5 cosas que hacer cuando un hombre emocionalmente indisponible sigue volviendo

Superar a un hombre emocionalmente inasequible es difícil. Especialmente cuando ese hombre emocionalmente no disponible sigue regresando.

Let’s be real here. When you start a new relationship, you don’t expect it to end.

You always hope that he is going to be the one for you, that he’s going to show you that love is worth fighting for.

And then, he shows you that he’s just another fucktard you fell hopelessly in love with.

How do you move on from that? You know that he’s not the one, you know that he screwed you over and over again, but hope is what breaks you every single time you think of him.

Aún recuerdas lo increíble que era cuando os conocisteis, aún puedes saborear sus labios en los tuyos y aún esperas que vuelva.

Pero la cosa es que los hombres emocionalmente no disponibles necesitan tomar esa decisión por sí mismos.

No one can force them to change and grow up. No one can make them change except themselves. And that’s the sucky part.

¿Y ahora qué? ¿Cómo superar adecuadamente una relación en la que sentías que eras el único que amaba, en la que sentías que le gritabas a una pared de ladrillos y no pasaba nada?

Demonios, incluso crees que esa pared tenía más emociones que tu ex.

¿Cómo superar una relación en la que has dado lo mejor de ti y sólo has obtenido dolor y frustración a cambio?

Let’s break it into a few parts. Firstly, we need to know what the hell he is going to do.

¿Va a hacerse la víctima, a ponerte celosa, a restregártelo todo por la cara o va a ofrecerte el paquete completo?

Then, it’s important to know how to react and what to do. Spoiler alert: it involves the no contact rule.

Estas son 5 cosas que los hombres emocionalmente no disponibles hacen después de una ruptura:

Hacerse la víctima

He will go around telling the story of how you’re the bad guy and he did nothing except love you the best way he knew.

He will tell that story to anyone with a set of ears and tits. Poor lad, he did nothing wrong and you ended it out of the blue. He’s simply doing this so he can keep his reputation.

In this case, he has no intention of winning you back, instead he’s trying to make you snap and confirm his story.

The best thing you can do here is ignoring all of it. You and your friends know the truth and that’s all that matters.

Sabes que hiciste todo lo que pudiste y no pasó nada. Sabes que lo intentaste pero él se negó a hacer lo mismo.

So, don’t give him the pleasure of winning once more. Ignore his lying ass and let those poor girls find out the truth the hard way. They won’t believe you anyway, even if you told them, he’s that good at his games.

Pushing your buttons with jealousy

Te restregará a su nueva novia por la cara hasta que empiece a volverte loca y cuando le envíes un mensaje preguntándole por ello, te informará tranquilamente de que vuestra relación ha terminado.

You two have nothing to talk about, you moved on and so did he. He will make you wonder what the hell is the truth and what’s not.

Let me tell you, happy, grown-up people don’t fuck over their exes.

They don’t play games and parade around with their new arm candy. And you know that he’s doing exactly that.

Give yourself a break and let him play all the games he wants. You’re better off without him anyway. Embrace your single life and this new opportunity life gave you.

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Pasar al siguiente conjunto de órganos necesarios para aumentar su pequeño ego no es más que una necesidad para él.

You see, if he doesn’t find someone soon enough to boost his confidence, he needs to face the hell he put you through and actually think about his actions for a second. And that’s something he’s not familiar with. Thus, rebounding.

Si a esto le sumas los juegos de celos, ¡tienes un ganador! Un hombre emocionalmente inmaduro que podría avergonzar a Barney Stinson.

Consider yourself lucky here, you dodged a bullet in a way. It doesn’t mean it hurts less but it means that life gave you lemons for you to make a whiskey sour.

Disclaimer: Alcohol is not the answer but it sure as hell helps to solve some of life’s mysteries. Or create new ones. It’s fun, either way.

Amigos con derecho a roce

Sabes lo que quiere cuando te pide que sigamos siendo amigos. Quiere todos los beneficios de la relación menos el compromiso. Cariño, te mereces más que eso.

You deserve more than being someone’s backup plan and safety net. And you deserve more than to be his late-night booty call.

Esto depende de ti. Si puedes ser su amigo, sin toda esta mierda beneficiosa, ve a por ello.

No todo el mundo es igual y no todo el mundo necesita los mismos pasos para curarse.

Maybe you need to be close to him to remind yourself every day that you’re better off without him.

O necesitas que desaparezca de la faz de la tierra. Pero hagas lo que hagas, recuerda ponerte a ti y a tus necesidades en primer lugar. Tú también mereces ser feliz.

Presumir

He goes off the radar for a while and all of a sudden he’s traveling the world, starting a successful business and he’s Instagramming the shit out of it all.

I mean, if he wasn’t that much into social media before, think a bit about the reason behind this new-found social media love.

I think you already know the answer. The reason behind all of this is to show you that he’s so much better than you are.

Maybe what he did to you and the way he hurt you affected his ego and shook his world for a bit but have no fear—he’s back on his feet again.

Necesita ser el mejor de todos, tener las mejores tías a su alrededor, el mejor coche y restregártelo todo por la cara.

It’s his way of telling you that he has moved on and there’s no chance in hell you will ever get back together.

¿La solución? La regla del no contacto. Bloquéale en todas las redes sociales, borra sus fotos de tu teléfono y haz todo lo posible por ignorarle.

But don’t forget to remind yourself every single day that you are amazing and worthy and the fiercest human being out there. You swam oceans of your sadness and you conquered hell. He’s nothing compared to that.

Ten en cuenta que un hombre emocionalmente no disponible nunca volverá arrastrándose hacia ti.

Es un maestro de la manipulación y hará que te acerques a él, con todos estos juegos de celos, presumiendo, despechado y quedando como amigo tuyo.

The whole idea is that you see only the best of him, which is supposed to make you miss him like crazy. And the worst part? It actually works. When we’re in love, we’re not thinking clearly. And he knows it.

Así que aquí tienes 5 cosas que hacer cuando tu hombre emocionalmente no disponible sigue volviendo:

Mantente fuera de alcance

 

Tell him that you’re done and show him. Every time he calls you, show him you’re not there for him.

Every time he wants to make you jealous, show him that you don’t care.

Pretend that he’s no longer there and when it’s necessary to acknowledge his existence, give him an Academy Award-winning smile. Make sure that you are out of reach of him, from his games and toxic love.

Recuerda que nunca fuiste tú

Nunca fue culpa tuya. Su incapacidad para comprometerse y permanecer leal no tiene nada que ver contigo.

Diste lo mejor de ti, te dejaste la piel para que esta relación funcionara.

And sometimes, it just doesn’t. Because it takes two for love and you were the only one working on it.

And every time he comes back to you, asking for a second chance or driving you crazy with his mind games, remind yourself that you’re better than that. Remind yourself that his immature ass doesn’t deserve your time.

Ignorar lo positivo y creer lo negativo

I’ve been there, where you are now. Always thinking about the good times we had together and all the times he made me feel like I was the most amazing woman out there. Like I was the only one for him and the world was at our feet.

Pero el caso es que nunca lo fue. Nunca fui la única para él y nunca hubo un futuro que pudiéramos compartir.

And it wasn’t until I realized the true nature of our relationship that I was able to move on.

If you are sure you don’t want him in your life anymore, focus on the negatives. Focus on all the times you stared at an empty screen, waiting for his message.

Concéntrate en todas las veces que te engañó, las veces que te prometió el mundo y no te dio nada. Míralo por lo que es, no por la persona que fingió ser.

Don’t put yourself at his beck and call and keep the no contact rule

When you’re involved with an emotionally unavailable man, the thing is that you control your role.

At first, you don’t know who he is and you give him everything, because that’s just how you love.

But later on, once you see him for who he is, it’s incredibly important for you to change that role.

Cut him off and don’t go running to him the moment he calls you. I get it, you still love him and you want to help him but you need to help yourself first!

And that’s exactly why keeping the no contact rule is essential for you to move on.

It’s the only way that you can show him loud and clear that you have moved on and you’re no longer up for his games and manipulations. It’s time for him to look for another victim because you ain’t one.

Conviértete en la mujer que siempre has admirado

Esa mujer increíble y feroz que no deja que nadie le quite su valía. La mujer que se mantiene firme, sin importar lo que la vida le depare. La mujer que tiene todas las cartas en sus manos y sabe cómo repartirlas.

Guess what? You are already that woman. Just because you fell, it doesn’t mean you’re no longer her.

Just because you believed and hoped, it doesn’t mean you’re not badass and fierce.

And just because you loved the wrong man, it doesn’t mean you’re less of a badass woman.

You may lose your ground for a second but you know where you stand. Don’t ever let anyone convince you otherwise!