Nobody likes to hear this but the truth is that you’ve been called clingy by more than one of your boyfriends in the past.
Even though you probably find this insulting, it’s clear that you have a problem with neediness, and here is everything you need to know about it.
1. Fighting and begging for love are not the same
People will tell you to fight for love. That is somewhat true; even though real love happens by itself, a healthy relationship certainly needs to be worked on and it doesn’t build itself overnight.
However, there is a crucial difference between fighting for love and begging for it and when you’re clingy, you’re actually begging for someone to care for you.
You’ll have to admit that there is nothing dignified about this.
You don’t need a man you’ll force to be with you. You shouldn’t want him to not leave you because he feels sorry for you or because he thinks you have nowhere else to go.
2. You can’t stop a man from leaving you
Here is a harsh truth: If your relationship is doomed to fail, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.
If the man you’re dating wants to dump you, you can’t stop him from doing so, as much as you try.
Therefore, the bottom line is that there is no point whatsoever in being clingy. What is meant to be will happen and there is no way you can prevent it this way or another.
So, instead of constantly overthinking and doing everything in your power to keep a man by your side, let him be. Besides, do you really want him to stay with you, knowing that out of pity, he hasn’t left?
3. Clinginess chases people away
I understand you; when you love someone, you want them to constantly be near you.
You don’t have the need to spend any of your free time with your friends and family and all you want is to look at this guy’s beautiful face.
However, let me tell you a secret. This kind of behavior won’t draw him closer to you. In fact, it will actually just chase him away.
This is true for all people out there and especially for men. When you’re all over a guy, he won’t see that as a sign of your enormous affection for him.
Instead, he’ll see it as a red flag and an alarming sign to run away for his life.
They simply feel suffocated and threatened in these kinds of situations and you usually get the opposite effect of what you initially wanted to achieve.
4. Your happiness shouldn’t depend on someone else
The bottom line here is that you’re clingy out of the fear of losing the person you love.
This is something nobody should judge you for. After all, as soon as you care for someone, it’s pretty natural that you don’t want to be without them.
However, in your case, that fear paralyzes you and prevents you from thinking straight. You’re convinced that your happiness depends on your boyfriend, which is certainly not the case.
Remember that you need to be happy on your own, with or without a romantic partner. Only then will your needy behavior come to an end.
5. There is a difference between loving and needy behavior
Even though you should do your best not to be clingy, also have in mind that in modern dating, some normal things are considered as too needy.
However, let me tell you that there is a huge difference between caring and clingy behavior.
You see, you’re not needy for wanting affection and attention. You’re not needy for considering it natural to hear from your boyfriend every day or to see him a few times a week.
You’re not clingy for having the need to spend time with him. You’re not clingy for wanting commitment and dedication.
6. The right person won’t think of you as clingy
On the other hand, if you do all of the above and you know that you’re not exaggerating but you’re still being called clingy, maybe it’s time to reconsider your choice of partner.
At the end of the day, you might not be needy at all. Once you find the right person, he will appreciate everything you do for him.
He will consider himself lucky for having a girl who loves him the way you do.