Se te rotularam de pegajosa demasiadas vezes, tens de ouvir estas 6 coisas
Ninguém gosta de ouvir isto, mas a verdade é que já foi chamada de pegajosa por mais do que um dos seus namorados no passado.
Even though you probably find this insulting, it’s clear that you have a problem with neediness, and here is everything you need to know about it.
1. Lutar e implorar por amor não são a mesma coisa
People will tell you to fight for love. That is somewhat true; even though real love happens by itself, a healthy relationship certainly needs to be worked on and it doesn’t build itself overnight.
No entanto, existe uma diferença crucial entre lutando pelo amor e implorando por ele and when you’re clingy, you’re actually begging for someone to care for you.
You’ll have to admit that there is nothing dignified about this.
You don’t need a man you’ll force to be with you. You shouldn’t want him to not leave you because he feels sorry for you or because he thinks you have nowhere else to go.
2. You can’t stop a man from leaving you
Aqui está uma dura verdade: se o seu a relação está condenada ao fracassoNão há absolutamente nada que se possa fazer.
If the man you’re dating wants to dump you, you can’t stop him from doing so, as much as you try.
Por conseguinte, a conclusão é que não faz qualquer sentido ser-se pegajoso. O que está destinado a acontecer, acontecerá e não há forma de o impedir desta ou daquela maneira.
So, instead of constantly overthinking and doing everything in your power to keep a man by your side, let him be. Besides, do you really want him to stay with you, knowing that out of pity, he hasn’t left?
3. O apego afasta as pessoas
Compreendo-te; quando amas alguém, queres que essa pessoa esteja sempre perto de ti.
You don’t have the need to spend any of your free time with your friends and family and all you want is to look at this guy’s beautiful face.
However, let me tell you a secret. This kind of behavior won’t draw him closer to you. In fact, it will actually just chase him away.
This is true for all people out there and especially for men. When you’re all over a guy, he won’t see that as a sign of your enormous affection for him.
Instead, he’ll see it as a red flag and an alarming sign to run away for his life.
Simplesmente sentem-se sufocados e ameaçados neste tipo de situações e, normalmente, obtém-se o efeito oposto ao que se pretendia inicialmente.
4. Your happiness shouldn’t depend on someone else
The bottom line here is that you’re clingy out of the fear of losing the person you love.
This is something nobody should judge you for. After all, as soon as you care for someone, it’s pretty natural that you don’t want to be without them.
However, in your case, that fear paralyzes you and prevents you from thinking straight. You’re convinced that your happiness depends on your boyfriend, which is certainly not the case.
Lembre-se de que precisa de ser feliz sozinho, com ou sem um parceiro romântico. Só assim o seu comportamento carente chegará ao fim.
5. Há uma diferença entre o comportamento amoroso e o comportamento carente
Embora deva fazer o seu melhor para não ser pegajoso, tenha também em mente que, nos encontros modernos, algumas coisas normais são consideradas demasiado carentes.
No entanto, deixem-me dizer-vos que há uma enorme diferença entre comportamento carinhoso e pegajoso.
You see, you’re not needy for wanting affection and attention. You’re not needy for considering it natural to hear from your boyfriend every day or to see him a few times a week.
You’re not clingy for having the need to spend time with him. You’re not clingy for wanting commitment and dedication.
6. The right person won’t think of you as clingy
On the other hand, if you do all of the above and you know that you’re not exaggerating but you’re still being called clingy, maybe it’s time to reconsider your choice of partner.
No final do dia, pode não ser de todo carente. Quando encontrar a pessoa certa, ela irá apreciar tudo o que fizer por ela.
Ele vai considerar-se sortudo por ter uma rapariga que o ama como tu.
