15 rasgos que definen a una novia pegajosa (y cómo deshacerse de ellos)
When people are in love, they often get clingy, especially girls. Even though there’s a thin line between love and clinginess, your significant other won’t understand that too well.
So, when a girl starts to act like she needs her guy to be with her all the time, he’ll probably run and won’t look back, scared off by her neediness, unaware that this is not the real her; it’s just her insecurity manifesting itself in a faulty way. Te rechazará aunque le gustes.
Maybe you’ve also has sido pegajoso en tus relaciones anteriores sin saber siquiera cuánto tiempo duró, y tal vez por eso estaban todos condenados.
A tus novios les dejaste muy poco espacio personal, que es una de esas pequeñas cosas que a la larga significan mucho.
A una novia pegajosa le asusta mucho la idea de una ruptura, por eso se pone tan celosa de sus amigas y empieza a enviarle mensajes de texto incesantemente cuando se siente amenazada por ellas.
Possessiveness is one of the key traits of a clingy girlfriend and the less time he dedicates to her, the more she’s going to start badgering him with text messages and give him zero to no alone time.
La primera vez que empiece a notar los pequeños signos de su aferramiento, en lugar de cortar con ella, la mejor idea es tener una conversación sincera con su chica.
This is rarely something that can’t be fixed, so he should give her some time and show her his patience.
If this is a new relationship, he should give her a chance to show him that she does have her interests and isn’t as needy as she may be presenting herself.
He needs to trust the vibe she gave out when he first met her, and remind himself of how amazingly cool she is when her low self-esteem isn’t getting the best of her.
She may seem like a clinger now, but that’s only because she cares so much.
And clingy girlfriends are nothing if not caring and compassionate. Needy girls can end up being guys’ best friends and lovers all in one, once seen through their insecurity.
Guys, hold onto your girls and help them get better. And girls, if you find yourselves in this, just know that this is just a small part of you and it’s easily fixed – read and implement these tips to get to a healthy place and be the best girlfriend your man could ever wish for.
15 rasgos de las novias pegajosas:
She doesn’t give him enough space
This is something most guys are terrified of. They simply hate it when their girlfriend doesn’t leave them any alone time that they badly need.
They hate it when she’s always there when they’re talking on the phone, texting their friends, and talking to people on the street.
You know, nobody likes to be suffocated with love and attention because that’s not natural.
So even if she loves her man and she wants to spend some time with him, it’s important to remember that maybe he needs some time for himself just to organize his thoughts.
Trust me, he’ll be so thankful for that and the relationship will be healthy and stable.
Todo el mundo necesita un poco de espacio personal y proporcionárselo a un hombre ayudará a que la relación florezca.
She talks even when he’s not interested
The worst thing for a man is a girl who talks for hours over the phone about things that he’s not interested in.
Esto puede volver loco a cualquier hombre, así que es mejor que las llamadas sean breves e informativas.
She can ask her man how his day was or just check up on him, but she should try to avoid a long conversation, especially if she’ll be the only one talking.
Imagínate cómo te sentirías si tu pareja sólo hablara de sí misma.
It would suck, right? That’s how a man feels around a clingy girlfriend every day.
Hablar con los mejores amigos de todas esas cosas cotillas relacionadas con las chicas es la mejor manera de proceder en este caso, reservando al mismo tiempo las cosas relativas a la relación para la pareja.
She doesn’t have her own life and hates him for having his own
Una chica así quiere que su hombre se dedique a ella las 24 horas del día, pero eso es imposible.
Es decir, en una relación normal y sana, ambos miembros de la pareja deben tener su vida privada con sus amigos y su familia y luego disfrutar de su vida juntos cuando llegue el momento adecuado para ello.
If you’re the type of girl who hates on her man for going out and having some fun, you can be sure that you’re being clingy.
Así que, para evitar que tu hombre se compadezca de ti, sal y diviértete por tu cuenta. Solo tienes una vida, así que disfrútala mientras puedas.
P.S. Girls who have a lot of fun on their own are very attractive to men! Show him you’ve got a full life that you live like there’s no tomorrow and I promise you he’ll be more drawn to you than ever. Happy girls are the sexiest!
She’s insecure when hot girls are next to her man
Por alguna razón, una chica así piensa que todas las demás chicas son mucho mejores que ella y que su novio la dejará si encuentra una chica más divertida y atractiva que ella.
This is the worst thing that can happen to a girl in a relationship because by thinking like this, she’ll never make any progress with her self-esteem.
To feel good in your skin, you should try to flirt with some good-looking guys when your man isn’t around.
After you do that, you will feel better and desirable and you won’t be so clingy because you will realize that there are more cute guys out there, other than your man.
And yes, you will start to gain a different outlook on life. For as long as you just look and don’t touch, it’ll boost your confidence and help you get your mojo back!
She doesn’t like it when her man spends time with his friends
Es su pesadilla, literalmente. Piensa que, al hacer esto, su hombre le será infiel porque sus amigos varones le harán ligar con otra chica.
That’s why she wants him only for herself, because when he is with her he will do everything that she wants.
But you need to know that this is not a good foundation for a healthy relationship – you need to change something if you want to keep your man close.
Please bear in mind that you can’t make him love you if he doesn’t feel it and that you will just make things worse if you try and keep him by force.
Al final, si los dos estabais destinados a estar juntos, encontraréis el camino de vuelta.
Es extremadamente desconfiada
She is suspicious of every girl who enters her man’s life. Well, you know what?
Cuanto más desconfiada seas, más lo sentirá tu hombre y deseará poner fin a la relación contigo.
If he wants to have an affair, you won’t be able to forbid him from doing so. Only his love for you can stop him, so don’t sweat the small stuff.
Al hacer esto, te estás perjudicando a ti mismo y te centras en las cosas malas en lugar de en las buenas.
Try to relax – if one man doesn’t respect you and love you, it means that he isn’t the right one for you.
Así que lo que tienes que hacer es dejar marchar al equivocado para que ocupe su lugar el adecuado. Y créeme, esta actitud dará sus frutos a largo plazo.
It may seem substantially difficult, but with time, you’ll see that it was the best decision you could’ve made.
Quiere estar en contacto todo el tiempo
Este es uno de los rasgos más evidentes (e irritantes) de toda novia pegajosa.
She will constantly call her man to check up on him and ask him what he’s doing. She does this to find out if he is in the company of any girls.
This may flatter him at the beginning of the relationship when everything’s still spicy and nice, but as time passes, he’ll become more and more irritated by her frequent calls.
So, to keep him interested and into you as much as possible, don’t check up on him every half an hour.
Make him miss you by having super fun with your own friends. It’ll only be a matter of time before he looks for you just like you were looking for him.
And once he’s the one pursuing you, it’ll be clear how clinginess is never the answer.
Live your life, have your fun, and give him the chance to miss you. That’s your solution and a way to keep him hooked for a long time.
She thinks her partner doesn’t love her as much as she loves him
Esto sucede cuando una chica es pegajosa y obsesionada con cierto hombre de su vida.
Only in this state of mind will she think that her man doesn’t love her as much as she loves him.
Nunca ve todo lo bueno, sólo lo malo, y con eso empieza a crearse ideas falsas y malsanas sobre su vida amorosa.
On the other hand, if you really see that your man is neglecting you and that he is canceling your dates at the last minute just so he can go out with his friends, you should know that’s not the way a girl should be treated.
En cualquier caso, lo mejor sería sentarse y hablar abiertamente con él.
Maybe he’s keeping some feelings to himself so that if you say something first, he will find it easier to open up to you.
If this method doesn’t work, just finish your glass of wine and leave as he is not the one who deserves you.
Ella quiere que se comprometa lo antes posible
When a girl is clingy and needy, she’ll want her man just to herself. That’s why she’ll insist on getting married even if she’s not quite sure that she’s really ready for it.
She thinks that she will never find a man who’ll love her like her partner and therefore has to use all means necessary to make him commit to her.
She’ll do crazy things and believe that’s the right way to win a guy over.
Pero la verdad es que tienes que escuchar a tu propio corazón cuando se trata de amor y no exagerar con el bombardeo de amor.
A ningún hombre le gusta, y en lugar de hacer que se quede, sólo lo alejará de ti.
Guys often get cold feet when confronted with situations like this, so don’t think that you will get him if you keep on doing all these things.
Let it happen organically, otherwise, it’s doomed to fail at some point.
She tells everyone on social media that she’s met her soulmate
Vale, muchas chicas suelen publicar fotos con sus novios y esas cosas, pero una novia pegajosa va un paso más allá.
She posts photos of her man saying that he’s the best thing that has ever happened to her and she’d be lost without him.
She says that to her friends on social media and many of them think she’s a pain in the ass because of it.
Other people also have their loved ones, but they don’t talk about them 24/7 on Facebook. To her, though, it doesn’t matter. She needs to post it in order to prove to herself that it’s real.
Le encanta vivir en su pequeña burbuja de amor perfecta, donde tiene a su príncipe azul y todo va de maravilla.
She doesn’t actually live in reality and that might be the reason for her strange behavior.
Pero esto tiene arreglo. Podéis amaros en privado y será igual de increíble. Cuanta menos gente lo sepa, más sana será vuestra relación.
Está obsesionada con su compañero
She believes that the man she’s met is her perfect match and she will never find someone like that ever again. That’s why she becomes so obsessed with him.
She works hard on keeping him close, and even if her partner doesn’t feel good in that relationship, she tries to convince him to stay because she can make him happy.
She’s pretty obsessed with him, and believes that she’d fall apart if he had to leave.
Y si otra mujer le sedujera, todo su mundo se vendría abajo.
That’s why she does things that she never thought she’d do, and in so doing, loses her self-esteem.
En realidad, una chica así tiene mucho que ofrecer, pero se deja cegar por el amor y parece desesperada.
Once you see that your world is just as amazing without him, will you understand that a guy isn’t the center of your universe. He has become an integral part of your world, but he’s never irreplaceable. There’s plenty more fish in the sea.
Tiene baja autoestima
One of the reasons a girl becomes clingy can be her low self-esteem. If she thinks that she’s not worthy or good enough, she’ll do whatever it takes to prove the opposite.
She’ll even do all the crazy things she thought she’d never try. And all for the wrong reasons.
She doesn’t believe in herself. She doesn’t believe she is beautiful.
Cree que puede ser sustituida por alguien mejor que ella, y ese sentimiento se la está comiendo viva.
But if she had just a little more faith in herself, perhaps she wouldn’t feel this way. If she had more courage to stand up and fight for herself, she wouldn’t go through all this turmoil.
Y en caso de que seas una chica así, ten en cuenta que todo puede cambiar en tu vida con sólo cambiar tus prioridades y tu visión de la vida. Nada es permanente. Puedes encontrar fácilmente el camino de vuelta.
Tu baja autoestima podría ser el resultado de las personas que tienes a tu alrededor.
Make sure those are good, kind people and you’ll start noticing small yet significant changes.
Se pelea constantemente con él
A clingy girl always fights with her partner because she doesn’t like it if he pays attention to anyone but her.
She wants to be in the spotlight all the time, and if she doesn’t get it, she gets pissed off.
The catch is that she has put a lot of effort into her relationship, and if it’s not reciprocated, she’s bound to feel disappointed.
She’s under the impression that her partner will leave her and easily get bored of her.
Se inventa el peor escenario posible en su mente y nunca abandona sus pensamientos negativos. Y debo admitir que ser una chica así no es nada fácil.
Tiene que librar sus batallas interiores, y sólo unas pocas personas pueden comprenderla.
But she also needs to know that life is in front of her and that she shouldn’t sweat the small stuff.
She’s not calm when he’s not around
A clingy girlfriend isn’t able to be calm if her partner’s not there. She always thinks of the worst possible scenarios about why he isn’t with her.
Every time he goes out with his friends, she thinks he’s cheating on her, which gets her so frustrated and sad. And the saddest part is that he genuinely meant no harm.
Él sólo necesita algo de tiempo a solas para centrarse en sí mismo y en sus amistades, pero ella tiene planes diferentes para su tiempo.
Esto puede afectar mucho a una relación, así que si posees este rasgo, intenta calmarte un poco.
If you smile at life, it will smile right back at you!Take it easy. You simply can’t force love to come into your life.
It will happen naturally if it’s meant to be. So let it happen and try to find some peace on your own.
Piensa que todas las chicas son mejores que ella.
A girl like this believes that she’s not beautiful or good enough for her partner and that he’ll leave her as soon as he finds someone more attractive. But she couldn’t be more wrong – she just doesn’t see her full potential.
She’s an amazing and warm person, but unfortunately, in the age of modern dating, things like that don’t really matter that much to some guys anymore.
Don’t let your twisted beliefs make you doubt your beautiful qualities.
Not everyone is perfect; therefore, you shouldn’t aspire to be perfect either.
You are unique and that’s what the right guy will fall in love with once you meet him.
If it hasn’t happened thus far, it only means your guy is out there somewhere waiting for you.
Lo bueno se hace esperar. Eres fantástica tal y como eres, así que deja que la gente adecuada lo vea y te quiera por ello.
Deja que brille tu personalidad única y no vuelvas a subestimarte.
You’re far too amazing and strong to let your low confidence weigh you down ever again.
