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A química é real, os sentimentos estão lá, a conversa é direta e a luxúria é imparável. Parece que tem tudo... tudo menos ele.

He says he’s not ready for a relationship. He’s giving you crumbs and he’s always keeping you at arm’s length.

He hasn’t let you all in and is keeping his options open.

On the other hand, he can’t stand the thought of you with somebody else.

He wants commitment from you, but he can’t offer the same in return. And it’s time you put a stop to it.

Cut off boyfriend benefits if he’s not your boyfriend.

Yes, I mean sex primarily. You don’t sleep with your friends, now do you?

If you have greater feelings for him than he has for you, you don’t want him to consider you as something casual.

Think about it. Why would he be interested in a relationship when he’s getting everything for free?

A ligação emocional que tens com ele pode ser a tua morte.

Talvez não a morte real, mas o massacre emocional é garantido.

O coração parte-se tão facilmente quando há rótulos como quando não há.

Passamos tempo com alguém, as emoções evoluem, ficamos ligados para além dos nossos sonhos mais loucos.

You text regularly, you hang out often, you have your inside jokes, you know each other’s thoughts and the way you smell in the morning.

It’s not just about sex; it’s so much more. That’s why the situation you find yourself in hurts just as breaking up would.

Dá por si a querer mais e a realidade é que ele pode não ter mais para dar.

Por isso, seja ele a dar as ordens.

Tear him down from that pedestal you placed him on if he isn’t ready to treat you like a queen.

He is your priority, your number one, the center of your universe, your king, but if he can’t treat you the same, then he’s not worthy of you.

If he’s not ready to step up and make you completely his, he’s not worthy of your time.

Don’t allow more months or years to pass without being truly happy.

A felicidade vai e vem da nossa vida, mas nunca fica muito tempo.

You feel like he has power over it and all he’s giving you are mere moments of unbelievable joy, only to spoil them with much larger periods of uncertainty.

There are days where there’s nothing he wouldn’t do for you, and then there are others where a text back, a simple “How are you?” and making plans to see you are too much effort.

His mind and his heart are inconsistent, and they’re making a mess out of your life.

Ele dá-lhe dicas de que as coisas podem mudar. Fala dos seus sentimentos por si. Fala sobre o futuro e vocês fazem planos juntos.

Then, out of the blue, he’s nowhere to be found. He’s “too busy,” he’s with his friends night after night, he has no time for you until it’s convenient for him.

It’s disrespectful, to say the least, and it has to stop.

O que tens de te lembrar é que mereces mais dele, da vida, de ti própria.

From yourself primarily because it’s all in your hands. You have to have standards.

You can’t put up with someone’s crappy behavior and low investments.

Ame-se a si próprio tanto quanto gostaria que alguém o amasse e tudo se encaixará no seu devido lugar.

You deserve things from him if he’s expecting relationship benefits. You deserve to be labeled as his girlfriend.

Mereces respeito, lealdade e esforço. Mereces mais do que metade do seu coração.

A vida também vos deve uma ou duas coisas. Deve-lhe paz no seu coração e amor na sua vida. Só precisa de os alcançar.

You deserve a committed relationship where all your efforts are reciprocated and you aren’t the only one making them.

Mereces ser amada de volta e não ser a pessoa que ama por dois.

So, if he isn’t ready to be in a relationship, cut off all the benefits and inform him you’re not ready for a non-relationship either.