No me deja en paz: 10 sorprendentes razones y qué hacer

He won’t leave me alone. You’ve just read one of the most tiring and confusing sentences in the world. Let me explain to you why.

The two of you broke up and suddenly he’s been calling you on a regular basis, sending you gifts and trying to talk to you desperately.

Or perhaps he was the one who initiated the breakup in the first place and now he’s finding excuses only to get closer to you.

¿Por qué lo hacen los hombres? ¿Por qué les cuesta tanto dejarte en paz when you’re finally good without them?

Maybe this was a rhetorical question. Most of the time they won’t leave you alone because they see you’re good without them. And men are really sensitive when it comes to this.

They cannot get over the fact that you don’t NEED them and puedes ser feliz sin ellos.

They want to feel wanted and sometimes they choose to torment you only out of spite and jealousy (especially if they hear that you’ve been seeing someone).

Se convierten en psicópatas gelatinosos que pierden el control sobre sí mismos. Y es entonces cuando cruzan la frontera. Pero también hay otra cara de la moneda.

¿Todavía siente algo por ti?

Some guys don’t want to leave you alone because they still have feelings for you. Or they’re disappointed in someone else and now they’ve realized that you were the right choice for them all this time.

Esto es muy difícil de aceptar y tienes todo el derecho a estar enfadada con él.

No one deserves to be a second choice and you should never give him the satisfaction of letting him into your life again if you’re not 100% sure that he’s changed.

Sólo entonces y exclusivamente entonces podrá considerar la opción de dándole una segunda oportunidad. If he’s texting you constantly, pay attention to his texting style.

¿Crees que ha cambiado desde entonces? ¿Sientes que realmente te echa de menos y quiere que vuelvas?

Also, if you’re seeing him, presta atención a su lenguaje corporal and always read between the lines and this will help you find the real reason why he won’t leave you alone.

What Does It Mean When A Guy Won’t Leave You Alone?

If a guy won’t leave you alone, it could mean that he’s bored or lonely, he feels guilty, he knows you’ll give him a second chance, or he’s emotionally manipulating you. There are lots of other reasons why a guy won’t leave you alone and we’ll cover all of them below.

However, the reasons why he’s acting like this also depend on the type of relationship you had with him and who initiated the breakup (if you broke up).

Perhaps he initiated the breakup and now he realized that he shouldn’t have done that. Or you broke up with him and now he’s begging you to give him a second chance.

Sometimes, guys won’t leave you alone because they want to jugar contigo a juegos mentales. Otras veces, realmente todavía sienten algo por ti y desean reunirse contigo.

I hope the following reasons why he won’t leave you alone will help you understand what exactly is going on inside his head.

He Won’t Leave Me Alone: 10 Possible Reasons Why

Se siente solo

Why won’t he leave me alone? Well, guys sometimes decide to haunt you only because they feel lonely.

Lo han compartido todo con usted cuando estaban juntos y ahora les cuesta cambiar de rutina.

Se sienten solos y lo primero que se les ocurre es acosarte en las redes sociales, enviarte mensajes o llamarte. Confunde el sentimiento de soledad con el afecto.

He starts thinking that maybe he’s made a mistake for letting you go. He doesn’t understand that this is just a phase that he needs to go through in order to recuperarse de una ruptura.

Quiere sexo

Another reason why he’s not leaving you alone is because he wants to have sex with you.

Quizás vuestro sexo seguía siendo estupendo aunque los dos os hayáis perdido de alguna manera y por eso el deseo sexual sigue presente.

Now you think if he’s only into sex, why he didn’t choose someone else instead of you. And you’re right about it.

Podría haber elegido acostarse con otra, pero evidentemente, te quiere a ti. Y si le aceptas de nuevo, que sepas que nada cambiará, pero te convertirás en sólo amigos con derecho a roce.

Está aburrido.

He won’t leave me alone. ¿Se aburre, se siente solo o realmente me echa de menos?

Sometimes there’s not a specific reason for his behavior and his excessive calls and texts you receive on a daily basis are only the result of his boredom.

I know it’s hard to understand this, but guys sometimes go crazy (especially if they have nothing specific to do; no hobbies, job, or any other kind of entertainment).

También lo hará si te ve en las redes sociales divirtiéndote sin él. Por eso, se sentirá aún más aburrido y esto será un detonante para que se ponga en contacto contigo.

Él te enviará textos coquetos sólo para cabrearte porque esa es la única fuente de entretenimiento para él. Y si te enfadas, entonces es cuando prepara palomitas y disfruta viéndote enloquecer.

He knows you’ll give him a second chance

Do you have boundaries? Have you had boundaries while the two of you were together? If he knows that you’re too nice, he won’t leave you alone that easily.

He will try to get a second chance from you just because he’s sure that you’ll fall for his nice words and whatever he decides to sell you.

To avoid this, tell him strictly how you feel about it and if you don’t want him in your life anymore, let him know.

Repeat it a few more times if needed and I’m sure he will understand your message. Don’t give him a second chance just because he knows he can get it. Let him luchar duro para ganárselo.

Te echa de menos

He won’t leave me alone. ¿Significa eso que realmente me echa de menos?

Sometimes he’s simply unable to leave you alone because he genuinely misses you. He spends a good amount of time thinking about you, your first date and trying to figure out how your romantic relationship ended.

Echa de menos tu forma de sonreír, tus besos e incluso vuestras pequeñas peleas. Si tus cosas y regalos siguen en su casa, esto hará que te eche aún más de menos.

When we’re attached to someone, every single thing that used to belong to them will remind us of them.

It’s really hard to get rid of this feeling and no matter how hard he tries fighting the urge to text you, he’ll simply lose it every time.

El momento más crítico es por la noche y si te manda mensajes todas las noches cuánto te echa de menos y no puede dormirse sin ti, que sepas que es verdad.

Este chico te echa de menos de verdad y podrías plantearte darle una segunda oportunidad.

Se siente culpable

If he’s the one who initiated the breakup and now he’s constantly trying to reach you and subtly apologizing to you, it is an ultimate sign of guilt. A lot of people go through that when they make a hasty decision to end a relationship.

He finds it hard to live with a guilty conscience and he’ll do anything for you to forgive him. This doesn’t have to necessarily mean that he wants to reunirme contigo.

He might just want to get rid of the feeling of being guilty and that is why he needs your approval that you’ve forgiven him so that he can continue with his life.

But, if you’re not ready to forgive him, don’t force yourself only to make him feel better. Instead, ignore his texts and calls if necessary and contact him when you feel ready.

Está celoso

This is one of the most common reasons why guys don’t want to leave you alone even though you’re finally happy without them.

He simply cannot accept the fact that you’re having the time of your life while he’s rotting inside and waiting for you to notice him.

Este sentimiento le abruma e instantáneamente se vuelve celoso de hacer cosas que nunca pensó hacer.

Empieza a mandarte mensajes, a llamarte e incluso a seguirte. Se pierde y si lo ignoras, empeorará la situación.

When I got out of a long-term relationship last year, he didn’t stop messaging me. Every single day I received around one fifty text messages (and I’m not even exaggerating).

Si sospecha que he’s just being jealousDile abiertamente lo que piensas al respecto y hazle saber que no tolerarás este tipo de comportamiento en el futuro. Yo hice lo mismo y funcionó.

He’s become psycho

Ésta representa una afección grave y nunca debes darla por sentada.

If he’s constantly texting you, calling you, stalking you, sending you gifts, begging you and even threatens that he will commit suicide if you don’t come back to him, he’s become psycho.

When we’re in love, our brain produces chemicals that are similar to those when being on drugs. These chemicals crear una atracción intensa and you feel like you can’t live without that person.

Y a algunas personas les cuesta dejarte en paz porque, en cierto modo, siguen siendo adictas a ti.

If he’s being all nice and all of a sudden shifts to some unknown aggressive form, he has some real issues and you should be careful how you talk to him.

My friend’s ex-boyfriend was an abuser. He threatened her male co-workers and did lots of bad things to her. Needless to say that he turned into a legit sicko. In the end, she had to get a restraining order.

If you’re tratar con narcisistas, psychos, or other types of toxic people, always ask for help and support from your best friends and family. Also, try not to panic when you’re around him.

He’s manipulating you

Sometimes he doesn’t want to leave you alone because he wants to jugar a juegos mentales contigo.

Quiere atraerte de nuevo a su mundo sólo para decirte que he doesn’t want you anymore. Guys will do this when their ego is being hurt and especially if you’re the one who initiated the breakup.

He will be all nice and sweet only to prove to you that he has changed, but believe me, he isn’t. If you notice that he’s acting all nice all of a sudden and that he might be faking it, consider it a huge red flag.

His main interest is to boost his ego and prove to the world that he’s capable of ganarte de nuevo even though he doesn’t have intentions to keep you.

You’ll know this is the reason if you start thinking: No matter what I do, he won’t leave me alone. He won’t leave you alone until he’s satisfied his manipulative nature.

He’s indecisive

He won’t leave me alone. Here’s another reason why. There are also some guys who become indecisive and cannot decide whether they want to reunite with you or leave you alone.

That is why he simply cannot stop contacting you and he will always try to initiate conversations even if you’ve specifically told him that you’re not interested in any kind of communication with him.

When you’re indecisive, you have no idea what you’re doing and because of that, he’ll seem like he’s contradicting himself all the time by enviándote señales contradictorias.

Por ejemplo, puede decirte lo mucho que te echa de menos y luego retirarse durante un tiempo, volver de nuevo y así sucesivamente.

Puede que te diga lo mucho que te desea y a los pocos minutos mande el mismo mensaje a otras 20 chicas que ha encontrado en Tinder.

If he keeps doing this, give him an ultimatum and tell him that you’ll block his every contact until he comes to his senses.

What Do You Do When A Guy Won’t Leave You Alone?

When a guy won’t leave you alone, you can ask him to stop contacting or stalking you, block him on redes socialeso puedes buscar ayuda externa.

Here are a few things you can do when he doesn’t want to leave you alone:

Ask him to stop doing whatever he’s doing

Be direct. Tell him to stop texting you, following you, or whatever he’s doing at the moment. You can do this face-to-face or simply envíale un mensaje.

Don’t try to be too nice because he might not take you seriously. Be concise, direct, and let him know that you won’t tolerate such behavior any longer.

Llevar un registro de los mensajes o incidentes de acoso

If he’s sending you harassing messages or disturbing you in any other way, keep a log of all these incidents.

Puedes hacer una captura de pantalla de los mensajes de acoso y escribir la fecha, la hora, el lugar y otros detalles sobre los incidentes (si los hubo y si los habrá). Descríbelo todo con detalle.

Aportar pruebas es una de las cosas más importantes a la hora de desarrollar estrategias de seguridad.

Acortar o interrumpir sus comunicaciones

En primer lugar, puedes intentar acortar vuestras comunicaciones. Cuando te envíe un texto largo, puedes enviarle una respuesta de una palabra o algo más largo (pero no más de unas pocas palabras).

The first step is to subtly let him know that you’re not interested in communicating with him. If this doesn’t work, then stop your communications to see if he will be persistent or he’ll stop contacting you.

Cancele su amistad o bloquéelo

If he doesn’t stop contacting you even though you let him know that you don’t want to communicate with him any longer, then unfriend him and/or block him.

Sin embargo, ten en cuenta que cortar toda comunicación podría convertirle en un acosador o podría empezar a contactar con tus amigos íntimos, amenazarte y cosas similares.

At this point, we’re talking about a possible psycho disfrazado, así que ten cuidado.

Obtener ayuda externa

Habla de todo esto con alguien de confianza. Puede que conozcan a alguien que haya pasado por lo mismo o puede que fueran ellos los que lo experimentaron antes.

If your case is severe and you’re worried about your safety, then consider police involvement and other legal interventions.

Hace unos años, recuerdo haberle dicho a mi mejor amigo algo así como Le dije que déjame en paz but he won’t. No matter what I do, he always finds a way to get closer to me.

She told me to tell him that I’ve talked to the police only to see how he’ll react. To my amazement, he instantly withdrew and hasn’t contacted me ever since

What Do You Do When A Man Won’t Commit But Won’t Let You Go?

When a man won’t commit but won’t let you go, you need to let him know that you won’t wait forever. Once he realizes that, he’ll either try to win you back and commit to you or he will pull away. If he does the former, then you know he genuinely cares about you.

Here’s exactly what you need to do:

Dale un poco de espacio

Here’s one of the simplest but most effective relationship advice ever: Dale un poco de espacio. When a man won’t commit but won’t let you go, it usually means that he needs some time to sort out his feelings (if there are any, of course).

While he’s in the process of this, it’s important that you don’t pressure him. Let him know that you’re here if he wants to talk to you. If he doesn’t contact you for a long period of time, then continue with the next step.

Habla con él

He doesn’t want me but won’t déjame en paz. He doesn’t want anything serious but he keeps contacting me.

¿Le suena familiar? Seguro que sí. Cuando un chico está, por alguna razón, indeciso, hará todo lo posible por mantenerte en su vida con el mínimo esfuerzo (hasta que averigüe qué es exactamente lo que quiere).

If he doesn’t talk to you, then you need to talk to him to find out what’s going on inside his head.

¿Tiene miedo al compromiso ¿O hay algo más que le impide comprometerse plenamente contigo? ¿Sólo está interesado en una relación casual ¿Contigo?

Let him know that you won’t wait forever

After talking with him, let him know that you won’t wait forever on him to figure out what he wants. Let him know that you won’t be one of his options and he cannot treat you like that.

Esto le motivará para dejar de dándote por sentado (si es que lo hizo en primer lugar) y que por fin deje de jugar contigo.

However, if he doesn’t stop playing with you even after you’ve talked to him, then you know you’re dealing with a legit player who’s not worthy of your time.

Céntrate en ti mismo

Regardless if he’s a player, fobia al compromiso, or something else, my humble advice to you is to focus on yourself. Remember that you cannot change him if he’s not ready to change himself.

You cannot force him to commit to you if he’s not ready for that. Also, you cannot know when and if anything will change in the near future.

Because of that, my dear lady, keep living your best life and ignore him completely. If he truly cares about you, he’ll go out of his way to win you back. If not, then you’re better off without him anyway.

Reflexiones finales

He won’t leave me alone. He won’t commit but won’t let me go. Does this mean that todavía siente algo por mí?

Every man’s mindset and intentions are unique. If he won’t leave you alone, it might mean that he still cares about you, but you can never be too sure.

If all else fails, trust your intuition. Also, do what you think it’s best in your situation. Good luck!