Carta abierta a la chica que aún no se ha dado cuenta de que no fue culpa suya

Querido tú,

Perhaps you don’t have a name in this text, but if you find yourself to be one of those girls who just can’t stop blaming herself por todos los males que pasó en su vida, entonces esta carta es para ti.

And you need to read it. You need to read it because there are some things I need to tell you since you obviously aren’t willing to accept them on your own.

¿Sigues despierto y te preguntas qué es lo que haces mal? ¿Qué es lo que haces para que los demás te hagan daño o se alejen de ti como si no significaras nada para ellos?

Why can’t you make them stay? You still wonder how come out of all people in your life, you’re only one that is never good enough?

I need you to stop doing this to yourself. I need you to stop being so mean to yourself and I need you to stop blaming yourself for everything you’ve been through.

Life is full of ups and downs and shit happens to everyone, but what determines you is how you deal with it. And frankly speaking, you should stop beating yourself up for the things you couldn’t and can’t change.

It’s not true that you could’ve done things differently. It’s not true that you could’ve been a better person or that you should’ve sacrificed yourself more.

Ya diste lo mejor de ti a los demás y ellos lo dieron por sentado. Usaron tu amabilidad cuando lo necesitaban y una vez curados, te dejaban.

But leaving is something that runs through their veins and nothing you did was going to make them stay. They didn’t enter your life to stay forever; they came because God sent them to teach you a lesson.

It’s time for you to understand what that lesson was.

Okay, friends that should’ve stuck around left. The boy who should’ve seen you and should’ve stayed, didn’t. Someone told you how you’re not good enough.

You can’t reach the expectations others have for you. So what? None of this means that something is wrong with you. It’s just that you had that bad luck to meet too many toxic people in your life.

But there isn’t anything wrong with you. And you need to stick this in your head once and forever.

Rezo para que dejes de pensar demasiado, de repetir situaciones fallidas, de alimentar la duda y de ver lo bueno en todo el mundo menos en ti mismo. Te mereces más.

Deja de culparte y de evocar viejos recuerdos dolorosos. Deja de castigarte por las cosas que ocurrieron en el pasado.

Stop blaming yourself for the things you’re not guilty of.  And most importantly, stop tearing your self-esteem down.

Vales mucho más de lo que crees. And you’re better than you allow yourself to believe. And there is much more to life than you can wrap your mind around.

I’m sorry that you’re hurt. I’m sorry that they broke you. But they didn’t get the best of you. Keep that in mind. Nobody stole your sparkle.

Nobody took your future from you. And nobody swiped off the kindness of your personality. You’re still able to do bright things in the future.

You still have the time in this world to be the person you always wanted to be, but it’s time to start building yourself up now. It’s time to stop beating yourself up, too.

Perdona a las personas que te han hecho daño por hacerlo. Y luego sácalos de tu vida para siempre. Agradéceles las lecciones que te enseñaron y recuérdalas para siempre.

But don’t let them haunt you forever. May that be something that builds you up and makes you stronger—not something that destroys you.

Don’t allow it all to become something that keeps you awake at night or something that tears your good mood down each time you remember it.

Ahora es el momento de convertirte en el dueño de tu vida. Ahora es el momento de dejar de dar tanto poder sobre ti mismo a las personas equivocadas.

Now it’s time to show them, the world and yourself, what you’re made of.

Sé fuerte y perdónate. Be strong and move on. It’s time for you to be happy again.

Dale las gracias a tu corazón por soportar tanto dolor y seguir latiendo. Y prométele a tu corazón que nunca volverá a pasar por el mismo infierno.

Accept that you can’t control what happens in your life, but you can control how it affects you. Accept that you can’t control how people treat you, but you can determine their places in your life based on the way they treat you.

And always remember that you will never be good enough for wrong people, but you’ll be more than enough for the right ones.

Yo también lo aprendí por las malas,

La chica que ya ha estado allí.