Carta abierta a mi ex: Gracias por engañarme

A pesar de que el engaño se ha convertido tristemente en algo común en las citas modernas, ser engañado por la persona amada sigue siendo una de las cosas más devastadoras que alguien pueda experimentar.

Debería saberlo porque lo sentí en mi piel.

Cuando tú, a quien yo creía amor de mi vida me engañó, me sentí traicionada, humillada y decepcionada, además de con el corazón roto.

I felt like the person I trusted the most backstabbed me in the most awful way. Also, I couldn’t help but wonder how come I didn’t see it before.

¿Cómo es que fui tan tonta de permitir que algo así siguiera ocurriendo delante de mis ojos, sin que me diera cuenta de nada?

De la noche a la mañana, mi autoestima desapareció.

I asked myself what you missed in our relationship that you had to search for in someone else. What did this girl have that I didn’t?

Every single one of these thoughts and questions ran through my head the moment I found out that you weren’t faithful.

Even though staying by your side was never an option, leaving you didn’t ease my pain.

Me sentía como si quisiera morir y como si nada ni nadie pudiera ayudarme a sentirme mejor. Como si fuera el fin del mundo y como si nunca fuera a recuperarme de todo lo que me hiciste.

Me pregunté cómo había podido malgastar tantos años de mi vida viviendo en una mentira.

Obviously, you never loved nor respected me the way you should have because you don’t do a thing like this to someone you love.

Lo entendería si fueras tan sincera como para decirme que te has desenamorado de mí.

Pero lo que nunca pude entender y perdonarte fue que violaras mi confianza y me mantuvieras como tu plan de respaldo mientras tenías una aventura y mientras me convencías de que me querías más que a nada.

After some time spent grieving, I’ve decided it is time to recomponerme de una forma u otra.

Después de todo, tú estabas en algún lugar viviendo tu vida, como si nada hubiera pasado, y aquí estaba yo, aferrándome a este dolor y permitiendo que mi desamor me definiera.

I’ve decided that I wasn’t to blame for everything that went on and that you are the only one responsible for your trampas .

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Sabía que había hecho todo lo posible para que nuestra relación funcionara, y si había algo que te molestaba, deberías haberlo confesado en lugar de tontear a mis espaldas.

I’ve decided that hating the girl you had an affair with was pointless, as well.

Yes, my first instinct was to blame her for everything, but then it hit me—she wasn’t the one who promised commitment to me.

She wasn’t the one who would lay in bed next to me every night as if everything was alright, the one who continued to make future plans with me, knowing what was happening, and the one who kept on swearing that she loved me, even though the truth was completely different.

Nevertheless, despite all of this, I learned that I shouldn’t be hating you either. I’ve realized that holding grudges and being bitter was only impacting me negatively.

My desire for revenge was only making me a prisoner of my own pain, and it didn’t affect you in any way whatsoever.

So, this is not me cursing you or wishing you all the worst. This is not me resenting you or swearing that I’ll never forgive you for everything you’ve done.

No, this is me thanking you. Yes, you’ve heard it right: I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for cheating on me.

Because if you hadn’t done it, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I wouldn’t know how strong of a woman I am, and I wouldn’t know how much I could take.

I wouldn’t know that a simple heartbreak can’t break me completely. That time really does heal all wounds and that every pain is temporary, no matter how devastating it might feel.

I wouldn’t know that I could make it without you or without anyone else to hold my hand. If you hadn’t cheated on me, I wouldn’t have become my own hero and savior.

I wouldn’t understand some verdades reveladoras sobre el amor y la gente en general.

I wouldn’t know that there are some insensitive and toxic people, such as yourself, who don’t give a damn about hurting others and that my love can’t change those people, as much as I would like it to.

Lo más importante, if you hadn’t cheated on me, I wouldn’t have loved and respected myself the way I do now.

I wouldn’t know how much I deserve, what love isn’t or what to expect from a healthy relationship.

I wouldn’t be this proud of my strength and my capacity to overcome all miseries.

I wouldn’t have known better than not to let people who don’t deserve me into my life, and I would continue thinking that there is nothing wrong with settling for less.

Así que.., gracias por romperme el corazón. Thank you for cheating on me because if you hadn’t done it, I would have never learned a valuable life lesson.