Se vi amasse, non vi darebbe motivo di dubitare di lui

Quando ci si trova in una relazione malsana, si cerca di giustificare tutto ciò che l'altra persona ci fa.

You make excuses for the bad treatment you keep receiving and you try to find love in places where it clearly doesn’t exist.

E in questo processo, si dimentica come dovrebbe essere il vero amore. Si dimentica come dovrebbe comportarsi un uomo che tiene davvero a te.

And you refuse to see the fact that the man you are with now obviously doesn’t love you enough, as soon as he treats you the way he does.

Perché se ti amasse, non ti farebbe mai mettere in discussione lui, le sue intenzioni o i suoi sentimenti.

Non ti darebbe mai un motivo per dubitare di lui o della vostra relazione. E questo è esattamente ciò che tu continui a fare.

Lasciate che vi dica una cosa—non siete pazzi se vi sentite così. Non vi state immaginando le cose e siete insicuri della vostra relazione per un motivo.

Perché se il vostro uomo vi amasse davvero, non farebbe mai questi giochetti mentali che sta facendo con voi.

He would never make you chase him and he wouldn’t pretend to be hard to get.

He wouldn’t make you second-guess his emotions or look for hidden meanings behind his words and actions.

He would never give you a reason not to trust him or to seek hidden clues of his love. He would never make you dig deep to find his emotions, which he isn’t showing.

When a man cares for you, he doesn’t have a problem showing it to you.

He doesn’t pretend to be this tough guy who isn’t in touch with his sé vulnerabile and he certainly doesn’t act like he is scared of letting you in, when he is clearly isn’t.

If a man loves you, he isn’t emotionally unavailable and you don’t sentirsi trascurati emotivamente. Tutto il resto sono stronzate e scuse.

He doesn’t leave you waiting for his reply and he doesn’t put you through more sleepless nights in which you are trying to decode what he meant when he said or did something.

He doesn’t make you wonder if he sees you as something temporary or if he considers your relationship as something that has the potential to last a lifetime.

If this man loved you, you wouldn’t be this scared of him leaving you.

You wouldn’t be aware that the two of you don’t have a future together and you wouldn’t be preparing yourself for him walking away from you any day now.

You wouldn’t feel alone in your relationship, the way you are feeling now. You wouldn’t wonder why you aren’t enough e non si dubiterebbe mai del suo livello di impegno.

When a man loves you, he is always there for you; he doesn’t come and go as he likes, expecting you to always be there, where he left you, patiently waiting for him to come crawling back.

He doesn’t call you only when he needs you and he doesn’t treat you as convenient.

The man who loves you won’t text you only when he is drunk and when he’s run out of all other options.

He doesn’t give you a reason to doubt his fidelity and he makes it clear that you are the only woman he could ever be with.

Because when you love someone, you don’t walk out on them at the first glance of a problem. You don’t make them doubt if they can rely on you and you never leave them hanging.

You don’t blame the other person for all the problems that you guys have and you take responsibility for your words and actions.

Combattete per questa relazione perché è importante anche per voi.

E ad essere onesti, non è così che si comporta questo ragazzo. Non è così che ti tratta e tu lo sai bene, anche se ti rifiuti di ammetterlo.

Allora, perché continuate ad accontentarvi del suo amore a metà, quando sapete che non è quello vero?

Perché continui a dare tutto te stesso a qualcuno che ti fa sentire così?

Perché la verità è che meritate molto di più. Meritate una relazione stabile e sana e una connessione profonda.

You deserve a love that you know will stay and a man who won’t make you doubt him.