Se non vuole una relazione, non dategli i vantaggi di una relazione

L'intesa è reale, i sentimenti ci sono, la conversazione è perfetta e la lussuria è inarrestabile. Sembra che abbiate tutto... tutto tranne lui.

He says he’s not ready for a relationship. He’s giving you crumbs and he’s always keeping you at arm’s length.

He hasn’t let you all in and is keeping his options open.

On the other hand, he can’t stand the thought of you with somebody else.

He wants commitment from you, but he can’t offer the same in return. And it’s time you put a stop to it.

Cut off boyfriend benefits if he’s not your boyfriend.

Yes, I mean sex primarily. You don’t sleep with your friends, now do you?

If you have greater feelings for him than he has for you, you don’t want him to consider you as something casual.

Think about it. Why would he be interested in a relationship when he’s getting everything for free?

Il legame emotivo che avete con lui potrebbe essere la vostra morte.

Forse non la morte vera e propria, ma il massacro emotivo è garantito.

Il cuore si spezza tanto facilmente quando ci sono etichette quanto quando non ce ne sono.

Se si trascorre del tempo con qualcuno, le emozioni si evolvono, ci si affeziona al di là dei propri sogni.

You text regularly, you hang out often, you have your inside jokes, you know each other’s thoughts and the way you smell in the morning.

It’s not just about sex; it’s so much more. That’s why the situation you find yourself in hurts just as breaking up would.

Ci si ritrova a volere di più e la realtà schiaffeggia il fatto che lui potrebbe non avere più nulla da dare.

Quindi, siate voi a decidere.

Tear him down from that pedestal you placed him on if he isn’t ready to treat you like a queen.

He is your priority, your number one, the center of your universe, your king, but if he can’t treat you the same, then he’s not worthy of you.

If he’s not ready to step up and make you completely his, he’s not worthy of your time.

Don’t allow more months or years to pass without being truly happy.

La felicità va e viene dalla vostra vita, ma non rimane mai a lungo.

You feel like he has power over it and all he’s giving you are mere moments of unbelievable joy, only to spoil them with much larger periods of uncertainty.

There are days where there’s nothing he wouldn’t do for you, and then there are others where a text back, a simple “How are you?” and making plans to see you are too much effort.

His mind and his heart are inconsistent, and they’re making a mess out of your life.

Vi fa intendere che le cose potrebbero cambiare. Parla dei suoi sentimenti per lei. Parla del futuro e fate progetti insieme.

Then, out of the blue, he’s nowhere to be found. He’s “too busy,” he’s with his friends night after night, he has no time for you until it’s convenient for him.

It’s disrespectful, to say the least, and it has to stop.

Quello che devi ricordare a te stessa è che meriti di meglio da lui, dalla vita, da te stessa.

From yourself primarily because it’s all in your hands. You have to have standards.

You can’t put up with someone’s crappy behavior and low investments.

Amate voi stessi come vorreste che qualcun altro vi amasse e tutto andrà al suo posto.

You deserve things from him if he’s expecting relationship benefits. You deserve to be labeled as his girlfriend.

Meritate rispetto, lealtà e impegno. Meritate più della metà del suo cuore.

Anche la vita vi deve qualcosa. Vi deve la pace nel cuore e l'amore nella vita. Dovete solo raggiungerli.

You deserve a committed relationship where all your efforts are reciprocated and you aren’t the only one making them.

Meriti di essere ricambiato e di non essere quello che ama per due.

So, if he isn’t ready to be in a relationship, cut off all the benefits and inform him you’re not ready for a non-relationship either.