Seguir em frente não significa deixar de amar alguém

When people tell you to ‘move on’ it sounds so easy. Like it’s something that could be done overnight. They make it sound like a magic trick, you just wish for that person to disappear out of your life and they just do. They make it sound like moving on is all about walking away from them and erasing todas essas emoções you had for that special someone, when in actuality it’s nothing like that. Moving on isn’t about not loving someone anymore!

Seguir em frente é muito difícil. Pode querer apressá-la, pode querer que toda a dor desapareça agora mesmo, mas deixe-me dizer-lhe que não é disso que se trata. Por isso, evite que o seu coração partido se parta mais uma vez, evite que os seus olhos chorem e salve-se desta ideia errada que foi introduzida na sua vida sem o seu consentimento.

Moving on is about still being able to say that you love someone, saying that you regret the things that you have done wrong, saying that you would love for things to have turned out in a different way, but still not wanting to go back. This is what moving on truly is because you’re able to say:

“I still love you but you do not deserve me because you weren’t able to treat me right!”

It’s that feeling of melancholy that makes you remember your heartbreak the moment you realized that they didn’t love you as purely as you loved them. Seguir em frente daquele sentimento mágico quando sabemos que fomos suficientemente fortes para nos afastarmos de alguém que nos era tão querido e continuamos a pôr um pé à frente do outro enquanto nos afastamos, tanto quanto possível.

That’s why you should feel sad about not having them in your life anymore. They were there, by your side when you needed them the most, and now they simply do not deserve to be there and hold your hand any longer. You have put too much time and effort into this person and their love that now you have for yourself is a much bigger priority to you than they are.

It is better this way. It’s better for you to stop something at the right time instead of waiting para que mude e convencendo-se de que um dia tudo será como deve ser, apesar de não ver essa pessoa a fazer nada para melhorar e mostrar-lhe o seu amor e carinho. So why stay any longer and try to fix something that’s broken beyond repair?

Just because something ends, doesn’t mean that it should have never happened. You loved in a way that you didn’t think to be possible. You loved him so purely, so kindly and gently. You loved him like you never loved anyone before him and that was your success because you were able to look past everything and still love him. He has taught you a lesson. He has made you stronger, because he made you come to these conclusions and make these decisions. It should have happened just the way it did.

So do not beat yourself up about the fact that you still love him. Your heart is big enough to hold the love you have for him inside. It doesn’t mean that you should hate yourself for doing so, it means that you will just need more time. Ama-o e vai amá-lo durante mais algum tempo, mas não há problema nenhum nisso.

Foi capaz de se afastar de um homem que amava. I can’t even describe how impressed I am! I love the way your strength has increased, so do not stop here! Keep on walking, keep on building a road that leads away from him. One day you can say that you have let go for sure.

Mas, por agora, seguir em frente sem deixar de o amar é suficiente. Não te pressiones. Não se culpe. Não se sinta mal por o amar. Simplesmente tem um passado que a faz continuar a pensar nele e isso é perfeitamente normal. Abrace-o e deixe que ele a inspire a continuar a caminhar!