Así es como se quiere a un pensador empedernido

Cuando amas a una persona que piensa demasiado, amas a alguien que está confundido todo el tiempo.

You love someone who can’t turn off their mind, someone who is fighting millions of questions every day. You love someone whose mind is a complete mess.

An overthinker can’t control their thoughts. They can’t store them in drawers inside their mind. They can only try to catch them as they float around in complete and utter disorder.

Su mente les engaña. Un segundo están tranquilos y serenos, pero en cuanto ocurre algo, una situación nueva o imprevisible, empiezan a pensar más de la cuenta.

What if this, what if that, how will I do this or that. They can’t stop asking questions and worrying about the outcome.

Son personas que van de una en una. Procesarán las decisiones hasta estar seguros al cien por cien de que han tomado la correcta.

And after they are done with it, they start overthinking about something else. It’s exhausting to live this way with a question mark hanging above your head all the time.

Cuando quieres a alguien que piensa demasiado, tienes que ser paciente con él. Hay que saber calmarle y evitar que se asuste aún más. Hay que saber comprenderle.

Tienes que demostrarles que estás a su lado siempre que te necesiten. Las palabras no significan nada para ellos. Sólo son frases vacías que salen de tu boca.

They can only make them overthink even more. Do you really mean what you said? What if you’re just saying that? What about when things get really serious, are you going to do what you said you would?

Tienes que saber cómo evitar que se ahoguen en un mar de preguntas cuando se enfrentan a una situación difícil. Hay que saber sacudirles y devolverles a la realidad.

Tienes que saber demostrarles que siempre hay una solución para cada problema y que vais a resolverlo juntos.

Tienes que ser comprensivo. Tienes que darte cuenta de que, aunque tú pienses que todo está bien, ellos piensan que todo es terrible.

You need to understand why you’ve been flooded with questions out of nowhere. You need to know that their mood swings are not intentional. You need to know that their fear is true and honest.

They can’t ignore their thoughts. They can’t shut down and autopilot themself through life. They can’t control their mind and just decide to get rid of all the thoughts that are poking around their brain and keeping them awake at night.

Tienes que demostrarles lo mucho que les quieres incluso en los momentos en que se odian a sí mismos y se pierden en su mente.

Necesita muéstreles empatía and make them aware of the fact that you aren’t going anywhere.

Tienes que mostrarles que eres vulnerable too, that there are some things that scare you, too. You need to show them that they are not alone. You need to let them know that it’s okay to tell you what they are scared of and worried about.

You need to keep repeating to them that you love them, even if it’s a hundred times a day. Your every ‘I love you’ makes them calmer and more relaxed. Maybe it doesn’t mean that much to you but it means the world to them.

Tienes que ser sincero. You have to tell them how you feel. You have to know how to tell them what is going on inside your heart and mind, because if you don’t they will think about it all the time, bringing their mind to the point of desmoronándose.

You need to always show your feelings and lay them out in the open, never hide them, because they will sense that and obsess themself with why you’re hiding something from them.

Se les pasarán por la cabeza millones de situaciones, desde las peores hasta las más llevaderas. Pero todas ellas les provocarán ansiedad y miedo.

Tienes que saber cómo calmarles y ahuyentar su ansiedad. Hay que saber mostrarle lo buena persona que es. Hay que saber destacar sus cualidades y sus lados buenos. Hay que saber mostrarles la verdad y sacarles de su mente desordenada y ansiosa.

Tienes que saber que lo cuestionan todo, incluso a ti. Tienes que estar preparado para todas las situaciones.

You could be having a nice, calm evening relaxing and all of a sudden they will bomb you with questions that have been going around their mind for some time and just can’t stay in there anymore.

I know, loving an overthinker is so hard. But aren’t all relationships hard? Isn’t love hard? The greater it is, the harder it gets. The more your feelings grow, the more is at stake. An overthinker can drive you crazy.

Sometimes you can’t take it anymore but an overthinker will never leave you. They will be loyal and their love is something you’ll have never experienced before.

They know how much you’re doing for them. They know it’s hard to keep someone on the ground.

They know it’s almost impossible to get them out of their head and calm them down when all the questions start wandering around inside their mind.

They will love until the end, no matter how strange you are or how many flaws you have. They will love you no matter what you’ve left behind in the past.

They will love you because they know they are a handful and your love is so strong that every time you’ve had enough, it gives you a push not to give up on them. Not to give up on you two.