No matter how much you love your partner, you will lose the old spark in your marriage eventually. I am sorry to burst your bubble but things like this happen in all long-term relationships and recently, people are trying to find a good way to deal with it.
It happens because you get to know your partner very well and you start to relax more. You feel like he is your relative more than your lover. You feel like you are just roommates who live together, eat together and pay bills together. You can’t remember when was the last time you felt the old spark and the adrenaline that gets you going, and you crave it so much.
You wish that both of you act like at the beginning of your relationship when you and your man couldn’t take hands off of each other. You would love that he still loves you madly but all that you can see are signs your husband doesn’t love you anymore—at least not so crazily like before but in a calm way that you don’t like so much.
So, you are trying to figure out what to do because you don’t feel good in this kind of a relationship. You still want that fire in his eyes while he watches you and you want someone who will go the extra mile to provide you with the sexual pleasure you crave so much.
You don’t want to have routine sex with him, but you want it to be spontaneous and you want him to be attracted to you like before. Just because I know what you are going through, I decided to ease your pain and give you some advice on how to bring the old spark back to your marriage. So, lay down and read further!
1. Take some time just for the two of you
When you are in a long-term relationship, it is very hard to get some private time for you and your partner. There are kids and a lot of obligations that you really don’t want to do but you have. And you live like that day by day, neglecting your partner, taking him for granted and thinking that he will always be there.
After he sees that, he decides to make some changes in his life, so he goes out with his friends or even gets into an adventure with another woman. And that can surely lead to failure of everything you got. So, to prevent that, take some time for each other, no matter how urgent other things might be. Nothing is more urgent than your happiness and your choice to live your life to the fullest.
2. Listen to your spouse
When you are in a long-term relationship, you sometimes forget to put your spouse first. You talk about your job and things you like more than paying attention to your spouse and his needs. I am not saying that you should totally forget yourself, but from time to time, it would be nice to talk to your man and ask him if he is okay or how his day was. He will know how to cherish that and you will be more emotionally connected with him when you know all about his feelings.
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3. Go out together
The catch to bringing the old spark back to your relationship is to do things that you did before you got married. Go out with your man or with your mutual friends and have fun like you used to do before. Forget about work and all those stressful things that are parts of your life and enjoy your life like you did before.
It will make you feel good and you will feel that things are changing for the better. Your husband will see that you still have a young spirit and that you are still a fun and awesome woman like before. That will make a deeper bond between the two of you and you will refresh your relationship.
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4. Have sex – a lot
You see, when two people are married, they sometimes forget about having sex or they don’t feel the same sexual tension like they used to. That is when the real problem starts because if the two people are not intimate, the connection between them is fading away.
That’s why you need to have regular sex with your man and no, you don’t need to wait for it to be spontaneous. You probably have kids and a million things to do so squeezing sex in your schedule can be mission impossible. So, when you catch time, do it, there is no way that it will be bad.
5. Be a little bit mysterious
When a woman has her heart on her sleeve and when she tells her man about all that happens in her life, he won’t be so interested in her. He already knows all her secrets and there is nothing he needs to find out about her. That’s why you need to be a little bit mysterious and keep some things for yourself only.
Make your man make an effort to find out things about you, even if the two of you are in a long-term relationship. Always keep him interested in you by using some small tricks that all women use if they want their men to be interested in them. It won’t harm anyone and it will bring the old spark back to your marriage. So, let’s just keep this as a little secret for ourselves, okay?
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