Unfuckwithable: 10 señales de que posees el estado mental más deseable

Unfuckwithable – adj. – when you are a person who is truly at peace with yourself, and nothing anyone says or does bothers you, no negativity or drama can touch you.

When you first hear the definition of the word unfuckwithable , you get the impression that the person described somebody who generally doesn’t give a damn about anything or anyone.

Pero lo cierto es que el significado real de la palabra dista mucho de serlo.

To be unfuckwithable means to be a person who knows what he or she wants—going out there and making it happen for yourself.

It means to be a person who doesn’t apologize for being unconventional, making mistakes, having to ask one more time or for going after what he or she wants in the first place .

It means making opportunities for yourself without expecting them to fall from the sky. And in today’s world, you really need to be this kind of person—you really do.

You need to be this kind of person because there will be days and weeks and months that are going to be ugly and in which life is going to burden you with so much weight that you just won’t be able to carry it.

Once that happens, you have to know that the secret fix isn’t in saying a la mierda o en perder la cabeza y mandar a todo el mundo al infierno.

El secreto está en volverse intocable en el sentido de que puedes superar cualquier situación; que siempre eres la persona más grande.

El nivel de tu autoestima debe ser más alto que tus inseguridades cuando otras personas te dicen que no eres suficiente.

Cuando tú mismo tienes la certeza de que eres suficiente, nadie puede meterse contigo; nadie puede detenerte ni desviarte de tu camino.

However, if you’re not quite sure if you belong to this badass crew, here are 10 signs that you have an unfuckhwithable state of mind:

Sabes lo que vales

Opinions other people have about you or your life choices are basically irrelevant. You don’t live to please others, at least not anymore.

You don’t live to fit their rules, and they might not like you because of it. The great thing about it is that you couldn’t care less.

Tienen poca o ninguna influencia en lo que ocurre en tu vida, y les molesta. Lo has hecho tú solo.

You’re free of labels and unburdened by other people’s expectations for you; you are totally free.

The level of your self-love is getting bigger by the day. You know your own worth, and you and it aren’t determined by other people’s opinions of you.

You can’t stand encountering intrusive people, but you still don’t allow yourself to stress about it too much

The only thing that matters to you is that you know who you are, and if someone else doesn’t, well, it’s their problem, not yours.

You don’t stress about the things you can’t control, and you focus on the things you can

There are some things you have no power over, and no matter how much you stress about them, it doesn’t change anything.

Entiendes esta parte de la vida, así que en lugar de estresarte, optas por dejarlo pasar.

You can’t control other people’s behavior toward you, but you’re perfectly in charge of giving people a place in your life.

La forma en que se comportan contigo es lo que determina lo cerca que los tienes de tu corazón.

En lugar de perder la cabeza por las cosas que no están en tus manos, céntrate en las que sí puedes cambiar.

En lugar de intentar corregir todos los errores, intenta que esos errores no se apoderen de tu mente y afecten a tu comportamiento.

Stressing out over things you can’t control is just a pérdida de tiempo para ti, y tú, en cambio, eliges emplear tu tiempo sabiamente.

You don’t allow situations and circumstances to dictate your happiness.

En lugar de eso, optas por afrontar el hecho de que no se puede hacer nada al respecto y te centras en mejorar las cosas que sí puedes.

Usas el miedo como combustible

“Replacing fear with courage is one of the key components of being unfuckwithable ”

― Vishen Lakhiani , The Code of the Extraordinary Mind : 10 Unconventional Laws to Redefine Your Life and Succeed On Your Own Terms

When it’s scary to jump, that’s exactly when you jump. You’re one of those people who gets that a comfort zone won’t stretch by itself.

By just ‘going for it’, you continue to proactively stretch yours.

When things get ugly in life, you don’t run away and hide. You stand up to your fears, and you try to make the best out of every ugly situation.

Conviertes todos tus miedos en combustible que te motiva a conseguir cosas mayores y más grandes.

You don’t bow down before life’s challenges—you make those challenges eventually bow down to you. And you never stop fighting for the things you believe in.

Nunca dejes de luchar por tus sueños, por muy lejanos que te parezcan en ese momento.

You don’t seek approval, but you go with your gut instead

You don’t wait for a green light in life for anything. When you see the opportunity, you simply grab it.

Cuando veas que algo va a hacerte feliz or something is going to make you grow, you don’t wait for somebody to allow you to take it.

Te creas oportunidades sin esperar a que te las den los demás. Confías más en ti mismo que en los demás porque tu instinto nunca te ha fallado hasta ahora.

Y esa es una de las razones por las que la gente suele enfadarse contigo.

They get frustrated because they can’t influence you, no matter how hard they try.

Tu determinación y tu invencibilidad son sencillamente invencibles, y no hay fuerza en el universo que pueda impedirte hacer algo si tu instinto te dice que es lo correcto.

You don’t let others use the best of you without giving back their best in return

Esta es la mejor parte de la unfuckwithability . No dejar que otros usen lo mejor de ti, se alimenten de tu amor o te den toxicidad.

You believe only in the pure things in life, and you aren’t satisfied with mediocrity.

When you give someone all of yourself and they don’t reciprocate, you just stop giving to them, deleting them from your life because they are not digno de ti .

You don’t let other people’s greediness influence your happiness because you have more important things to deal with.

You’re either in or you’re out. There’s no gray area here.

And that’s the same thing you expect from others as well. If they are unable to respect that, you simply say to yourself: “Fuck them” and continue living your best life without them.

Te mantienes feliz y saludable, sin permitir que la toxicidad de los demás te afecte.

Being unfuckwithable means believing you matter. You know you’re not just another face in the crowd.

You accept the fact that you’re just human and that you’re in charge of your happiness and your life.

You know that you don’t have to apologize for taking care of yourself and for fighting for your own happiness.

Por lo tanto, nunca te disculpes por no dejar que la gente tóxica o cualquier tipo de toxicidad entre en tu refugio seguro.

Te ocupas de tus sueños, tus deseos y anhelos, y también de otras personas (las que merecen ese trato).

Tu círculo de amistades es pequeño, pero está formado por personas de la máxima calidad en las que confías con todo tu corazón y toda tu alma.

Sabes perdonarte a ti mismo

If you’re an unfuckwithable person, you know the importance of forgiving yourself.

You understand that you’re just a human being like everyone else and that it is okay to make mistakes from time to time.

Nunca haces daño a nadie a propósito. Nunca haces estupideces a propósito, pero cuando cometes alguna de ellas por accidente, sabes que sólo fue un error, y la vida sigue.

You forgive yourself because there’s no point in dwelling on your past and torturing yourself with what ifs.

You believe in the present and in what is happening now. You don’t let yourself feel miserable for something that is irrelevant to your well-being and for something that isn’t a big deal.

En lugar de preocuparte constantemente por tu pasado, disfrutas de las pequeñas cosas del presente porque son lo único que te importa.

Tienes una curiosidad desmedida

Being unapologetically curious means not being afraid to ask people about something you’re interested in, no matter how awkward it might be.

En lugar de darle vueltas constantemente a las cosas, simplemente preguntas lo que quieres saber sin avergonzarte ni preocuparte de que lo encuentren ofensivo.

You don’t let other people’s words entrap you. When something is fishy to you, you instantly ask them about it honestly, and you expect the same.

And if they are not ready to ‘cooperate’, you just leave because la vida es demasiado corta para perder el tiempo en gilipolleces y gente falsa.

Juega con tus puntos fuertes

Eres consciente de todos tus puntos fuertes y los utilizas sabiamente en tu beneficio.

Perhaps you are good at persuading other people or negotiating. Perhaps you’re just good with words, and you don’t let anyone impose their ideals on you.

You always think twice before you say anything because you’re aware of the fact that words are your most powerful tool.

Jugar con tus puntos fuertes se ha convertido en parte de ti, y a veces los demás no pueden evitar sentir celos de ello.

And your reply to them is one of the unfuckwithable sentences that you have as a backup for every ‘special occasion’.

You’re always one step ahead of every game which makes it impossible for others to manipulate you.

Cuando quieres algo, trabajas duro para conseguirlo

You don’t just wait for everything to be served to you.

Cuando quieres algo, siempre te aseguras de arremangarse and do the work . And you never let anyone tell you that you can’t do something before you’ve even tried.

Crees que puedes conseguir cualquier cosa si trabajas duro por ello y nunca te rindes pase lo que pase.

Y si alguien intenta joderte en tu camino hacia el logro, no tienes más que activar tu botón de no joder y borrar al instante su existencia.

When you want something, you devote all of your time to it, and you aren’t satisfied until it is completed.

E incluso si fracasas en ello, simplemente vuelves a intentarlo, sin importar cuántas veces te hayan dicho que deberías cambiar a otra cosa.

As an unfuckwithable person, you believe in the beauty of your dreams and in the beauty of turning a blind eye to those who don’t understand it.