49 señales de una pareja infiel a las que deberías prestar atención

The fact is, many people cheat, but it’s also true that, unfortunately, most of them never get caught. And why is that? Because their partner is blinded by love and can’t see the revelador signs of their partner’s betrayal.

If you have any doubts at all, or if you’ve found some good signs of your partner’s infidelity, here is something that may help you find out the truth: 49 signs of a cheating partner.

Una relación sana es una asociación entre dos personas que acuerdan ser leales la una a la otra en la primer puesto. Si uno de ellos decide romper ese acuerdo, puede dejar terribles consecuencias en su relación.

Now, the time has come… Let’s reveal once and for all whether your partner cheats on you or not.

49 señales sutiles de una pareja infiel

Estos son los más comunes señales de un cónyuge infiel/partner, and if you’re wondering whether your SO is cheating on you, you should pay close attention to each and every single one of them. They’ll reveal the truth about your partner’s fidelity.

1. Tienen un comportamiento distante y retraído

The first thing that’s got you so worried about your relationships is your partner’s distant behavior¿verdad? You don’t spend quality time together anymore, and comunicación sana y regular ya no forma parte de vuestra relación.

Well, you’re right, it’s awkward, and something is definitely going on. Withdrawing behavior is also a possible sign of a cheating partner because they’re slowly falling out of love but still aren’t sure how and cuándo romper contigo.

2. Su lenguaje corporal es extraño

I always say this, but it’s genuinely true. There is so much you can find out about a person from the way their body reacts around you. A person may lie to you, but su lenguaje corporal will almost always give them up. So, yes, that’s cómo se descubren la mayoría de los asuntos.

Intenta hablar con tu pareja sobre su comportamiento últimamente y presta mucha atención a sus lenguaje corporal cuando hables con ellos. If they get all nervous, touch their hair, or are unable to make or maintain eye contact with you, it’s because they know you’ve caught them.

3. Romper su rutina

Have you noticed any sudden changes in your partner’s everyday routine? Do they do things they didn’t do before?

Maybe you haven’t made a gran cosa porque pensabas que era irrelevante, pero en realidad puede ser un signo de infidelidad.

4. También muestran signos de baja autoestima

¿Sabes por qué muchas personas engañan a sus parejas? Porque luchan con su autoestima y necesitan a esa otra persona para subir su ego.

It’s like cheating fulfills their confidence. Maybe you’re somehow the reason they have self-esteem issues, and they’ve found someone else to help them feel better about themselves.

5. Pasar tiempo de calidad juntos se olvida hace tiempo

Antes teníais citas nocturnas, pasabais todo el tiempo libre juntos y siempre planeabais actividades superdivertidas para vuestras citas.

Now, has all of that changed, and you can’t even remember the last time you spent some quality time together?

They’re always busy, and even if you make plans, they bail on you last minute. Unfortunately, it’s obvious that your partner is spending their free time with another person.

6. Abandonarte se ha convertido en lo que más les gusta

It’s not that they cancel on you sometimes, but they do it all the time, and it seems like they don’t care about how that makes you feel at all… Well, unfortunately, they probably don’t.

They have more important things to do. I know it frustrates you and makes you sad at the same time, and you definitely shouldn’t put up with it for long.

7. They lie to you – ALL THE TIME

¿Has empezado a pillarles en una mentira a menudo? It’s probably because everything they say to you is a lie, and they get caught up in a web of their own lies.

They can no longer remember what they’ve told you and what they told the other person. Sooner or later, they’ll understand that they need to pick a side and stop ensartándote ambos a lo largo.

8. You know for sure they’re keeping secrets from you

You’ve also found out about some of their secrets and things they were carefully keeping from you. There’s a fine reason they didn’t want you to find out about those things, and I’m pretty sure they have more secrets.

However, even if they’re masters at cheating, they won’t be able to keep going about their affair behind your back for long. You’ll find out one way or another, and the truth will finally come into the light.

9. Se enredan en sus historias o excusas

I’ve already mentioned this in the part about lying. They’re probably full of excuses every time you want to see them or plan something with them.

But, the truth is, they won’t be able to keep on offering you some lame excuses and sitting on two chairs at the same time.

10. Tu vida sexual se ha vuelto aburrida

Did you have a wildly passionate sex life before, but lately, things have changed behind closed doors? Of course, there are many possible reasons for it, but one of them may be your partner’s infidelity.

They’re getting physical pleasure somewhere else and in someone else’s bed, and that’s why your bed doesn’t interest them too much anymore.

Puedes y debes intentar darle sabor a la camaPero si todos sus intentos resultan infructuosos, debería considerarlo una señal de alarma importante.

11. Evitan la intimidad física

Intimidad física definitely isn’t the most important foundation of una relación sana, but it’s a very important part of it. Without it, the bond between partners would be very weak, and they would never be able to function as a happy, healthy couple.

Deberías preocuparte si tu pareja ha empezado a evitar intimar contigo de repente. They have a good reason for it, and that reason is probably the fact they’re being intimate with someone else.

12. They’re also emotionally detached

¿Cómo se comportan cuando les dices que les quieres o compartes tus sentimientos con ellos? ¿Y cuál es su respuesta cuando les preguntas si te quieren?

Si evitan hablar de ello, tienes todo el derecho a sospechar que sus sentimientos hacia ti han cambiado. You should give them time because they may have other issues, but it’s most likely they have stopped loving you.

13. Exigen demasiado espacio

I know this is difficult to understand and process. Before, you spent all of your free time together, and now, they’re asking you to give them space.

Puede que realmente necesiten tiempo y espacio para pensar en sus propios problemas y en las cosas que les molestan, pero si te quieren de verdad, nunca te apartarían de una forma tan fea.

14. They’ve needed to work a lot of overtime lately

Creo que el hecho de que se queden hasta tarde no tiene nada que ver con su trabajo. Por desgracia, es una posible señal de que tu pareja te está engañando y pasa tiempo con su amante mientras te ofrece alguna excusa de trabajo poco convincente.

Deberías sorprenderles una noche e ir a su lugar de trabajo. If you don’t find them there, then it’s completely clear what is going on.

15. You can’t reach them for hours or even days sometimes

Is this normal? Has this ever happened before? If it’s a new thing, you should see it as a huge red flag that they don’t care about you enough.

They’re probably busy with someone else, and that’s why they can’t reply to your calls and texts.

16. Su estilo de besar cambia

¿Qué sientes ahora cuando tu pareja te besa? ¿Es igual que al principio de la relación o notas que algo es diferente?

If they don’t want to kiss you in public and avoid passionate, besos románticos, it’s a mala señal they’re seeing (and kissing) someone else.

17. Hay banderas rojas por todo su redes sociales

Your significant other’s social media can also reveal a lot about how they think and feel about you. For example, if you had pics together and they’ve deleted them all of a sudden, it’s obvious they’re trying to hide you from someone.

Also, if they’ve asked you to stop sharing pics of you two together, it’s a posible señal de su infidelidad. Presta atención a las publicaciones, canciones y citas que comparten y a sus fotos etiquetadas.

18. You’ve found out they have profiles on some dating apps

If this really happened, if you’ve run onto your partner’s profile on a dating app, then it’s clear they’re at least thinking about cheating on you.

Incluso puedes crear una trampa para ellos e intentar atraparlos así. Just make a fake profile and reach out to them. If they reply, chat with them and see whether they’re really able to cheat on you.

19. You’ve also found traces of infidelity on their cellphone

I’m usually against going through your partner’s phone, but if you’ve noticed too many of these possible signs of their infidelity, then you have the green light to check their cellphone.

If they’re really cheating on you, you’ll probably find some evidence on their phone.

Comprueba sus llamadas, mensajes, fotos y redes sociales if you have access to them. IF and when you find proof they’re being unfaithful, you should immediately confront them about it.

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20. O, borran absolutamente todo de su teléfono

Also, if you find their phone completely empty, and by that I mean if they’ve deleted their history, their texts, and everything else, it could also be a good sign they’re having an affair.

It means they’re being very careful, though. Maybe they’ve caught you snooping on their phone once already, and they don’t want to risk getting caught.

21. Se ponen nerviosos cuando empiezas a interrogarles sobre su paradero

It’s normal that you want to know about your partner’s whereabouts when you’re in una relación seria. Of course, it shouldn’t mean that you need to know every step they take. However, it would be nice if you’re in touch regularly.

If you doubt your partner’s fidelity, you should pay attention to how and with whom they spend their time. If there are some suspicious movements or they go out a lot, and you don’t know where, you should simply ask them.

You probably won’t get an honest answer from their side, but it’s irrelevant because their reaction will say it all. If they get all nervous and anxious, they’re hiding something from you, and they’re probably afraid you’ve caught them in a lie.

22. Empiezan a salir con regularidad

Have your partner’s frequent nights out really started to bother you? You should definitely talk about it with them, but also be careful about it because it’s a good sign they’re being unfaithful to you.

You can ask to go out with them one night and see what their response is. If they allow you to go with them, you probably don’t have anything to worry about.

However, if they refuse immediately and get nervous, then it’s a potential red flag that something bad is going on.

23. Además, empiezan a comprar y llevar ropa nueva a menudo

¿De repente tu novio/a se preocupa más por su aspecto físico? ¿Se compra ropa nueva, se somete a tratamientos de bienestar o spa, prueba nuevos peinados, etc.?

Unfortunately, it’s not a proven fact, but almost every time a partner starts caring about their looks more than they care about you, they’re probably cheating on you. Quieren estar guapas para esa otra persona, su amante.

24. También muestran signos de arrepentimiento

¿Has notado que tu SO muestra signos sutiles de arrepentimiento? You haven’t caught them doing anything, so why are they behaving that way?

Bueno, hay dos posibles explicaciones.

Either they’ve cheated on you and regretted it instantly because they love you and know it could destroy your relationship, or they just feel sorry for you and for betraying you in that way after everything you’ve been through together.

25. Tienen muchas aficiones nuevas

Isn’t it weird? How come someone can find so many new interests or hobbies all of a sudden? And how do they have so much free time to do all of it?

Quizá la razón por la que tienen tantos nuevas aficiones es que han conocido a alguien nuevo y tratan de interesarse por sus intereses. Of course, your partner may also be trying to find a hobby that suits them best, but that’s, unfortunately, less likely than the first option.

26. Hay gastos inexplicables en los extractos de sus tarjetas de crédito

Unexplained expenses on their credit card statements may explain it all. Either they’re cheating on you, or they’ve become passionate gambling addicts all of a sudden. ?

Anyways, you should take a better look at those statements, and maybe you’ll be able to figure out a few things there. Además, pídele explicaciones a tu pareja, porque la comunicación abierta lo es todo para una relación sana.

27. They don’t want to have a shared bank account anymore

If you are in a long-term relationship, it’s normal to agree to have a shared bank account. And if your partner has decided they don’t want to share their finances with you all of a sudden and for no reason, it’s clear they’re planning to romper contigo.

Deberías aceptar su decisión, pero también deberías averiguar la verdadera razón por la que quieren desvincular tus cuentas bancarias.

28. Empiezan a escaparse como adolescentes

If you’re married or live together, you’ve probably also noticed they’re sneaking out of the house late at night. I don’t need to say that it’s obvious they’re hiding something from you.

If they weren’t hiding something, they wouldn’t be sneaking behind your back. No matter how much you love them, you need to admit it’s very suspicious behavior.

29. Pasan demasiado tiempo con ese amigo del sexo opuesto

¿Ha notado que su pareja está demasiado unida a un compañero de trabajo o a un amigo del sexo opuesto? ¿Pasan demasiado tiempo juntos y se envían mensajes de texto continuamente?

It’s not definite, but it’s a very buena señal tu SO te está engañando con esa persona.

Maybe they haven’t done anything yet, but I think it’s clear they like each other and that sooner or later they’ll be together. It’s still engaño emocional, and in my opinion, it’s the worst tipo de trampa.

30. Quieren irse de vacaciones con sus amigos, no contigo

Did you always spend your vacations and holidays together? Has that also changed? I’m assuming it is because it’s actually a huge sign you’re dealing with a cheater.

They say they want to spend these vacays with their friends, but it’s probably just another one of their lies. They’ll most likely be spending those vacations with their lover while using their friends as just a front.

31. De madrugadores, se transforman en búhos nocturnos

Este es un signo muy interesante de una pareja infiel y probablemente uno de los más obvios. If you have been dating an early bird who has transformed into a night owl all of a sudden, you’re probably dating a tramposo.

Hay una razón que les quita el sueño. Y, por desgracia, esa razón es probablemente otro ser humano.

32. Le dan mucha importancia a todo

And why do you think that is so? Of course, it’s only because they want to initiate fights on purpose.

Quieren volverte loco haciendo un gran cosa de todo. With time, it’ll make your relationship toxic, and you won’t have any other choice but to break up with them.

33. They’re either overly jealous or not jealous at all

Todos los expertos en relaciones te dirán que una dosis normal de celos puede ser beneficiosa para tu relación. It’s a sign a person cares for their partner and is afraid of losing them.

However, if your SO has become overly jealous lately, or if they don’t show jealousy at all, it’s a sign something is off between you.

They’re aware of what they’ve done and know you would leave them if you find out, and that fear of losing you makes them jealous of everyone around you.

On the flip side, the reason they don’t show they’re jealous at all may be because they don’t care about you anymore and have another person in their life.

34. Insultar es algo normal de repente

Has your partner ever insulted you or called you names before? No? But they’re doing it now, right?

Por desgracia, ese abuso verbal es también uno de los 49 signos de una pareja infiel. Their feelings have probably shifted onto another person, and that’s why they don’t care about how their behavior will affect you anymore.

Also, it may be their way of trying to make you break up with them. And whether they do it because they’re cheating on you or not, you shouldn’t put up with their toxic behavior.

Don’t ever allow anyone to abuse you in any way, regardless of the feelings you have for that person.

35. Nunca han sido más cariñosos y atentos

Por supuesto, no hay nada malo en que una pareja sea cariñosa con su pareja.

Sin embargo, si nota la mayoría de estas señales y si su pareja se ha vuelto más atenta de repente, debería verlo como una red flag that they’re arrepentirse de algo.

Desgraciadamente, incluso un comportamiento cariñoso repentino puede ser signo de una marido infiel/esposa.

36. Otra persona te ha advertido de su infidelidad

Has another person ever tried to warn you about your significant other’s infidelity? Maybe you didn’t believe them back then because you didn’t notice the signs of your partner’s betrayal, but now you’ve actually started to think about what that person told you.

Sería una buena idea volver a hablar de ello con esa persona. Try to find out what they know, and maybe they’ll lead you to the evidence of your partner’s infidelity.

37. Cuando les acusas de ser infieles, se callan

¿Alguna vez les has planteado tus dudas? ¿Cuál fue su reacción cuando les dijiste que pensabas que te estaban siendo infieles?

If they didn’t say a thing, if they didn’t even try to defend themself or deny your accusations, it’s probably because they didn’t have the guts to admit the truth but also didn’t want to lie to you.

En otras palabras, su silencio sólo significa una cosa: tu pareja te engaña.

38. O, te acusan de lo mismo

Por otra parte, si su pareja trató de echarte la culpa a ti and accuse you of being unfaithful, it may also be a sign they’re indeed cheating on you.

Ese cambio de culpas es simplemente su forma de intentar defenderse. It’s also a form of manipulation – they want to make you feel bad and make you think that you’re the one to blame for all the problems and issues in your relationship.

39. Todo lo que haces o dices está mal

Have you gotten to the point where you don’t know how to behave anymore because it seems like everything you say or do bothers your partner?

I’m sorry to break it out to you, but it’s a mala señal hay algo raro en vuestra relación. I agree that it doesn’t have to mean they’re cheating on you, but they definitely don’t care about you the way they did before.

40. Te critican a ti y a tu relación todo el tiempo

¿Alguna vez han sido tan críticos como ahora? ¿Tenían tendencia a juzgar cada paso que dabas al principio de vuestra relación?

I’m sure they didn’t, and if they have started doing it now, it’s obvious something has changed when it comes to their feelings about you.

Probablemente quieran deshacerse de ti y de vuestra relación y seguir con su vida, y quieren hacer que la termines criticándote constantemente.

41. They don’t respect or ask for your opinion anymore

It’s probably because they have another person whose opinion they care about more. They know you won’t be part of their life anymore pretty soon, and that’s why they don’t care about your opinion.

They’ll probably make some decisions that might shock you, but you shouldn’t allow them to disturb your peace of mind.

42. Se niegan a visitar a un terapeuta familiar con usted

You’re aware that your relationship is going in the wrong direction, and you want to move it back in the right direction. You suggest terapia de parejapero tu pareja se niega inmediatamente.

Unfortunately, many people don’t believe that therapy can help them or their relationships. However, you need to be persistent, and if your partner keeps refusing, it’s a sign of how much (little) they care for you and your relationship.

43. You feel like you don’t recognize them at all anymore

If you’ve been dating for a long time, you probably thought you knew your partner. However, judging by their behavior lately, you get the feeling that you don’t know them at all.

When a partner hides something from their other half, it’s normal for their behavior to change. You just can’t hide something from a person you’ve spent so much time with for so long. It’s simply impossible.

44. It’s obvious they don’t care for you like they used to

You’re aware that your relationship has changed a lot lately. In the beginning, they tried really hard to prove they cared for you, but now, all of that has disappeared.

You’re no longer their priority, and you feel like they don’t care for you at all anymore. I know it makes you sad, but you should also be aware that it may be because of so many other reasons. It doesn’t have to mean they’re definitely cheating on you.

45. También engañaron a sus ex parejas

This is also a warning sign your partner may be cheating on you. When a person cheats once, there’s a good chance they’ll do it again.

Estaría bien que averiguaras algo más sobre su relación pasada con la infidelidad.

If they’re repeating some of those patterns again, then things are pretty clear… They’re cheating on you just like they did their exes.

46. They’ve suggested taking a relationship break

They don’t want an actual breakup but a relationship break. Meaning that they need time to figure out what is happening in their heart and mind and to choose a side.

It’s up to you whether you’ll accept that relationship break or not. Pero, mi consejo es que siempre que una persona sienta la necesidad de elegir entre tú y otra persona, dejes que elija a esa otra persona.

If they loved you, they wouldn’t feel the need to choose in the first place!

47. La verdad es que ya ninguno de los dos es feliz en su relación

Maybe you’re trying to suppress it deep down, or you’re ignoring it, but the truth is, you aren’t happy with your partner anymore. And it’s clear you don’t make them happy either.

It may be because you’ve noticed these possible signs of their infidelity. Unfortunately, that isn’t important anymore.

Lo único importante es que ya no os hacéis felices el uno al otro, y sea cual sea el motivo, sólo debéis pensar en arreglarlo o en poner fin a vuestra relación.

48. They use the good old ‘it’s not you, it’s me’ excuse

I swear this is the most wrong, lamest way to break up with someone. It’s like you’re trying to comfort them by blaming yourself even though it’s obvious that you’re the one to blame.

However, it’s possible that your partner regrets the way they betrayed you, and they’re aware of how much they hurt you.

Esta excusa de ruptura definitivamente revela que se sienten mal por algo que te han hecho, y también se sienten mal por terminar vuestra relación.

49. Deep down, you know for sure they’re cheating on you

If your gut is telling you that something wrong is going on in your relationship, it’s a bad sign that your partner is really doing something bad behind your back.

Unfortunately, many people decide to ignore their inner voice and gut feeling because they think it can’t be true.

However, the fact is, if you don’t have a reason to doubt them, your gut feeling wouldn’t be so loud, and it wouldn’t be so desperately trying to warn you about your SO’s betrayal.

Véase también: Engaño en una relación a distancia: 15 señales y formas de afrontarlo

¿Qué debe hacer si sospecha que su pareja le engaña?

El siguiente paso lógico sería atrapar al tramposo. You can’t just break up with someone because your doubts aren’t backed up with legit proof.

Of course, these signs of infidelity can help you figure out whether your partner is cheating on you. However, even if you’ve recognized most of these signs, you still need to find real shreds of evidence.

Si descubres que tu pareja te está siendo infiel, lo último que debes hacer es quedarte callado y no hacer nada al respecto.

You need to confront them, listen to what they have to say in their defense, and decide whether you’ll forgive them or seguir adelante de esa relación.

Debes ser consciente de una cosa: seguir adelante con una relación después de una aventura emocional no es nada fácil. Sin embargo, romper con alguien a quien amas sinceramente y dejarlo en tu pasado es definitivamente aún más difícil.

En cualquier caso, la decisión depende de ti, y debes tener mucho cuidado al plantearlo.

Nota final

Have you recognized most of these 49 signs of a cheating partner in your relationship? If you have, then, unfortunately, I have bad news for you… Your significant other is most likely being unfaithful to you.

This isn’t the end of the world for you, and it most definitely doesn’t have to be the end of your relationship. Si amas a tu pareja y crees que puedes perdonarla, hazlo e intenta arreglar y salva tu relación.

There definitely isn’t a reasonable explanation for their betrayal, but you should give them a chance to tell you what made them do it. Si desea seguir adelante con tu relación, necesitas superarlo y dejarlo atrás.

Focus on your future and work on your relationship so something like this never happens again. And if you just can’t forgive your partner, then focus on yourself… Heal and move on by yourself.