8 Sinais de que ele está definitivamente a desperdiçar o teu tempo, mesmo que tenhas a certeza de que ele é o tal
É incrível como, por vezes, nos apaixonamos e nunca vemos os sinais de que alguém não é quem pensamos que é.
So, there’s a guy in your life, right?
You think that you’re amazing together but there’s this little scared voice in your head telling you that there’s something wrong.
So, you silence that voice, and make yourself believe everything is just perfect. But what if it isn’t?
Continue a ler para se informar atempadamente e evitar uma grande deceção mais tarde.
1. He doesn’t initiate meaningful conversations
Um homem que se vê a passar uma vida inteira consigo estará ansioso por aprender o máximo de coisas sobre si.
A intimidade e a ligação entre duas pessoas que estão verdadeiramente apaixonadas é um laço muito importante que faz com que as pessoas queiram partilhar tudo com essa pessoa especial.
If he only talks about random, shallow stuff with you, he doesn’t truly care about discovering who you are deep inside.
This goes to show there isn’t true intimidade entre vocês os dois e devem parar de idealizar a vossa relação.
2. Falta-lhe coerência
You maybe haven’t thought about this much, but pay attention. Does it seem to you that he only calls you up when it’s convenient for him?
Não está disposto a mudar os seus planos por si e a ir ter consigo quando você o quer ver?
Infelizmente, isto significa que ele provavelmente only calls you when he’s bored e, na verdade, ele tem-no em segundo plano.
You shouldn’t put up with a guy who doesn’t cherish you as a sua primeira escolha – he’s wasting your time.
3. He doesn’t give you the smallest sign of affection or attention
You can’t really remember a time he called just to tell you he was thinking of you.
Everything seems okay when you’re together, but once he’s away, he’s definitely away, with no sign of his existence whatsoever.
Of course, everybody has a lot on their plate, but sending a quick message doesn’t really take much time.
This probably means that he’s not thinking of you as much as you’re thinking of him, which is a clear sign he’s a time waster and not who you believe him to be.
4. He doesn’t ask about your day
When you get together he’s willing to talk about anything and share details of his day, but he hardly ever asks about yours.
Quando gostamos verdadeiramente de alguém, interessamo-nos imenso pelo que lhe aconteceu durante o tempo em que estivemos afastados.
Not asking how your day went means he’s focused on himself and the fun part of your relationship – he doesn’t really care much about you, your feelings, habits, or your life in general.
You may not notice this at first, but as time passes you’ll start sentir-se só e abandonado na vossa relação.
5. Ele mente-lhe
You may never have caught him lying about something big, but you’ve noticed he isn’t a stranger to telling quite a few small lies.
He feels comfortable lying and you can tell that it’s a part of who he is.
Pode pensar que ele só lhe contou essas mentiras para parecer melhor, porque estava nervoso para que o visse da melhor maneira possível.
Still, the truth is, if he ever planned anything serious with you, he’d be open about who he is from the very beginning.
You can’t base a relationship on lies.
6. Nunca repara nos pormenores
Even though it’s not uncommon for guys not to notice every little detail about us gals, a guy who truly loves you will notice plenty.
He’ll at least know your favorite movie, band, food… what makes you laugh and the things that you don’t like or those that make you mad.
When you think about it, most of us know these things about many of our acquaintances, why wouldn’t he know about yours?
Well, the answer is simple – it’s because he isn’t interested in getting to know you better or making you happy.
7. Nunca pergunta sobre os seus planos para o futuro
Uma pessoa que o ama preocupa-se com os seus sonhos, objectivos e planos para o futuro.
Whether you’re at the beginning of your relationship or you’ve been dating for a while, a guy who wants to be with you will be intrigued by how you want to spend your time in the future.
If he envisioned spending his future with you, he’d definitely ask questions about the way you see yours.
If he hasn’t, I’m sorry to say that he probably doesn’t see himself spending that much time with you, no matter how you feel about him.
8. Ele nunca faz perguntas sobre as outras pessoas da sua vida
You’ve never heard him mention your friends or family. You might think that he’s just not that curious and he only cares about what he has with you, but…
A guy who’s getting to know you and is willing to commit to you will definitely care about finding out at least a couple of things about your upbringing, the names of your parents, if you have siblings, or what are your friends like.
