5 formas de detectar a las personas egoístas y 5 maneras de tratarlas

¿Alguna vez te has involucrado con alguien egoísta? Si lo has hecho, sabes que algo así puede ser una auténtica pesadilla.

That is why we’re here to give you a guide on how to identify these types of people and how to handle them most successfully.

¿Cómo detectar a las personas egoístas?

Las personas egoístas están en todas partes a tu alrededor, aunque la mayoría de ellas ocultan este rasgo tóxico de forma solapada. Sin embargo, hay algunas características comunes a casi todas las personas egoístas y aquí tienes 5 de ellas.

They’re overly caring

Cuando conoces a una persona tóxica por primera vez, suele ser tu sueño hecho realidad.

These people are everything you’ve always wanted in a friend or a romantic partner, and at first, you are more than happy for meeting them. And the same goes with selfish people, as well.

At first sight, a selfish person is too good to be true. They’re caring, loving, and friendly, and before you know it, somehow they crawl into your life and become a part of it.

Por supuesto, no todas las personas amables resultan ser gilipollas egoístas. Sin embargo, cuando alguien es tóxico de este modo, muestran su verdadera cara en cuanto ven que se han encerrado en tu amor y afecto.

They’re possessive

There is one thing all selfish people have in common without exception – they’re all possessive.

They are needy, have trouble understanding that you have other people in your life besides them, and want all of their victim’s attention.

Once they see that they’ve managed to get you, they consider you their prey and aren’t prepared to share you with anyone else.

They know that you are suited for selfish and toxic people who drain all of your energy, and they don’t plan on allowing someone else to start taking advantage of you.

This is especially difficult in a romantic relationship because, at first, you are flattered by the fact that your partner is so crazy about you and doesn’t want to lose you.

Con el tiempo, sin embargo, ves la razón de su comportamiento y te das cuenta de que tiene muy poco que ver con el amor verdadero.

Nunca corresponden a tus esfuerzos

Una persona egoísta nunca pondrá la misma cantidad de esfuerzo that you do in your relationship. No matter what, you’ll always be the one giving more and trying more.

Next to them, you’ll constantly feel emotionally neglected and be wanting more of their love and attention.

Lo peor es que, a pesar de ello, una persona egoísta se las arreglará de algún modo para convertirse en víctima.

Utilizarán sus artimañas para persuadirte de que te esfuerces aún más por ganarte todo su afecto y conseguir que te devuelvan el amor que mereces.

Carecen de empatía

Incluso antes de que alguien te muestre sus verdaderos colores, puedes detectar su egoísmo a través de su comportamiento hacia otras personas e incluso animales.

These kinds of people have a complete absence of empathy – they can never feel sorry nor happy for someone else.

Selfish people don’t know how to walk in other people’s shoes. They don’t know how to feel others’ misery or joy because they only care about themselves.

So, if you notice that someone close to you isn’t showing any sign of compassion when you guys see a stray animal or when something bad happens in the world, it is a surefire sign they don’t think about anyone besides themselves.

They’re manipulative

Remember one thing: selfish people don’t love you – they aren’t capable of truly loving ¡a nadie! Sólo se quieren a sí mismos.

These people are afraid of losing you for everything you’re giving them and for the way you make them feel. They’re actually terrified of the possibility of being alone without anyone to use.

That is exactly why they’ll do everything in their power to keep you around and never let you go.

Utilizarán la manipulación emocional, el chantaje y cualquier otra cosa que puedan contra ti, sólo para que te sientas culpable cada vez que pienses siquiera en abandonarlos.

¿Cómo tratar a los egoístas?

Spotting selfish people is a piece of cake if you know what signs you should look out for. However, handling them when they’ve already crawled in your life is much more difficult. But it can be done and here is how.

Accept that you’re involved with someone selfish

Ante todo, tienes que aceptar que todas las personas que te rodean, incluidos tus seres más queridos, pueden tener este rasgo tóxico.

I know it’s hard to accept that the closest member of your family – your compañero de vida o tu mejor amigo – is selfish, but sometimes, you simply have to look the truth in the eyes sooner rather than later.

En lugar de ignorar las señales, pensando que eso hará que el problema desaparezca milagrosamente, afróntalo y haz todo lo posible por ayudarte.

Recuerda que toda relación con una persona tóxica es emocionalmente agotadora y te perjudicará a largo plazo.

Empieza a quererte más

When you’re involved with someone toxic, you have to be aware that this person always puts themselves first, no matter what. And it’s about time you start doing that, too.

Yeah, I know it’s easy for me to tell you to love yourself more, but that is exactly what you need to do. Why do you continue putting someone else’s needs in front of your own, when this person will never stop treating you like their last resort?

You’re not a bad person for prioritizing yourself over someone who doesn’t give a damn about your well-being. Instead of trying to save this selfish person who obviously enjoys their toxicity, do your best to save yourself from them.

Dales a probar su medicina

Sadly, sometimes, the only way to deal with the selfish type is to treat them the same way they’re treating you. This means that you have to show them how it feels to be around someone selfish who only cares about themselves.

It’s time you pay this awful person back for everything they’ve been doing to you.

Es hora de empezar a cancelar planes en el último minuto, cuando surja algo más conveniente, es hora de tratarlos como tu último recurso, es hora de dejar de importarte un bledo sus sentimientos y es hora de empezar a pensar en ti mismo.

It’s high time you stand up for yourself and show them that you aren’t anyone’s toy.

By simply doing this and nothing else, you’ll probably chase this selfish person out of your life.

These people can’t stand being around someone they don’t have any advantage over, so it is likely they’ll flee the moment they see they can’t keep on playing with you.

But don’t become like them

Sin embargo, lo importante es no permitirse ser igual que esa persona.

Don’t let them drag you into their toxicity and darkness, and don’t lose faith in all humanity just because you’ve had one lousy experience!

Aflojar lazos

If it happens that you treating this selfish person the way they’ve been treating you doesn’t give you any results and doesn’t chase them away, it’s time for your detachment.

Por supuesto, lo ideal sería que fueras sin contacto , but if this is something you don’t have the strength to do overnight, at least try loosening your ties with this person.

Pasa el menor tiempo posible con ellos, deja de hacerles favores e intenta cambiar de entorno.

With time, you’ll become strong enough to kick this person out of your life or they’ll walk away by themselves. Either way, you win!