10 señales de que no quiere una relación
En la era de las citas modernas y casi relaciones, saber a qué atenerse con su hombre es casi imposible.
Con él huyendo del compromiso y fingiendo tener una enfermedad mortal sólo para evitar la charla, la única manera de saber a qué atenerse es buscar señales.
And, well, they’re more than obvious. Your rose-tinted shades may blind you from seeing them clearly, but they’re still there.
Acaba de romper con otra persona
There’s a great chance you might end up as a rebound girl.
Dating someone who just got out of a relationship and hasn’t had time to move on is a one-way ticket to getting your heartbroken.
And it’s no wonder he refuses to talk about you two moving on from casually hooking up, because he’s simply not ready to enter another relationship.
Puede que incluso siga enamorado de su ex.
He doesn’t take you on serious dates
Si vuestras citas sólo se basan en ligar, Netflix and chill y pasar tiempo juntos en tu casa o en la suya, sin salir nunca juntos en público o invitar a otros a casa, podrías ser sólo su reclamo sexual.
It’s okay if you’re down with this kind of a relationship, but if you’re hoping to have a real one, maybe he’s not the guy to have it with.
If he’s not ready to take you out properly and show you off, he won’t be ready to commit to you.
Te mereces a alguien que salga contigo el resto de tu vida, no que te esconda desde el primer día.
He disappears for days and pretends it’s not a big deal
Si le importas de verdad, te dedicará tiempo y espacio en su vida.
Even if he has no time to spend with you, he will text you and let you know that he’s thinking of you.
But if he takes vacations from your relationship without even getting in touch with you before or during it, he’s simply not worried about losing you.
If he knows that you’ll be waiting for him no matter how shitty his behavior is, there’s no reason for him to commit to you or change for you.
¿Por qué lo haría? Él tiene todos los beneficios de una relación sin estar en una.
Te abandona en el último minuto
He knew he had other plans on your date night, he just didn’t bother to let you know about them before it was too late.
Te mantiene como una red de seguridad, para que si sus otros planes fracasan, tenga alguien a quien acudir.
Or simply he doesn’t feel like going out in public with you.
There’s no reason you should put up with this behavior, so put yourself first for once and ditch his lying ass.
Te mantiene separada de sus amigos
You never got to meet them and he keeps telling you, “You’d be bored, you won’t like them.”
But the thing is, when you’re dating someone, you want everyone to meet that special someone.
You want to make sure your friends behave properly so your significant other will like them, you want to make sure to involve that person in every single part of your life, because they’re already a big part of it anyway.
If he keeps you away from his friends and family, he just doesn’t plan on moving forward with you.
Nunca se compromete
It’s either his way or no way. If you want to go out to the movies or grab some dinner, he insists you stay home. And you stay home.
If you feel like clubbing and he feels like going to a game, he goes to the game. He doesn’t have the word compromise in his vocabulary.
It’s simple—he doesn’t care about you or your feelings. Sólo se preocupa por él, lo que no deja lugar para ti en su corazón.
¿Realmente vale la pena perder el sueño por él?
He’s only affectionate in private—never in public
When you’re alone, he can’t keep his hands off of you. He kisses you, touches you and drives you crazy with desire.
But the moment you step outside, he turns all ‘coworker’ mode.
He won’t even hold your hand and if he sees someone he knows, he only introduces you by your name, without labeling what you are to him.
If he decides to put on a label, it’s ‘friend’. His excuse: There’s no reason for anyone to know about my private life.
Nunca habla del futuro y evita hacer planes futuros
He never talks about the future, simply because he doesn’t plan on having one with you.
Si incluso intentas hablarle de algún plan de futuro, cambia de tema y pasa rápidamente a otra cosa sin darte ni siquiera información.
And if you try to have ‘the talk’ with him, he says he’s not ready, he’s too tired, etc. He avoids anything that has any connection with commitment and labeling your relationship.
He says he’s bad at dating
Poor little thing, and now I’m supposed to make you better at it? No.
This is an attention seeking excuse, where in case anything shitty happens, he can say, “I warned you.”
No, you didn’t. You just never felt like putting any effort into this relationship, into us.
¿Desde cuándo ser malo en algo es una excusa para no intentar mejorarlo?
I’m bad at cooking, and still I’m regularly burning my pans and smoking up my kitchen. Lo importante es no rendirse nunca.
He says he doesn’t want a relationship
This seems quite self-explanatory, but the thing is, almost-relationships are everywhere now. It’s when you’re practically boyfriend and girlfriend, although you’re NOT.
When he says that he doesn’t want a relationship or is not ready for one, what he really means is that he doesn’t want one with you.
We all want to believe that we’re the one who can change his mind, the one he will finally commit to. But we’re not.
I’ve been there; I fell in love with a man who made me his almost, but he never made me his choice. He never showed any will to do so, no matter how hard I tried and hoped.
No importaba lo que hiciera, lo buena o mala que fuera, él nunca me vio como su novia.
It’s not because there’s something wrong with me, it’s not because I didn’t try enough (trust me, I did), it’s simply because he never wanted a relationship in the first place.
Sólo quería los beneficios de tener uno.
