Se tens de te curvar para trás para estar com ele, ele não é a pessoa certa

É tão difícil ser sempre aquele que está a fazer todo o esforço enquanto o outro lado não faz absolutamente nada.

You bend over backward for someone, you do the impossible to make things between the two of you work even though you know deep down it’s pointless but you can’t seem to help yourself.

Gostamos tanto deles que continuamos a tentar na esperança de que eles nos encontrem a meio caminho. Infelizmente, quase nunca o fazem.

Your emotions shouldn’t exhaust you.

Sure, relationships demand investments but they have to go from both sides. They re about give and take and you can’t just keep on giving without getting anything in return.

Esgotarás cada átomo da tua força. Sentirás falta do calor. Sentirás falta de ter alguém em quem te apoiar. Sentirás falta de tudo o que continuas a dar de forma tão desinteressada.

Vais ter saudades tuas porque, sem dares por isso, estarás emocionalmente esgotado sem nada para dar, nem a si nem aos outros.

You shouldn’t take the role of a martyr in your relationship. True love doesn’t need sacrifices to that extent.

Deste tanto a ele que não tens mais nada para dar a ti própria.

He shouldn’t behave like he is entitled to your heart. He shouldn’t expect your call or text when he hasn’t reached out for hours or even days. He shouldn’t rely on you to make plans and go above and beyond so you guys could meet.

He shouldn’t take for granted the fact that you are always there for him when he needs you. He shouldn’t come and go from your life and assume that you can flip the switch on your heart.

You might be used to all of that but that’s not how things should work.

You will probably come to a point where everything starts to feel normal even though it’s far from it. You are just used to things being bad that you have made peace with it.

This is your wake up call. It’s time to stop fighting for someone who isn’t right for you. It’s time to stop being a doormat he walks on.

Deves ser a luz do seu mundo e não algo que ele possa pisar.

Tens de tomar consciência de que mereces mais. Merece o amor que continua a dar. Mereces alguém em quem possas confiar.

Someone you can call or wake up in the middle of the night because you just had a nightmare you can’t snap out of. Someone who makes you laugh and enjoys your smiling face.

Alguém que te respeite. Alguém que faz todas aquelas pequenas grandes coisas como enviar mensagens de texto regularmente (em vez de ignorar as suas mensagens) e planear os encontros com antecedência. Alguém que esteja envolvido e investido na relação tanto quanto você.

Everything else is too little. Everything else is just crumbs. Everything else is forcing a relationship that isn’t meant to be.

The bad shouldn’t outweigh the good.

Your emotions shouldn’t jump up and down from happiness to sadness based on his mood of that day. Sure everyone has their bad days but that doesn’t mean you can take it off out another person or treat her like crap.

O amor é gentil e nunca nos deve magoar. Nunca deve fazer-nos sentir pequenos e não apreciados. Nunca deve fazer-te sentir-se sozinho .

True love doesn’t tolerate onesidedness.

It needs balance. It needs equal investments. It needs to flow from one person to the other. It needs reciprocity. Without it, it can’t survive.

You know that well. Just peak into your heart and see that it isn’t full anymore. It lacks affection and attention and, more importantly, it lacks self-love.

If he truly was the one you wouldn’t have to bend over backward to be with him.

You shouldn’t have to work so hard to keep him in your life. You shouldn’t go to all the lengths to make him treat you properly. You shouldn’t read his mixed signals and be the one who always tries and gives more.

He should be there, too. He should give back all that he is taking. He should be there through thick or thin. He should be in this relationship with you. And that’s the only truth.

No final do dia, o amor é feito para dois. Duas pessoas que gostam muito uma da outra e que fariam tudo para ficarem juntas.