4 razones brutalmente honestas por las que te da por perdida
Que te den por sentado es una de las cosas más humillantes y dolorosas por las que puedes pasar.
Es especialmente difícil si tu compañero de vida te trata así.
This is exactly the situation you’re in right now.
En el fondo, eres consciente de que tu novio o marido está convencido de que hay no hay nada que pueda hacer para que dejes de quererle .
Ves que se aprovecha de tu buen corazón.
Ves que disfruta de tu presencia sólo porque le gusta tener a alguien que le quiera tanto.
And you know it very well that you’re on the bottom of his priority list.
Sin embargo, ¿por qué ocurren estas cosas en primer lugar? ¿Cómo sabe alguien que otra persona es víctima adecuada de este trato?
Para ser concretos, ¿por qué tu novio te da por sentada? ¿Por qué te utiliza, cuando eso es lo último que se merece una chica como tú?
Porque puede
La primera razón por la que alguien puede tratarte así es bastante sencilla.
Simplemente pueden hacerlo. Les permites comportarse así y no tienen conciencia de sus actos.
Y tu novio probablemente no sea una excepción.
Even though I’m not claiming that him taking you for granted is just your fault (after all, he is the one who is emotionally hurting you without thinking about the consequences), maybe it’s time to think things through and ask yourself whether you’re the one who’s been giving him permission to act this way.
Let’s make one thing clear. If a guy is an asshole, he’ll probably try hiding his negative personality traits in the beginning and start revealing them over time.
That means that your boyfriend wasn’t this big of a douchebag from the very start. Instead, he started with little things.
Y así, sin más, se salió con la suya todas las veces.
After a while, he realized that you’re giving him the green light for his behavior.
He noticed that he doesn’t have to show you any appreciation and you’ll still continue being there for him or do him favors, so he kept on taking you for granted more and more.
He doesn’t give a damn about you
I hate to be the one to burst your bubble, but here is the harshest and the truest truth: if a guy is taking you for granted, he is probably doing it because he doesn’t care about you.
Al menos, no lo suficiente como para pensar en tus emociones y tener cuidado de no romperte el corazón.
He might like you enough to spend time with you, but he doesn’t give a damn whether he’ll emotionally damage you.
He couldn’t care less about you feeling underappreciated or hurt.
This guy is obviously a selfish jerk who only thinks about his own needs and could never put you first, despite everything you’ve been doing for him.
Recuerda una cosa: if a man treats you like he doesn’t care será mejor que empieces a creerle.
Además, ¿qué mejor prueba de su indiferencia necesitas?
You’re too nice
Sí, existe ser demasiado amabledemasiado amable, o demasiado cariñoso.
You’re a girl who gives her entire self to a man who will never be able to reciprocate and that is exactly why you feel like you’ve been taken for granted.
You try too hard and you put too much effort into someone who clearly doesn’t deserve it.
Besides, you never get angry. Even when you notice his wrongdoings, you forgive him easily and he knows he’ll always get away with the way he’s treating you.
Entonces, ¿por qué iba a molestarse en cambiar de aires?
Consequently, the man you’re dating doesn’t have any miedo a perderte.
He knows that you’ll stick around, no matter what he does, because you’ve convinced him in your love and you showed him your feelings.
Therefore, it is easier for him to lie back and enjoy the attention he’s been getting from you than to continue winning you over.
You don’t know how to say “no”
If you’re taken for granted, your biggest problem is probably the fact that you don’t know how to turn someone down.
Te cuesta poner límites y la gente, incluido tu novio, se aprovecha de ello.
You’re someone who is always available and ready to do whatever it takes to please the person you love.
You’re always there when he needs a favor, a shoulder to cry on, or some company, while in his eyes, you’re ranked far from first place.
En pocas palabras, usted es un donante profesional de segundas oportunidades y aceptador de falsas excusas.
Even when deep down you know that someone won’t ever change and doesn’t deserve a place in your life, you go against your principles and always take them back.
