Se ele te amasse, não te daria razões para duvidares dele

Quando nos encontramos numa relação pouco saudável, tentamos justificar tudo o que a outra pessoa nos está a fazer.

You make excuses for the bad treatment you keep receiving and you try to find love in places where it clearly doesn’t exist.

E neste processo, esquecemo-nos de como deve ser o verdadeiro amor. Esquecem-se de como se deve comportar um homem que gosta realmente de vocês.

And you refuse to see the fact that the man you are with now obviously doesn’t love you enough, as soon as he treats you the way he does.

Porque se ele te amasse, nunca te faria questionar sobre ele, as suas intenções ou os seus sentimentos.

Ele nunca te daria uma razão para duvidares dele ou da vossa relação. E é exatamente isso que continua a fazer.

Deixem-me dizer-vos uma coisa—não és louca por te sentires assim. Não está a imaginar coisas e é inseguro em relação à sua relação por uma razão.

Porque se o seu homem a amasse realmente, nunca faria estes jogos mentais que está a fazer consigo.

He would never make you chase him and he wouldn’t pretend to be hard to get.

He wouldn’t make you second-guess his emotions or look for hidden meanings behind his words and actions.

He would never give you a reason not to trust him or to seek hidden clues of his love. He would never make you dig deep to find his emotions, which he isn’t showing.

When a man cares for you, he doesn’t have a problem showing it to you.

He doesn’t pretend to be this tough guy who isn’t in touch with his vulnerabilidade do eu and he certainly doesn’t act like he is scared of letting you in, when he is clearly isn’t.

If a man loves you, he isn’t emotionally unavailable and you don’t sentir-se emocionalmente negligenciado. Tudo o resto são tretas e desculpas.

He doesn’t leave you waiting for his reply and he doesn’t put you through more sleepless nights in which you are trying to decode what he meant when he said or did something.

He doesn’t make you wonder if he sees you as something temporary or if he considers your relationship as something that has the potential to last a lifetime.

If this man loved you, you wouldn’t be this scared of him leaving you.

You wouldn’t be aware that the two of you don’t have a future together and you wouldn’t be preparing yourself for him walking away from you any day now.

You wouldn’t feel alone in your relationship, the way you are feeling now. You wouldn’t wonder why you aren’t enough e nunca se duvidaria do seu nível de empenhamento.

When a man loves you, he is always there for you; he doesn’t come and go as he likes, expecting you to always be there, where he left you, patiently waiting for him to come crawling back.

He doesn’t call you only when he needs you and he doesn’t treat you as convenient.

The man who loves you won’t text you only when he is drunk and when he’s run out of all other options.

He doesn’t give you a reason to doubt his fidelity and he makes it clear that you are the only woman he could ever be with.

Because when you love someone, you don’t walk out on them at the first glance of a problem. You don’t make them doubt if they can rely on you and you never leave them hanging.

You don’t blame the other person for all the problems that you guys have and you take responsibility for your words and actions.

Lutas por esta relação porque ela também é importante para ti.

E, para ser sincera, não é assim que este homem se comporta. Não é assim que ele a trata e você sabe-o muito bem, mesmo que se recuse a admiti-lo.

Então, porque é que continuas a contentar-te com o seu amor sem convicção, quando sabes que não é o verdadeiro?

Porque é que continuas a dar tudo de ti a alguém que te faz sentir assim?

Porque a verdade é que mereces muito mais. Merece uma relação estável e saudável e uma ligação profunda.

You deserve a love that you know will stay and a man who won’t make you doubt him.