Si Te Han Tachado Demasiadas Veces De Pegajosa, Tienes Que Oír Estas 6 Cosas
A nadie le gusta oír esto, pero la verdad es que más de uno de tus novios te ha llamado pegajosa en el pasado.
Even though you probably find this insulting, it’s clear that you have a problem with neediness, and here is everything you need to know about it.
1. Luchar y mendigar amor no es lo mismo
People will tell you to fight for love. That is somewhat true; even though real love happens by itself, a healthy relationship certainly needs to be worked on and it doesn’t build itself overnight.
Sin embargo, hay una diferencia crucial entre luchando por el amor y suplicando por él and when you’re clingy, you’re actually begging for someone to care for you.
You’ll have to admit that there is nothing dignified about this.
You don’t need a man you’ll force to be with you. You shouldn’t want him to not leave you because he feels sorry for you or because he thinks you have nowhere else to go.
2. You can’t stop a man from leaving you
He aquí una cruda verdad: si su la relación está condenada al fracasono hay absolutamente nada que puedas hacer al respecto.
If the man you’re dating wants to dump you, you can’t stop him from doing so, as much as you try.
Por lo tanto, la conclusión es que no tiene ningún sentido ser pegajoso. Lo que tiene que suceder sucederá y no hay forma de evitarlo de esta u otra manera.
So, instead of constantly overthinking and doing everything in your power to keep a man by your side, let him be. Besides, do you really want him to stay with you, knowing that out of pity, he hasn’t left?
3. El aferramiento ahuyenta a la gente
Te entiendo; cuando amas a alguien, quieres que esté constantemente cerca de ti.
You don’t have the need to spend any of your free time with your friends and family and all you want is to look at this guy’s beautiful face.
However, let me tell you a secret. This kind of behavior won’t draw him closer to you. In fact, it will actually just chase him away.
This is true for all people out there and especially for men. When you’re all over a guy, he won’t see that as a sign of your enormous affection for him.
Instead, he’ll see it as a red flag and an alarming sign to run away for his life.
Simplemente se sienten asfixiados y amenazados en este tipo de situaciones y normalmente se consigue el efecto contrario de lo que se quería conseguir inicialmente.
4. Your happiness shouldn’t depend on someone else
The bottom line here is that you’re clingy out of the fear of losing the person you love.
This is something nobody should judge you for. After all, as soon as you care for someone, it’s pretty natural that you don’t want to be without them.
However, in your case, that fear paralyzes you and prevents you from thinking straight. You’re convinced that your happiness depends on your boyfriend, which is certainly not the case.
Recuerda que necesitas ser feliz por ti mismo, con o sin pareja. Sólo entonces tu comportamiento necesitado llegará a su fin.
5. Hay una diferencia entre comportamiento cariñoso y comportamiento necesitado
Aunque debes hacer todo lo posible por no ser pegajoso, ten en cuenta también que en las citas modernas, algunas cosas normales se consideran demasiado necesitadas.
Sin embargo, permítanme decirles que hay una gran diferencia entre comportamiento cariñoso y pegajoso.
You see, you’re not needy for wanting affection and attention. You’re not needy for considering it natural to hear from your boyfriend every day or to see him a few times a week.
You’re not clingy for having the need to spend time with him. You’re not clingy for wanting commitment and dedication.
6. The right person won’t think of you as clingy
On the other hand, if you do all of the above and you know that you’re not exaggerating but you’re still being called clingy, maybe it’s time to reconsider your choice of partner.
Al fin y al cabo, puede que no estés necesitado en absoluto. Cuando encuentres a la persona adecuada, apreciará todo lo que hagas por ella.
Se considerará afortunado por tener una chica que le quiere como tú.
