5 maneras a prueba de balas para mantener a los narcisistas fuera de tu vida
Déjame adivinar. La última vez que te encontraste en la red de un narcisista manipulador, encantador y controlador, te prometiste a ti mismo que sería la última vez. Y lo dijiste en serio.
Hasta que pasó el siguiente.
Antes de que te dieras cuenta de que te habías vuelto a enamorar del mismo hombre (sólo que en otro cuerpo), ya era casi demasiado tarde. Consiguió salir, pero por los pelos. Pero no te fuiste sin una cicatriz.
Una cicatriz psicológica. Una que te persigue cada vez que piensas en enamorarse otra vez.
One that hovers over your head every time you think you’ve met a good man. One that doesn’t let you let your guard down, because now, you’re done with that. It’s time for some new rules.
Los narcisistas te harán eso.
They will suck you dry and once they got everything they need out of you, they leave you broken, shallow and fragile – barely even a person. Once your narcissist leaves you, you are but a shadow of your former self.
Y si me preguntan a mí, ya es suficiente. ¿Cuánto tiempo tienes que sufrir y hasta dónde se les permite llegar en sus malvadas persecuciones? Por desgracia, siempre habrá un próximo gilipollas narcisista, pero hay formas de asegurarse de que no vuelves a caer en sus redes.
Usted puede creer que es un imán para these manipulative and abusive control freaks, but I assure you – you’re not!
It feels that way because subconsciously you have a type. But once you realize that and start actively pursuing a completely different type of man, one that’s GOOD for you, it will be easy to see that life can actually be beautiful again.
So here are 5 killer ideas that will help you keep narcissists out of your life. And this time – for good!
1. Cuidado con los hombres que ejercen una atracción fuerte (casi magnética) sobre ti desde el primer momento.
¿Conoces ese tipo de química instantánea, fuerte, algo aterradora y emocionante que sientes de vez en cuando con alguien? ¿Esa que te hace querer saltar sobre sus huesos en ese mismo instante?
Pues bien, la próxima vez que tengas esta rara sensación y sientas una atracción extremadamente seductora, CORRE. Detente inmediatamente y no actúes siguiendo ese impulso. La atracción que estos hombres viciosos ejercen sobre las mujeres es tóxica.
Almost impossible to resist… but if you nip it in the bud before it evolves further, you’re going to be okay. Don’t let his animalistic, magnetic vibe pull you one inch closer. That’s how it ALL starts.
2. Go for the polar opposite of who you’d normally consider dating
One way to get rid of narcissists is to change it up. And I mean, pull a 180. If you go for charming, self-assured, highly successful men who are smooth as hell, stop. Perhaps it’s time to consider giving the guy next door a chance.
Ya sabes, ese que puede que no sea George Clooney y que puede que no trabaje en un bufete de abogados puntero de la ciudad, pero que es amable, empático y con intenciones genuinas.
The one that always says “Hi” when he sees you and offers to help carry your groceries. One that walks your dog when you’re at work and who makes you feel calm and safe. Try him for a change, and see what happens.
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3. Find a guy who doesn’t conform, but rather paves his own way and ignores unimportant opinions
Go for a guy who isn’t afraid to go against the grain. Go for a guy who doesn’t care what others think as long as he knows he’s doing what’s right for him.
Find a man who can do his own thing and be proud of him for making a small difference. It’s so easy following in other people’s footsteps. But what’s NOT easy is paving your own path to success. Respect any man who is brave enough to stick out in a crowd. It’s not as easy as it may seem.
He might be successful, he might not. But he is damn well trying and at the end of the day, that’s all you can ask for. You live and you learn. And that’s his main motto in life.
4. Aléjate de los tipos que te critican sutilmente pero consiguen que suene constructivo.
Nope, nope, and nope. You’re a grown-ass woman and if you wanted to hear his opinion on every little thing you do, you’d ask. I’m guessing you rarely do, so stop tolerating it!
You can dress however you choose, stay out for as long as you want, and pursue whatever passion makes you feel alive! Steer clear of guys who aren’t okay with that, and realize that you deserve somebody who will encourage you, NOT demean you.
However charming it may sound, it’s toxic and it’s only the beginning. So don’t let happen again and leave the minute you realize your every move is under a microscope. You’ll thank me later.
5. Apuesta por un hombre con una mentalidad y unos valores vitales similares.
Who has time to try to change anyone these days? If you’re with someone who is simply not what you’re looking for in the long run, leave. If your man is a narcissistic egomaniac who is trying to make you into someone you’re not, leave.
Find a guy who shares similar values. Find a guy you think would make a good father one day. Find a guy who appreciates the little things in life, and doesn’t sweat the small stuff. And trust me, you’ll know what I’m talking about once you meet that guy.
Don’t perder el tiempo on somebody who likes to play God. If you feel a weird vibe around him, that’s your gut telling you to flee. Trust it and move on. It’s not worth it staying with someone who only likes half of you, when there are tons of guys out there who would LOVE you in all of your entirety.
