Por mucho que quieras a tu pareja, con el tiempo perderás la chispa de antaño en tu matrimonio. Siento reventar tu burbuja, pero este tipo de cosas ocurren en todas las relaciones duraderas y, últimamente, la gente está intentando encontrar una buena manera de afrontarlas.

It happens because you get to know your partner very well and you start to relax more. You feel like he is your relative more than your lover. You feel like you are just roommates who live together, eat together and pay bills together. You can’t remember when was the last time you felt the old spark and the adrenaline that gets you going, and you crave it so much.

You wish that both of you act like at the beginning of your relationship when you and your man couldn’t take hands off of each other. You would love that he still loves you madly but all that you can see are signs your husband doesn’t love you anymore—at least not so crazily like before but in a calm way that you don’t like so much.

So, you are trying to figure out what to do because you don’t feel good in this kind of a relationship. You still want that fire in his eyes while he watches you and you want someone who will go the extra mile to provide you with the sexual pleasure you crave so much.

You don’t want to have routine sex with him, but you want it to be spontaneous and you want him to be attracted to you like before. Just because I know what you are going through, I decided to ease your pain and give you some advice on how to bring the old spark back to your marriage. So, lay down and read further!

1. Tomaros un tiempo para vosotros dos

Cuando se encuentre en un relación duradera, it is very hard to get some private time for you and your partner. There are kids and a lot of obligations that you really don’t want to do but you have. And you live like that day by day, neglecting your partner, taking him for granted and thinking that he will always be there.

Después de ver eso, decide hacer algunos cambios en su vida, por lo que sale con sus amigos o incluso se mete en una aventura con otra mujer. Y eso sin duda puede llevar al fracaso de todo lo que tenéis. Así que, para evitarlo, dedicaos algo de tiempo el uno al otro, por muy urgentes que sean otras cosas. Nada es más urgente que tu felicidad y tu decisión de vivir tu vida al máximo.

2. Escuche a su cónyuge

Cuando tienes una relación duradera, a veces te olvidas de dar prioridad a tu cónyuge. Hablas más de tu trabajo y de las cosas que te gustan que de prestar atención a tu cónyuge y a sus necesidades. No estoy diciendo que debas olvidarte totalmente de ti misma, pero de vez en cuando estaría bien hablar con tu hombre y preguntarle si está bien o cómo le ha ido el día. Él sabrá apreciarlo y tú estarás más conectada emocionalmente con él cuando sepas todo sobre sus sentimientos.

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3. Salir juntos

El truco para devolver la vieja chispa a tu relación es hacer cosas que hacíais antes de casaros. Salga con su hombre o con sus amigos comunes y diviértanse como solían hacerlo antes. Olvídate del trabajo y de todas esas cosas estresantes que forman parte de tu vida y disfruta de tu vida como lo hacías antes.

Te hará sentir bien y sentirás que las cosas están cambiando a mejor. Tu marido verá que sigues teniendo un espíritu joven y que sigues siendo una mujer divertida e increíble como antes. Eso creará un vínculo más profundo entre los dos y refrescará vuestra relación.

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4. Have sex – a lot

You see, when two people are married, they sometimes forget about having sex or they don’t feel the same sexual tension like they used to. That is when the real problem starts because if the two people are not intimate, the connection between them is fading away.

That’s why you need to have regular sex with your man and no, you don’t need to wait for it to be spontaneous. You probably have kids and a million things to do so squeezing sex in your schedule can be mission impossible. So, when you catch time, do it, there is no way that it will be bad.

5. Ser un poco misterioso

When a woman has her heart on her sleeve and when she tells her man about all that happens in her life, he won’t be so interested in her. He already knows all her secrets and there is nothing he needs to find out about her. That’s why you need to be a little bit mysterious and keep some things for yourself only.

Make your man make an effort to find out things about you, even if the two of you are in a long-term relationship. Always keep him interested in you by using some small tricks that all women use if they want their men to be interested in them. It won’t harm anyone and it will bring the old spark back to your marriage. So, let’s just keep this as a little secret for ourselves, okay?

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