5 razones por las que un narcisista no puede durar mucho en una relación

Entre una multitud de atributos indeseables, todos los narcisistas tienen otra cosa en común. Sean o no conscientes de ello, no están hechos para las relaciones duraderas.

En su retorcida mente, no hay nada que puedan hacer mal. Si les preguntas tu narcisista, he would probably insist that his relationships with his family, friends and co-workers couldn’t be better. When in fact, that couldn’t be further from the truth.

A narcissist’s inability to empathize with other people and understand where the majority of their emotions come from makes it extremely challenging for them to form long-lasting, healthy relationships.

They don’t see it the way other people do but they lack in the emotional department and since they are unable (and unwilling) to go through the daily motions of the average Joe, they simply cannot last in a relationship.

Todos los narcisistas tienen un modus operandi similar. Su comportamiento se puede predecir fácilmente porque hacen lo suyo en bucle en todas y cada una de las relaciones románticas.

And that right there is the main cause of their romantic downfall. (Ironic, isn’t it?)

Due to this peculiar occurrence, it’s easier to understand exactly why they cannot form relationships that can actually stand the test of time.

They are the ones standing in their own way and if it wasn’t for their manipulative behavioral patterns, their luck in love would perhaps increase!

Pero por suerte para todas las mujeres de ahí fuera, se adhieren a su agenda y aquí es exactamente cómo sabotean sus esfuerzos románticos.

1. Los narcisistas tratan a las personas (y a sus parejas románticas) como objetos

As we are all already familiar with, narcissists cannot feel empathy, therefore have zero regard for other people’s well-being.

No pueden caer locamente enamorado the way you, I and the rest of the world can. They aren’t wired that way.

What they can do is fall for a person in an extremely unhealthy, obsessive manner, let their delusion of love overcome them and within days return to their ‘normal’ self who treats people like objects.

• They use their partner’s emotions for their own gain and discard them when they no longer serve their purpose.
• Drenan la energía de su pareja y la dejan vacía y desesperada por una recarga que nunca llega.
• En lugar de comprometerse, toman lo que quieren y no dan nada a menos que tenga sentido para su propio beneficio y su propio bienestar.

2. Los narcisistas van por la vida con la cabeza en las nubes

Narcissists don’t care what’s happening around them. They don’t care what you think or feel.

Tienen sus propios ideales particulares que están bastante alejados de la realidad. Apuntan demasiado alto y esperan mucho sin ofrecer nada.

Buscan una pareja que sólo les sirva de bonito accesorio. Quieren que alguien satisfaga todas sus necesidades, creyendo que tienen todo el derecho a ello.

They don’t care what you want. The only thing that matters is what they have imagined in their head and working on achieving it (no matter how delusional or far-fetched it is).

• A narcissist doesn’t make it easy on their partner. You will always look over your shoulder wondering if you did something wrong and how to make amends.
• Su constante insatisfacción contigo te jugará malas pasadas y te convertirá en un pesimista hastiado que ha perdido las ganas de vivir.
• Nunca harán su parte para ser feliz. They will ALWAYS expect you to do that. You will be the one in charge of your narcissist’s happiness and it will be extremely difficult living that way.

3. Los narcisistas no confían en NADIE

They don’t put their trust in anyone’s hands but their own. They see it as a weakness because they have never let themselves depend on anybody.

Unlike other people, who trust their nearest and dearest, narcissists don’t have that luxury.

They don’t understand how people give away their trust that easily as it can backfire within seconds. And this is why their relationships end way too prematurely.

Su incapacidad para confiar en su pareja dificulta la relación sentimental, ya que la confianza es el principal ingrediente de una relación amorosa sana y feliz.

• To them, trust equals vulnerability and they don’t allow themselves to be weak. Not for their partner, not for anyone.
• No se dan cuenta de que la confianza refuerza la solidez de una relación y ayuda a construir la conexión y a acercar a dos personas.
• Confiar en las personas significa depender de ellas y los narcisistas no dependen de nadie más que de sí mismos.

4. Los narcisistas son excesivamente controladores y manipuladores

Los narcisistas siempre tienen que controlar a las personas y las situaciones en las que se encuentran.

Nunca se permiten quedar al margen de tener que recomponer las piezas porque siempre están al tanto de todo.

Y esto, junto con su necesidad de manipulación, hace que les resulte difícil mantener una relación de pareja comprometida con alguien.

Harán todo lo que esté en su mano para salir lo mejor parados posible y, si es necesario, te tirarán debajo del autobús. Su necesidad de perfección está por encima de cualquier otra cosa.

• If a certain situation doesn’t appear to be in their favor, they will make shit up and lie to get their desired outcome.
• They don’t respond well to being criticized, so they will resort to many manipulative tactics to drive their partner insane, such as being passive-aggressive and giving you el tratamiento silencioso.
• They never own up to their shit. The blame always falls on somebody else’s shoulders and they will make sure never to be responsible for any shit they cause. They are masters of covering their tracks.

5. Los narcisistas pueden volverse agresivos muy rápidamente

If they don’t have their way, they can turn violent just like that. Narcissists are known to be abusive to their partners and don’t even recognize it as bad behavior. To them, you provoked them, therefore you got yours.

If their partner doesn’t please their every need, they may resort to domestic violence. And if your narcissist possesses any of these problematic traits, the chances of him turning hostile are higher than in any other situation:

• ¿Su narcisista tiene un ego frágil?
• ¿Tiene la costumbre de utilizar a sus allegados en beneficio propio?
• ¿Le falta empatía?
• ¿Se siente superior a ti y a todos los que le rodean?
• ¿Su comportamiento es aterrador y a menudo difícil de descifrar?

If you have answered yes to the majority of these, it is probable that things may take a turn for the worse and sooner than you think. Don’t let your fear keep you with him. If he hasn’t shown signs of major aggression yet, take it as your chance to leave and never look back.