Se um homem que amas faz estas 7 coisas, tens de o deixar ir

Relationships are unpredictable, and there is nothing you can do about it. It may start off as perfect, and you may even think that you’re going to love and be with each other for the rest of your lives.

But sadly, things don’t always work that way. Sadly, sometimes the situation takes its own course, and no matter what you try to do about it, you’ll fail.

Love is not easy, and it shouldn’t be easy. Imagine all those emotions and experiences intertwined with each other. How could that not be complicated?

O amor dá trabalho e as relações dão trabalho. Tudo o que vale a pena ter requer trabalho e sacrifício.

Por isso, quando se deparam com um obstáculo na vossa relação, têm de lutar e tentar melhorar a situação.

Be mature about it, and consider it like you’ve hit a dead end. Now, you have to do something about it. Don’t quit because that’s the easy way to go, and anyone can quit.

Seja um lutador e faça tudo o que puder para salvar algo que provavelmente vale a pena salvar.

Esta é uma forma de ver as coisas. Mas há o outro lado da história. Tal como é preciso saber quando se deve ser teimoso e lutar, também é preciso saber quando se deve desistir.

You can’t make up love out of thin air. You can’t force passion and emotions. If they aren’t there, then you’ll definitely have to call it quits.

If the relationship you’re in is just not for you, it’s never going to work out. No matter how hard you try, you’re never going to be happy.

So the best thing you can do, but also the hardest one if you love the man you’re with, is to just deixá-lo ir. It’s something that has to be done sooner or later.

In the beginning, it will be hard, and you’re going to hurt, but as time goes by, you’ll see that you made the right call.

If he does these things, don’t think twice and just leave:

1. Os seus interesses são diferentes

You’re simply not on the same page. You like one thing, and he likes something else completely. You can’t change that.

You can try to do something together, but if neither of you enjoys it, then what’s the point?

You can’t seem to see eye to eye when it comes to the future. You want to do or have one thing, and he wants something completely else.

Por isso, se pensarmos bem, a nossa relação é definido para falhar from the beginning, so why wait? Break it off right now. You’ll thank yourself later.

2. Estão sempre a discutir sobre as mesmas coisas

It’s like you’re going around in circles. You fight, then you make up and everything is perfect for the next few days, but that doesn’t last for long.

After the short-term peace, you fight again and surprise, surprise – it’s about the same thing again.

If you can’t sort out the thing you’re fighting about constantly, then you’re not made for each other.

There is clearly something he resents you for doing and the other way around. If you can’t work that out, let him go.

3. He’s needy

You think you can spot neediness miles away? Well, it’s not as simple as that every time. Neediness comes in different forms.

Uma delas é ele fazer de ti o centro do seu universo.

That can easily be mistaken for love, when it’s actually him being incompetent to live without you.

Começa assim e acaba com ele a proibir-te de saíres e de andares com outras pessoas.

Then, he’ll get more and more jealous, and your life will slowly turn into a living hell.

4. Ele quebra a tua confiança

He is not fully in love as much as you. He doesn’t have problems with hurting you. Yes, he apologizes and says he didn’t mean it, but then he completely does the same thing all over again.

Isto torna-nos vulneráveis e parte-nos o coração. Mais importante ainda, quebra a sua confiança. Passado algum tempo, as suas palavras e promessas não significarão absolutamente nada para si.

You can’t go on living with someone you don’t trust.

5. You’re the only one trying

It takes two to tango, and he left you completely alone. Obviously, he doesn’t care about the two of you as much as you do.

Relationships take hard work, and if both of you are not giving it all you’ve got, then the relationship will come to an end.

It’s completely heartless to let one person do all the work and show up in the end when everything is done. Relações unilaterais don’t work and if you’re in one, do yourself a favor and leave.

6. Sente-se inferior a ele

In your relationship, you don’t feel like an equal to your partner. You feel like you’re giving a lot and receiving nothing in return.

No matter how hard you try to make him feel comfortable and happy in your relationship, you continuously feel like you’re not giving your best and that maybe you’re even incapable of doing so.

He makes you feel like you’re not good enough because everything you do is not enough for him. This hurts your self-esteem, and you feel like shit. If this is the case, leave.

7. You’re not happy

Let’s face it. Your life is shit. You’re not happy, and love provokes pain and stress rather than beautiful feelings. Well, love is hard, but it doesn’t work that way.

When you truly love someone and he loves you back, even if you fight to the bone, you’ll kiss and make up.

O facto de voltarem um para o outro e as emoções que sentem apagam todas as coisas más que aconteceram antes.

That’s true love. No pain. No hurting because real love makes you forget all of it.