Ser fuerte no es tan fácil como parece. Las mujeres fuertes tienden a olvidar que también pueden ser vulnerables, y por eso acostumbran a dar demasiado a personas que no quieren o no pueden dar nada a cambio.

Una mujer fuerte es independiente, segura de sí misma, emocionalmente inteligente y consciente de sí misma, y sabe que tiene mucho que ofrecer. Pero no por ello es menos humana. El amor puede cegarla fácilmente, por lo que las personas que le importan a menudo se aprovechan de su naturaleza fuerte pero bondadosa.

Hay algunas razones por las que a veces incluso mujeres fuertes acaban en relaciones difíciles y dolorosas, a pesar de toda su dureza, o mejor dicho, a causa de ella:

1. Being a strong woman doesn’t mean that you are shielded from all the toxic and narcissistic people.

It means that they are even more overpowering to you. Toxic people need others who have emotional intelligence, confidence, toughness, and inner strength, so that they can drain them. They rely on a person’s compassionate heart that will always help and be there for them. Tóxico y narcisista la gente tiene todo que ganar de las mujeres fuertes pero ellas no tienen nada que ofrecer.

2. Los traumas del pasado pueden resurgir mientras mantienen una relación.

They were born strong and life made them stronger. Strong women usually go through a lot of difficulties and hardship in life. They are so good at being on their own and entering a relationship can turn their world upside down. Psychologists even indicate that they might have been through a substantial trauma and they often come across partners who trigger that trauma. In a way, that’s their way of confronting their past.

3. Están acostumbrados a ser los que más dan y a no recibir casi nada.

They are used to giving until they have nothing left, which is why they attract needy people—the ones who have no problem taking all the love, understanding and support without giving anything in return. This happens because they are used to being independent, they are used to taking care of themselves, so they don’t see the lack of reciprocity until they are emotionally drained.

4. Creen que pueden influir o cambiar a la persona que aman.

En permanecer en malas relaciones longer than necessary because they feel like they have the power to change somebody. Their compassionate nature makes them think that they need to stick with any difficulty they may encounter in order to help the person they care about. They can waste a lot of time until they realize that they can’t change anybody or influence somebody who doesn’t want change in their life.

5. Eligen inconscientemente relaciones más desafiantes y difíciles.

Whether they realize it or not, they tend to find ‘normal’ relationships boring. They like a challenge, a sort of project of fixing somebody or fixing a relationship they are in. They fail to realize that not everybody wants their help and there are people out there who are toxic by nature and there is no fixing them. The bad thing for strong women here is that they are so focused on the other person that they lose sight of themselves. They put all the effort in and end up being in a one-sided relationship.

Para superar las relaciones difíciles, estas mujeres fuertes tienen que dejar de poner ese exterior duro todo el tiempo y permitirse ser vulnerables. Sadness and hardship are inevitable parts of anyone’s life and that’s something that they need to accept. They are prone to building up walls after a bad experience and while that might help in the short-term, it pushes the good people (who are worthy of a strong woman’s attention) away from them in the long-term.
They have to stop thinking that the weight of the world is on their shoulders and that they have a duty to fix everything. They aren’t the ones who have to put up with everything all the time just because they can handle it. They can’t be the ones giving more all the time. They need a partner who will help them in finding a balance between being strong and leaning on somebody else at times.

The upside of all the difficulties they endure is that those wrong relationships they go through only make them stronger. They know what not to do in their next relationships. Experience teaches them that by choosing the same man again and again, they can’t expect a different outcome. They help them discover themselves, renew their strength and get out of a bad experience with the most valuable lesson of self-love.