4 cosas que pasan cuando pasas de ser un infiel a un hombre leal

When you break things off with a cheater, you feel like you’ve alcanzado su punto de ruptura. Pierdes toda esperanza de un mañana mejor y esperas que todos los hombres de tu futuro te traten como lo hizo este imbécil.

Then, all of a sudden, you meet someone worthy of your love and attention. You meet a mature man who is faithful and loyal and who acts as if he’d never do anything to hurt you.

Una vez que esto ocurre, toda tu visión del mundo cambia. Por primera vez, empiezas a verte a ti mismo y a todo lo que te rodea con mayor claridad y experimentas numerosos cambios. He aquí los 4 más importantes.

1. Aún tienes problemas de confianza

I have to disappoint you—not everything goes smoothly the moment you find a loyal man because sadly, you still have a lot of past traumas to get over. These issues you’re still carrying around as a heavy burden don’t go away as easily and unfortunately, they impact your new relationship.

First and foremost, you can’t believe that you’ve found someone so different from your ex. You’re wondering if this new guy has some kind of secret agenda and if he plans on screwing you over the same way your ex did. You can’t believe that you’ve found someone this nice and you’re worried that this guy is too good to be true.

2. Te das cuenta de lo tóxica que era tu relación

Let’s be honest here—throughout your entire relationship, deep down, you always knew that things shouldn’t be like that. You knew that you shouldn’t keep on forgiving that infidelity and mistreatment but you kept on doing so anyhow.

Simultaneously, you also lied to yourself. You kept convincing yourself and everyone else that your relationship wasn’t that bad after all and you kept on ignoring your strong intuition, despite knowing the truth.

However, now, things have changed. Now that you have something to compare it with, you see how awful and toxic your past relationship actually was. For the first time ever, you realistically see all of its horrors and the pain you’ve been through.

Finally, you see what a healthy and normal partnership should look like and you understand that this wasn’t anything similar to what you had. Of course, all of this negative experience from the past taught you to be even more grateful for this hombre leal que tienes a tu lado.

3. Te das cuenta de lo que mereces

For years, your ex was putting all the blame on you. He kept diminishing your value and manipulating you to think that you weren’t worthy of love and that you deserved everything that had been going on.

After a while, you started believing him. He managed to persuade you that you really weren’t destined to be loved and that he was the best you’d ever get.

Sin embargo, ahora ves que nada de esto es cierto. Ahora ves que todo este tiempo, en realidad te estabas conformando con menos y que mereces mucho más de lo que estabas recibiendo. Usted ve que el amor está destinado para usted después de todo y que puede ser amado más de lo que nunca fue.

4. Recuperas la confianza

Ser engañado destroys everyone’s confidence. You wonder why you weren’t enough for the man you loved so much that he had to find someone else. What was he missing in your relationship, that he had to look for outside of it?

Las cosas se ponen aún peor cuando un infiel se niega a asumir su responsabilidad y cuando hace todo lo que está en su mano para convencerte de que no sirves para nada y que tú has sido la causante de todo lo ocurrido. En consecuencia, tus inseguridades aumentan y tu autoimagen se convierte en una ruina total.

Bueno, afortunadamente para ti, todo esto cambia cuando dejas a este infiel y te cambias a un hombre de verdad, maduro y leal. Este hombre ve tu valor y te hace pensar más en ti misma también.

He appreciates and respects you, which inspires you to regain your self-respect as well. This man’s love makes you look at yourself through different eyes and it makes you love yourself more. And that is the whole point, isn’t it?