10 razones por las que está bien ser amigo de tu ex

Ser amigo de tu ex no siempre es un completo desastre. A veces, lo creas o no, puede convertirse en una amistad significativa.

After all, that person spent a great amount of time with you and you shared a lot of moments together. You’ve been through good and bad; that is something you don’t forget that easily. You may break up, but you can’t erase the existence of that person.

Although it ended the way it did, you still have some fond memories of your time together. There were times he made you happy when you were together, when he surprised you by doing something beautiful. It wasn’t awful all the time, especially not in the beginning.

Si los dos pudierais centraros en los buenos momentos que habéis pasado juntos en lugar de en cómo os habéis fastidiado el uno al otro, podríais tener una bonita y duradera amistad. Todo lo que hace falta es comprenderse y respetarse.

Here are some reasons why it’s okay for you to be amigos de tu ex.

1. By keeping your heart open, you’ll be able to find love again

Si vives tu vida perdonando a la gente que te hizo mal y abriendo tu corazón a los que te rodean, atraerás también cosas positivas. Algunos lo llaman karma, otros buena suerte, pero la forma en que trates a los demás volverá a ti más adelante.

By maintaining a good relationship with your ex, you’re forgiving yourself. You’re going to be a better person with much more confidence, which will pay off when you finally meet someone new.

2. Fue una ruptura feliz

OK, no break-up is happy, but let’s say that yours wasn’t ugly. You kind of expected it and maybe it was a mutual agreement between two people who just realized that they had nothing in common so they decided to break it off before someone got seriously hurt.

Este tipo de situación es perfecta para el comienzo de una bonita amistad.

3. Ya lo sabe todo sobre ti

It’s easy to talk to him because you don’t have to explain yourself and the things you do or don’t do, or eat or don’t eat. He already knows all of that.

It feels natural talking to him and despite the fact you’re no longer together, it would be nice to act nice and keep him in your life as a friend.

4. Tenéis muchos amigos en común

If you have a lot of mutual friends and you don’t want to create any awkward situations for them, you’re better off staying friends. Imagine if one of your friends is having a birthday party and you are both invited.

Wouldn’t it be better for you to stay friends and go to the party with no resentment or anger that was left from the break-up? Also, you can always stay friends but keep your distance; you don’t have to spend the whole night next to each other.

But it’s also important that you don’t bother each other with your presence.

5. You’ve moved on

You’ve had your share of tears and you’ve passed the healing process. Now that you hold nothing against him, it’s normal to be friends.

Now that you are over him, his new girlfriend won’t bother you and you won’t be staring in his direction the whole time, fearing someone will hit on him.

6. Ya no hay tensión sexual

Tal vez saliste de un relación duradera where sex had turned from a source of pleasure to a habit. And now that you’ve broken up, if someone else attracts you more than your ex-partner, it’s safe to say that you can be lifelong friends.

7. Ambos son emocionalmente maduros

Your maturity allowed you to look at things from a different perspective. You realized that he means a lot to you and that you don’t want to lose him, so if you had to break up, that doesn’t mean you mustn’t see each other ever again. You are reasonable enough to let him into your life as a friend.

8. Dejó de vivir en el pasado

Por fin has seguido adelante y te has dado cuenta de que el pasado debe quedarse donde debe estar. Lo que hayas vivido ya ha quedado atrás y nada de lo que hagas puede cambiarlo.

Lo único que puede cambiar es tu relación con tu ex. Así que, si lo decides, puedes dejarle entrar en tu vida y los dos podéis empezar de nuevo, pero esta vez en papeles diferentes.

9. Te preocupas por los demás

You still care about each other but not in the same way as before. You grew to develop a different relationship, so why should you lose that just because of a stupid unwritten rule that exes shouldn’t be friends. If you want to be friends and if you still have some feelings for each other, do it.

10. Te da buenos consejos

You know that whenever you have a problem you can go to him. Even when you were in a relationship, he knew how to give you good advice. He didn’t do it that often, but when he did, he knew how.

You still value his opinion and you’ve got nothing against him, so he has nothing to lose and he will be completely honest.