: as mulheres sabem o resultado

Os encontros modernos são todos diferentes jogos mentais de relacionamento. Whether you like it or not (and let’s face it – who does?), this is simply how things are.

Bem, if he hasn’t contacted you in a month, this could just be one of his tests. Maybe this guy is playing hard to get or just wants to show you he’s the dominant one.

Esta é uma estratégia comum que, infelizmente, a maioria dos homens adopta. Quando duas pessoas estão em qualquer tipo de relação romântica, parece que aquele que mostra os seus sentimentos primeiro é o perdedor.

If person A wears their heart on their sleeve, they’re automatically vulnerable. They’re putting their fate in person B’s hands.

Por conseguinte, a pessoa B pensa que pode agir como quiser, sem sofrer quaisquer consequências.

After all, the first person loves them, so they’ll likely put up with their nonsense. They can treat them how they want, but person A won’t stop loving them.

The biggest problem here is that person A never knows whether the other one loves them back. They’re enviar-lhes sinais contraditórios, and person A puts a lot of effort into trying to find out B’s true intentions.

Então, qual é a relação entre isto e a sua situação atual? Bem, muito.
O objeto do seu afeto está a fazer tudo o que está ao seu alcance para evitar ser a pessoa A nesta história.

Para ser mais exato, pensou que tinha de se tornar na pessoa B só para não se magoar.

Everything is pretty clear: he wants you to chase him. He wants to be the one who doesn’t show his weak side, so he leaves you clueless.

Ele quer fazer-nos pensar: Estará ele realmente interessado? O que é que ele está a fazer? Para onde foram todo o amor e afeto do início da vossa relação?

Before you know it, you’re dragged down with these doubts. You can’t get these questions out of your head, and you fall for him more and more each day.

So, when he reappears (and I assure you that he will), you’re happy that he’s finally back.

You don’t ask questions, and you don’t want to dig beneath the surface in an attempt to find out why he’s been acting this way.

You’ll welcome him with open arms, and that’s when you’re doomed. Without being aware of it, you’ve given him the green light to continue acting the way he wants.

With this move alone, you’ve allowed him to reach his goal. You’ve shown him that you’re the one who loves more, and again that’s when you’re doomed.

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Now that you’re familiar with this guy’s intentions, you’re one step ahead of him. If you’re interested in doing so, this is your chance to vencê-lo no seu próprio jogo.

Instead of doing what he expects you to do, show him that you’re a better player than he could ever be. The best way to do this is to engage in hot and cold psychology.

Before you know it, you’ll achieve what he wanted to accomplish with you. You’ll turn the tables on him, and he’ll be hooked on you, without knowing what hit him.

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But if we look at things realistically, these kinds of games never come to an end. Now you fooled him, but nobody can guarantee that he won’t do the same thing to you in the future.

Quando se entra neste ciclo interminável, nunca mais se consegue sair dele. Isto é, até romper todos os laços com essa pessoa.

You can’t have a healthy relationship based on these red flags.

If he wants you in his life, he’ll put you there

I know that this is the last thing you want to hear, but it’s an option you have to be introduced to. The bitter truth is that this man might not love you. Or what’s even worse, it’s possible that he never did.

Let’s disregard the fact that he is obviously a coward who didn’t have the guts to tell you this directly to your face.

Instead, he left you, thinking that everything he’s done is perfectly okay. He disappeared without giving you an explanation and left you wondering what went wrong.

Mas apesar dos seus movimentos imaturos, o resultado final permanece o mesmo: ele quer-te fora da vida dele. Porque se se ele sentisse algo diferente, tê-lo-ia posto lá.

At the end of the day, it’s completely irrelevant why he is behaving like this. Did ele perde o interesse em ti? Ele encontrou alguém melhor para ele?

Did you two have a long distance relationship, and he realized that it doesn’t have a future?

Did he come to the conclusion you two can’t be in a serious relationship? Did you accidentally do something to chase him away?

Did he go back to his ex? Did he realize that you two weren’t cut out for each other?

I know that you’re desperate to get answers to these questions. But let’s face it: what difference would it make?

If this is the case with your guy, he’s already made up his mind. He’s cut all ties with you, and he’ll probably never contact you again.

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The reality is that you can’t do much about recuperar este homem nos teus braços. Claro que pode tentar, mas será que quer mesmo manipulá-lo para que volte para si?

He’s not ready to put effort into being with you. Whatever obstacle he sees between you two, it’s clear that he’s not willing to try and overcome it.

Sei que, para si, a pior parte é ter de encontrar uma forma de seguir em frente sem conclusão. You were played and left hanging, and you don’t even know why it happened.

But please don’t go down that road. Don’t try looking for clues and an explanation for his sudden change of behavior.

Don’t misunderstand me. I’m not saying that you don’t deserve to know the truth because you certainly do. The point is that you’ll never get it as much as you try.

No entanto, o que vai conseguir é ficar ainda mais preso a esta relação.

Yes, you heard me right: if you go around looking for answers, this guy will remain present in your heart and mind even though he’s physically absent from your life.

So, instead of putting effort into moving on from this man, you’ll invest all of your energy into dragging yourself further into this net.

Instead of attempting to heal your broken heart, you’ll shatter it into even more pieces.

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Mas todas as nuvens têm um lado positivo, e esta situação não é exceção.

Even though you see this outcome as the worst thing that could happen, try looking at things from another perspective, and you’ll realize there is some good news after all.

Look, at least you know where you stand, don’t you? Keeping in mind the fact that you are crazy for this guy, the truth is that he could have used your feelings against you.

Ele teve a oportunidade de se aproveitar de si de todas as formas possíveis. E não é só isso: você pensou nele como um grande homem que também tinha a oportunidade de a continuar a enganar.

You could have spent years without having a clue that he didn’t love you back. So, if you could choose, would you rather live a sweet lie or be hit by the bitter truth? What would you prefer?

O seu medo do que pode acontecer faz com que nada aconteça

Even though all men hide their vulnerabilities, the truth is that each one of them has his share of fears. Therefore, it’s safe to assume that this guy hasn’t been calling you for a first date out of fear.

You see, some men have the uncontrollable urge to run away the moment they realize they’re in love. Instead of pursuing their feelings, they see them as a weakness that could eventually destroy them.

Este é normalmente o caso com homens emocionalmente afectados. They’ve spent their entire lives building an image based on toxic masculinity, which has now been shaken.

So, they think they have no other option but to run for their lives. They don’t have the courage to face the unknown, and soon enough, they’ll go back to their comfort zone of indifference.

Normalmente, estes os homens têm medo de se magoam, embora nunca o admitam.

Even though they pretend to be heartless, they’re perfectly aware that their heart is actually quite fragile and that it can be broken.

That’s why they choose to save themselves before they lose control of their emotions. They want to escape until they stop being in charge of their own actions.

This type of guy is afraid to let you in all the way. He’s scared that he’ll start loving you more than he loves himself and that he’ll end up destroyed if you ever decide to leave him.

But then, there is another type of fear: the fear of rejection. It’s quite possible that you’re actually lidar com um rapaz tímido.

As a man, he’s been initiating most of the contact from day one. Even though you’ve been sending him signals that you’re also into him, he failed to see them.

After a while, he decided to step back, and now he is too shy to try and come back into your life. He is convinced that you’d shut the door right in his face, and that’s a risk he’s not willing to take.

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Whatever the truth is, the fact of the matter is that you’re dealing with a coward. This is a man who doesn’t have what it takes to make himself happy – so how could he do the same for you?

Maybe he knows what he wants, but he clearly doesn’t possess the necessary strength to make it his.

The thing is that this man’s fear of what could happen eventually makes nothing happen. And if he is like this when it comes to his love life, he is probably like this in all other aspects of life.

Ele não é o tipo de pessoa que corre riscos, independentemente do ganho potencial. Em vez disso, prefere jogar pelo seguro.

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On the other hand, if this guy doesn’t love you to the bottom of his heart, he wouldn’t have been this scared, would he? Only great things produce great fear.

Basically, the good side of this story is that there is no doubt in this man’s feelings.

On the other hand, it’s also obvious that he doesn’t have the capacity to handle them. Like many other cases, the steering wheel is in your hands.

As desculpas são uma forma educada de rejeição

Sometimes, your situation isn’t as typical as it is described here. You can’t tell that your guy hasn’t contacted you in a month.

Mas se olharmos para as coisas de forma realista, as vossas conversas eram piores do que o silêncio sempre que ele estendia a mão.

Talvez ele lhe tenha enviado uma ou duas mensagens de texto durante este período, tenha gostado de algumas das suas publicações e lhe tenha telefonado uma vez este mês.

Technically, he did call you, so you don’t want to make a big deal, but in reality, it’s pretty much the same as if he didn’t. The only thing you know is that he is safe and sound – everything else is a mystery.

You don’t ask him about his activities and whereabouts. But he is clearly too busy since he didn’t have the time to ask you out at least once.

Come on, let’s be honest: is it possible that he couldn’t have found the time? Or is he trying to avoid you?

This man is a special kind of coward. He doesn’t have what it takes to even ignore you.

Instead, he keeps you as a backup plan. If everything else fails and if all the other girls dump him, he wants you to be his safety net – someone who will always keep the door open for him.

Another valid option is that he’s putting the responsibility on you. He hasn’t really left you, but he is not around either.

It’s safe to assume that he wants you to make the first move. He expects that his behavior will annoy and bother you. Naturally, you’ll make a big fuss here, and eventually, you’ll be the one dumping him.

Se isso acontecer, ele está a deixá-la a lutar com essa culpa enquanto sai ileso da vossa relação. Não é conveniente?

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Whenever you ask this guy what’s going on with him, he gives you fake responses. He’s too busy, or he’s been going through a hard time.

Well, let me tell you that these are all empty excuses. He’s justifying himself instead of telling you straight that he wants out.

The truth is that he hopes that one of these days, you’ll get tired of waiting for him. He expects you to slam the door right in his face and do his dirty work for him.

Soon enough, he’ll stop calling you. You won’t be receiving those few text messages a month anymore.

It’s not likely that this guy will regret losing you. I hate to break it to you, but this is exactly what he wanted all along.

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Nevertheless, the most important thing here is that you’ve finally realized this. As painful as the truth is, at least you got hold of it.

Agora que tudo está claro, tem a oportunidade de começar de novo. Em vez de esperar por um milagre que nunca virá, veja isto como uma oportunidade para se curar e deixar ir.

Someone else did what you didn’t do

Detesto ter de vos dizer isto, mas if he hasn’t contacted you in a month, it is also quite likely that this guy’s found someone else. Ou talvez esta rapariga tenha estado sempre com ele? Ou ele voltou para a ex?

Either way, the point is that he is no longer single. I’m sure you already went through all of his social media profiles, looking for clues of his new romance.

But hey, just because you had no success in finding anything doesn’t mean that he isn’t seeing anyone. Don’t forget that some people like to keep their personal lives as private as possible.

Além disso, talvez ele esteja conscientemente a esconder-lhe pormenores da sua vida amorosa. Ele sabe que a tratou como lixo, por isso a última coisa que quer é que o veja feliz e apaixonado por outra mulher.

Either way, the brutal truth is that you’re stuck in the same place while this man has moved on with his life. He’s not calling you because there is someone else he’d rather call.

But please don’t take this personally. I know how you must feel, especially if this man kept blabbing on and on about him not being ready for a relationship.

Bem, obviamente, ele didn’t want a relationship with you. No entanto, assim que esta rapariga apareceu, a sua atitude mudou.

The only thing you have the right to hold against this guy is the treatment you received from him. He didn’t have the decency to tell you that you two were over and that he found someone new.

Instead, he ran away from his responsibility and kept on living his life as if nothing happened and as if he hadn’t left you waiting.

This is something he can be held accountable for. On the other hand, it doesn’t give you the right to interfere in his new relationship.

This guy’s new girlfriend doesn’t deserve you hating her. She didn’t do anything wrong. Besides, she probably doesn’t even know that you exist.

Por isso, em vez de lhe apontarem o dedo, olhem a verdade nos olhos e percebam quem é o culpado.

Mais uma vez, ele não é culpado por ter seguido em frente com a sua vida; é apenas culpado por não ter sido suficientemente corajoso para ser sincero consigo.

The worst thing you can do in this situation is to compete with this girl. She doesn’t necessarily have to be prettier, funnier, or smarter than you.

You can spend a lifetime looking for her flaws. You can badmouth her as much as you want and talk about how you’re better than her.

But whether you’d like to admit it or not, despite all of this, ela é a rapariga que este tipo escolheu. She is the one he wants to be with, and she is clearly the one who gave him something you couldn’t.

Of course, this is not something to blame yourself over. You could have moved mountains for his sake, but if you two are not meant to be, you’ll never end up together. And there is nothing you can do about it.

Bem, tecnicamente, pode fazer planos contra eles e fazer tudo o que estiver ao seu alcance para os separar.

No entanto, isso só a faria parecer patética e desesperada. Mesmo que consigas, queres mesmo estar com um tipo que manipulaste para te escolher?

To be precise, whenever you find yourself in a situation where you’re someone’s backup option, it’s time to leave for good.

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I’ll be dead honest here: it’s over. Even if he realizes that you’re the one and breaks things off with his new GF, this will always be a challenge that stands in your way.

As much as it looks like you’ve forgiven him, the truth is that you’d always know that he brought a third person into your lives.

Not only that: he also went behind your back. He didn’t utter a word until he was sure that his new romance had potential.

He was sneaky and unfair. Besides, he obviously never loved you enough. Otherwise, he couldn’t have replaced you as easily as he did the moment he found someone who suited him better.

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But instead of seeing this as a loss, see it as hitting the biggest jackpot you could have ever imagined. Having this man disappear from your life is not a curse – it’s a blessing.

Even if you don’t see it now, the truth is that you dodged a bullet when he found someone else. It’s pretty clear that he has no idea what commitment means and doesn’t know how to stay faithful.

Not only that: this guy doesn’t have what it takes to stand before his actions. Instead, he is nothing but a chicken, and you’re much better off without him.

6 razões para ele ter aparecido ao fim de um mês

Let’s get one thing straight. Everyone shows up sooner or later. Some guys come knocking on your door after a month, and some appear in your DMs after a couple of months.

Mas depois da regra de não contacto, a maioria dos homens volta a contactá-la.

Some will do it to check up on you, some to see whether you’re still right there where they left you, some to break your heart all over again, and some because they realized what they’ve lost.

Então, let’s check out what it could mean if he hasn’t contacted you in a month but now shows up.

He realized his feelings didn’t leave just because he did

Let’s start with the scenario you’ll probably enjoy the most. This doesn’t only happen in romantic dramas: sometimes, people really do realize what they’ve lost when it’s gone.

Foi exatamente isso que aconteceu com o seu homem. Ele tentou deixá-la por uma razão que só ele conhece, mas apercebeu-se de que a ama, apesar do que pensava.

Talvez ele tenha pensado que tu weren’t good enough for him. Or he wanted some time alone. It is possible that he wasn’t aware of his true feelings while you were around, within arm’s reach.

Or he got cold feet and tried saving himself from all of these emotions that threatened to overwhelm him. But he clearly didn’t escape in time, and the love he feels for you is stronger than his fears.

O que importa é que agora ele quer-te de volta. Just like that, he expects you to forget that he’s been gone for an entire month.

He expects you not to ask him what he’s been doing and who he’s been seeing. Instead, he just wants to continue where you two left off the last time.

Of course, he hopes that you spent this entire time waiting for him. He hopes that you put your life on hold and that now after everything, you’ll forgive him without second-guessing his behavior.

Well, it’s up to you whether you let him become a part of your life once again. Or you’ll find a way to punish him for this period of no contact.

É evidente que este homem a ama, mesmo que o tente esconder. Mas será que só esse facto justifica que ele a deixe assim?

É uma daquelas pessoas que pensa que o amor verdadeiro conquista tudo? Ou vai colocar o seu orgulho acima das suas emoções?

Let’s face it – if this option turns out to be true, you’ll get what you’ve been dreaming of all of this time. At this point, everything depends on you and your decision.

If you’re not worthy of his time at 2 pm, he’s not worth yours at 2 am

Infelizmente, a situação descrita anteriormente é bastante rara. Por outro lado, ser um guy’s booty call após um mês sem contacto é um cenário comum.

How can you tell if he wants to use you or if he realized that he has feelings for you? Well, the first thing you should pay special attention to is the time of day he’s messaging you.

If this guy reappears in your life and starts calling you in the middle of the night asking to sleep at your place or invites you to come over – it’s all pretty clear.

Of course, this doesn’t have to be the case if your phone rings during the day as well.

Nevertheless, if he forgets that you exist until the next Saturday night, he needs company. And he’ll forget about you the very next day, the same way he does after you reject him.

If you don’t believe me – try it for yourself. Before you know it, he’ll drag you into some kind of no-strings-attached relationship.

If nothing else, you’ll sleep with him. And tomorrow, he’ll act like nothing happened last night.

Don’t get me wrong: there is nothing wrong with reminiscing about the good old times with your ex-boyfriend. But that can only happen if you both have the same intentions.

Por outro lado, se ainda o ama e vê isto como uma oportunidade para voltar a juntar-se enquanto ele não te vê como nada mais do que uma booty call, tenho más notícias para ti.

The worst part is that, when a similar situation happens, you’re probably não é a sua primeira escolha. He’s been out clubbing and approaching every girl he ran into but didn’t score.

Or he is home alone, scrolling through online dating apps, looking for company. When that didn’t work, he remembered you existed.

So, he decided to take a shot. He couldn’t handle the fact that every girl he tried hitting on rejected him that night, so he turned to you – his safety net.

When this happens, I’m begging you not to give him what he wants. Show him that he can’t reappear in your life whenever he wants his needs taken care of.

Besides, what is even more important is that you make this guy understand that you’re the whole package. He can’t choose to have your body without your mind and heart.

His ego can’t handle lack of success

While talking about a man’s ego, let’s mention those guys who can’t stand losing someone they thought they owned.

It’s not that they only hate being rejected; according to them, they’re so fatally attractive that every girl who’s ever been in love with them should keep them in her mind forever.

Parece-me familiar, certo? Bem, e se o seu homem for deste género?

What if he’s reaching out to you after all this time just to prove a point? He wants you both to know that he can have you whenever he wants.

This man is not interested in your well-being. He doesn’t plan on getting back together with you, nor did he suddenly realize he loves you.

Instead, he’s making sure you’re still his in a way. He wants to see for himself that he’s made such a great impression on you that you’ll never manage to forget him.

He’s clearly egotistical and needs your validation to feel worthy. He sees you as an ego boost and as a woman who will help him regain his self esteem.

If you suspect that you’re dealing with someone like this, the only choice you have is to completely blow him off because this is not a person you can have a good relationship with.

Destroy him by showing him how irrelevant he’s always been to you. He’s not a man who left a mark on your life, and he was just a stop along the way.

It’s not only that you don’t miss him – he never crosses your mind either. You’ve continued with your life as though you never met him, and you couldn’t care less about him.

Então, deve enviar-lhe uma mensagem? Bem, se quiser obter este efeito, envie-lhe uma mensagem de texto e responda à sua chamada telefónica.

If you ignore him, he’ll make up a scenario in which you’re too hurt to even hear his voice. And even that means that he’s important and that you’re not indifferent.

On the other hand, if you show him that you’re thrilled to hear from him, he’ll see that you’ve been longing for him.

Por isso, tem de encontrar um equilíbrio entre estes dois extremos opostos. Seja educado e trate-o como um velho amigo há muito esquecido.

Don’t show any interest in his love life, and don’t dare mention your history together. Show him that his disappearance didn’t leave any trace on you and that you hold no grudges for his toxic behavior.

For the first time ever, leave him confused. Destroy his ego, and you’ll destroy him!

A memória é uma coisa estranha

Wouldn’t it be great if we could have full control over our minds? I’m referring to our memory the most here. You choose what and who you remember and what and who you’ll forget forever.

Well, sadly, things don’t work out like that. We’re not robots – we’re human beings, and your guy is no exception.

This might not sound as romantic as you expected, but if he hasn’t contacted you in a month and now, he sent you a good morning text out of the blue – it’s possible that you crossed his mind and he decided to see what you’ve been up to.

Maybe your mutual friends brought up your name, or something completely random reminded him of you. It doesn’t have to mean that he has a romantic interest in mind – maybe he just wants to ficar melhores amigos.

Of course, this is only possible if you two ended on good terms and if you didn’t have a serious relationship.

Por outro lado, se um de vocês deixasse o outro de coração partido ou se as coisas tivessem acabado mal, ele nunca lhe telefonaria para pôr a conversa em dia.

Nesse caso, o facto de apareceres na memória dele tem uma conotação completamente diferente. Lembrou-se do amor que partilharam e, obviamente, sentiu-se nostálgico.

Maybe he heard a song you liked, saw someone who looked just like you, or remembered the way you spent Valentine’s day together.

Either way, one thing is clear: when this man thinks of your relationship, he’s anything but indifferent.

Whatever the truth is, if I were you, I wouldn’t get my hopes up. Wait patiently to see whether he’ll do anything to maintain the communication or if this will be a one-time thing.

If he keeps on calling you, reminiscence was just an excuse. He didn’t text you because he didn’t know how to break the ice, so he used this approach to get closer to you.

If this was a one-time thing, don’t look for a deeper meaning. This man simply remembered you, and there is nothing more to it than that.

Ele mantém-te por perto apenas o tempo suficiente para esquecer a pessoa que realmente ama

There is nothing worse than being your loved one’s rebound girlfriend. When you go through it, you’re hurt by the fact that your BF never thought of you as a person he could love.

Para ele, não passavas de um objeto para o ajudar a atingir os seus objectivos.

Quando pensamos nisso, vocês os dois nunca tiveram hipótese. Todo este tempo, o seu coração tem estado a escolher outra mulher.

He was using you to forget about this fact. This is why he’s reached out to you now: to give him the comfort he desperately needs.

Os desafios são o que fazem a vida valer a pena

You know how they say that the grass is always greener on the other side? Why is that so? Well, the truth is that human beings don’t know how to appreciate something or someone while we still have it.

This is a detailed description of your failed relationship, isn’t it? As long as you were within this guy’s reach, he wasn’t preocupado em perder-te.

But now, things have changed: you became a challenge for him. OMG, you’ve gotten far away from him, and now he is no longer sure whether he can have you or not.

Maybe he saw pics of you looking better than ever, or perhaps he heard that you have a new job or told your mutual friends you’re seeing someone new.

You’ve respected the no contact rule, and he hasn’t heard from you in a month, so he wonders if you ever cared for him.

That is exactly why he’s calling you: to check whether he still has the necessary charm to knock you off your feet.

Para terminar:

Let’s get one thing straight: if he hasn’t contacted you in a month, this guy doesn’t love you enough. I don’t care what happened and what his excuses are, but nobody can justify an absence this long.

I’m not saying that he hasn’t repented for his actions. Maybe he regrets doing this, but the truth is that if he really loved you, he would have found a way to reach out.

Isto é especialmente verdade se ele não entrou em contacto consigo sem ter terminado a relação e desapareceu sem dar explicações.

But it’s up to you whether you’ll take him back or not. Can you live with the fact that he could live without you for all this time?