Cómo atraer a chicas guapas y atractivas siendo un chico normal
If you’re an average looking guy desiring hot, beautiful women but at the same time thinking that they’re way out of your league and that you’ll never be able to attract one (even if you won the lottery), then it’s time to change that and convince you of the opposite!
Todos conocemos el procedimiento. Una caliente, chico atractivo se acerca a una tía buena en un bar. La hace reír a carcajadas y ella le da su número en aproximadamente cinco minutos.
From the look on her face, it’s evident that she’s really enjoying this hot guy’s company and that he left a good impression.
Now, as you’re observing this scenery as an average looking guy from a corner, you get convinced that average men could never do the same thing and succeed as that good looking guy just did.
You get convinced that beautiful, attractive girls only fall for handsome men with trending haircuts, Brad Pitt’s facial features, and Ryan Gosling’s charisma.
(Bueno, quizá en las películas, pero esto es la vida real).
Summarized, you get convinced that average looking men’s attempts with hot women are doomed.
Pues muchos como tú comparten la misma opinión, ¡y no tienes ni idea de lo equivocado que estás!
It’s true that gente atractiva (en este caso hombres atractivos) siempre han tenido más posibilidades de ligar con mujeres calientes, but this doesn’t mean that an tipo medio like you doesn’t stand a chance.
¿Y sabes por qué?
Because you’ve got it all wrong!
Attractive women don’t fall for handsome men just because of their looks. Of course, looks helps, but what really makes hot women fall for them is their CONFIANZA EN SÍ MISMO.
Sí, la he puesto en mayúsculas y en negrita para asegurarme de que todos la leen y reconocen la importancia de esta palabra tan poderosa.
Por supuesto, hay muchas otras cosas, como el sentido del humor, que también son importantes a la hora de atraer a las mujeres guapas, pero lo fundamental es que todo parte de la confianza en uno mismo.
Es la base de todo ligue exitoso que hayas presenciado hasta ahora en bares, discotecas, en la calle, etc.
Women want to see that a man knows what he wants, that he’s confident in what he’s doing, that he’s passionate about something, that he has interesting things going on in his life, that he has manners and so on.
Y, como te habrás dado cuenta, todo esto no tiene absolutamente nada que ver con el aspecto de un hombre.
It doesn’t matter if you’re an extrovert, introvertido, handsome guy, average looking guy or what’s considered a normal guy—when in a bar (or somewhere else), you all have an equal chance of winning that gorgeous woman and the only thing you need to do is CREER ¡que así sea!
Confident men believe it, and that’s why they always seem to be one step ahead of the game. And today is the day when you will learn the same!
You will learn how to accentuate both your internal and external qualities and present yourself as a guy who knows what he wants and what he’s doing.
¡Como un tipo que confía en su propio cuerpo!
Being an average looking guy, you’ve probably been focusing too much on how you can change your appearance or your personality.
But, the trick is not in changing. You don’t need to look flawlessly perfect in order to attract a hot woman out there.
Todo lo que tienes que hacer es potenciar y acentuar las cualidades internas y externas que ya tienes, y aprender a presentarte como un caballero que exhibe confianza con cada palabra, acción, tu lenguaje corporal y similares.
Remember that you already have all of this inside you. It’s just that you need to wake up that average looking guy, and tell him it’s time to step up his game!
And this is how you’ll do it!
CUALIDADES INTERNAS: FORJA TU PROPIO CARÁCTER Y ACENTÚA TU PERSONALIDAD
It’s important to mention that internal qualities are more important than external qualities because you atraer y retener a una mujer con tu personalidad, sentido del humor y confianza.
Así que asegúrate de prestarles especial atención y pronto te convertirás en un imán para todas las mujeres guapas y atractivas que hay por ahí.
1. Céntrate en tu(s) pasión(es)
It’s universally acknowledged that women are crazy about guys who are driven by their passion (or passions), regardless of whether you belong to the category of beautiful people or average-looking people.
So, finding something you’re passionate about and devoting your time to it will make you ten times more attractive and appealing to every damn girl out there (trust me because I’m a girl, so I’m speaking on behalf of other girls).
Passion is the essence of human beings, and there’s something truly special about a guy who is artistically inclined or crazy about that one hobby he can’t imagine his life without.
Just think of Ed Sheeran and his famous, heart-melting song, “Perfect”. You have no idea how many women have imagined that he wrote it for them because they wanted to feel special.
Y, créeme, si fueras tú el que escribió esa canción para una tía buena que te mola, se enamoraría de ti con todas sus fuerzas como si fueras el mismísimo Sheeran.
Now, don’t get me wrong and think that you need to start guitar lessons ASAP if you want to improve your love life.
No, you just need to find something that you’re good at, something that you really enjoy doing, and present it to her in some way.
You need to let her know that you have something you’re passionate about and this could be gaming, programming, singing, playing an instrument—you name it.
You can post some “passionate pictures” on your social media. You can write her a song, or help her if she needs your assistance when it comes to fixing her laptop or similar.
She will be mesmerized with how thoughtful and inspiring you are, and this is exactly how you win any beautiful, hot girl out there, regardless of whether you’re a 20 or 40 year-old average looking guy or 20 or 40 year old attractive guy!
2. El humor es tu mejor amigo
There’s a reason why so many men—and people in general—pay attention to a person’s sense of humor and accentuate the need to nourish this appealing quality of being amusing or comic.
Y la razón son las vibraciones positivas, no tomarse la vida demasiado en serio, estar relajado, ser inteligente. Significa saber encontrar el lado positivo en todo lo que haces.
Piénsalo de esta manera: Imagina que alguien te está dando una conferencia de forma aburrida y sin interés, haciendo que te quedes medio dormido y te aburras como una ostra.
Ahora, imagina a alguien que es demasiado optimista, que sabe hacer algunos chistes aquí y allá, y que sabe cómo llamar tu atención.
I don’t even have to ask whom would you choose between the two, right?
Pues lo mismo ocurre con las chicas y también con el resto de la población. Todos queremos absorber información de forma divertida.
Todos queremos estar en compañía de personas positivas, con sentido del humor y que sepan sacar lo mejor de la situación. Y eso también lo quieren las chicas guapas y sexys.
Now, I don’t mean that you need to learn thousands of jokes on the Internet by heart.
No, you don’t because this would only make you look like you have no idea what you’re doing or why you’re doing it.
Siempre puedes bromear o contar algo gracioso sobre la situación actual. Siempre puedes volver a contar tus acontecimientos pasados de una forma divertida que la haga llorar de la risa.
And while she’s laughing her ass off, her brain will subconsciously memorize that she enjoys your company A LOT, and she will want more of it.
And that’s why, my friend, humor is your best friend!
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3. Ser reflexivo y prestar atención a los detalles
Por muy independientes y poderosas que parezcan, a todas las mujeres les gusta que las cuiden. Quieren sentirse especiales y quieren un hombre atento y fiable.
It’s in their nature, and they can’t fight it no matter how hard they try.
Las mujeres quieren un hombre capaz de reconocer sus necesidades y actuar en consecuencia. Quieren un hombre que siempre preste atención a los detalles, porque los detalles significan el mundo para ellas.
All hot guys know that, and it’s time you learn that, too!
So, if you notice that she’s changed her hairstyle or her hair color, complement her and tell her how beautiful she looks and that this hair color accentuates her eyes perfectly.
If you notice that she’s feeling down, ask her what’s wrong, listen to her, and comfort her. And remember that you don’t need to solve her problems!
In 99% of cases, women just need someone to listen to them (speaking from experience), so there’s no need to go out of your way and instantly start organizing an attack on the root of her problem like her compañero de trabajo o a otra persona.
Just listen to her, and you’ll be just fine!
Pay special attention to her body language as well. If her arms are crossed, it means she’s a little bit reserved because she doesn’t feel that comfortable.
In that case, try to relax her with a little bit of your unique humor. If she’s avoiding eye contact, it might mean that she’s bored, and you need to change the topic.
Details, details, details…
Just as humor, details are your best friends as well. You need to always be on track with her wishes, needs, desires, and you’ll know how to act accordingly.
That way you’ll always be one step ahead of the game.
Think of it like chess. In order to win, you need to know your opponent’s moves in advance, and you need to do everything in your power to fill the gaps and convince them that your moves are more confident, more powerful, and more dominant.
So, imagine that you’re playing chess, and she’s watching you. Imagine that you need to convince her that you’re exactly what she needs!
4. Believe that you’re special
You’re probably familiar with the fact that all the girls today want someone special.
Quieren sentirse especiales, quieren a alguien especial y quieren todo lo que tenga algo que ver con lo especial. ¿Por qué?
Porque a nadie le gusta lo ordinario. Lo ordinario es aburrido. Lo ordinario no es interesante. Y punto.
And that’s why, my friend, you need to believe that you’re special (even if you don’t feel that way).
Because if you believe that you’re one of a kind and that you’re unique, then you will truly become special in everyone’s eyes around you (and not just hers).
Ahora bien, exhibir tu lado especial no tiene nada que ver con jugando durojactancia o similar.
Todo esto es un gran no-no. Tienes que hacerlo de forma sutil. Tienes que tener la confianza suficiente para hablar de las aficiones más raras del planeta o de cualquier otra cosa que llame su atención.
¡Tienes que ser tú!
Tienes que estar orgulloso tanto de cada uno de tus logros como de cada uno de tus fracasos hasta ahora. Tienes que mostrarle tu lado amable.
You need to convince her that you’re a perfect combination of strong and sensitive. because macho bullshit is not special but being who you are is totally special!
You need to believe that you’re irreplaceable because you are. Lord knows that there’s not another person like you in the world.
You’re one of a kind, so make sure to exhibit all of your unique traits and make sure to show her how special you truly are!
Y estará más que feliz de formar parte de tu mundo, porque tu mundo no es aburrido ni ordinario. Tu mundo es divertido.
Véase también: 30 maneras de hacer que una chica se sienta especial (y se enamore de ti)
CUALIDADES EXTERNAS: DESARROLLA TU PROPIO ESTILO Y ACENTÚA TU APARIENCIA
Las cualidades externas son algo en lo que una mujer se fija primero, pero en cuanto abres la boca y te acercas a ella, todas pasan a un segundo plano y empiezan a prevalecer tus cualidades internas.
But, when combined, external and internal qualities become a killer combination, and that’s why it’s important to pay attention to developing your own style and accentuating your appearance as well.
You want that woman to see how special you are inside out, and this is how you’ll do it!
1. Vestir agradable a la vista
El tipo de ropa, el hecho de que sea ropa limpia e incluso la elección de los colores tienen una gran importancia a la hora de causar una primera impresión.
It’s true that you can’t judge a book by its color, but wanted or not, our clothes and hygiene indeed tell a lot about our character.
Esto es especialmente cierto cuando se trata de mujeres, porque se fijan en todo.
Women pay more attention to details than men, and that’s why they’re literally able to tell everything about you by only observing you. And that’s where you come into the story!
Si desea dejar un buena impresión en esa hermosa, mujer calienteTienes que vestirte para impresionar.
But, don’t worry, this doesn’t mean that you need to take out a loan in order to be able to buy the most expensive clothes.
All you need to do is make sure that what you’re wearing is clean, that the colors match (at least to a certain degree), and that there are no bad odors or any kind of weird smells (because women are allergic to that).
You want her to see that you know how to take care of yourself and that you’re paying attention to details every time you’re about to go to town or somewhere else.
You want her to see that you’re neatly dressed because that’s one of the number one signs of every true gentleman!
2. Crea tu propia imagen
Remember that part about believing that you’re special? Well, you need to incorporate that idea into dressing as well.
One of the easiest ways to show her that you don’t care about following the crowd and you have your own beliefs and principles is by developing your own, unique style.
You can find ideas in the latest magazines, but don’t ever try to look exactly like a model on a runaway.
The easiest thing a man can do is to spend a large amount of money on something that’s considered popular or trending, but this doesn’t necessarily mean that it will fit him.
Every man needs to find his own niche, his own style that will tell the girl: “This is who I am! I am a gamer; I am a businessman; I am an artist; I love rock’n’roll; I love metal; I love pop…”
Basta pensar en el personaje Elliot Alderson de esa popular serie, Mr. Robot. Todo lo que lleva es la misma sudadera negra con capucha, los mismos pantalones negros y las mismas zapatillas Converse negras.
And still he manages to look mysteriously unique in the eyes of every girl out there. He still manages to gain respect from the masses of people because he’s built up his own style.
And you can do the same. You don’t need a lot of money to succeed in creating your own image. All you need is creativity and thinking about how you can match your personality with clothes.
Véase también: Cómo impresionar a una chica: las 15 mejores maneras de conquistarla
3. Acentúa tus mejores rasgos y oculta imperfecciones
El mayor error de muchos hombres y mujeres es no saber cómo acentuar sus mejores rasgos u ocultar sus imperfecciones.
Una vez que aprendas a hacerlo, ¡serás el amo del vestuario!
So, if you have at least one part of your body that is muscular (that’s usually arms and torso), you want that hot chick to notice it!
Quieres decírselo: Hey, I’m sweating my ass off at the gym lately! I’m determined, disciplined, and confident.
Well-fitting pants will help your legs seem longer which is good for those suffering from “short legs syndrome”, and darker shades of clothes will make you look more fit— aka less obese.
There are numerous pieces of advice on the Internet about this, so feel free to check them out if there’s something you’re interested in specifically.
4. Sencillo pero notable
Y otro gran error del que son culpables muchos hombres y mujeres es esforzarse demasiado.
When we really like someone, I mean when we’re really crazy about that one person, it comes natural to us to spend a whole week or a month in front of a mirror trying to find the perfect combo that will impress them.
Ese deseo de llamar la atención y gustar a quienes admiramos es tan fuerte que a veces nos obliga a exagerar a la hora de vestirnos.
So, always keep in mind that less is more! Don’t mix tons of different patterns, colors, or materials.
Choose two to three colors max per outfit. Subtle patterns are preferred, and don’t wear screaming or fluorescent colors EVER (no matter how much you were desperate for her to notice you).
Si haces esto, seguro que se fija en ti, pero no causarás una buena impresión.
Quieres ser sencillo pero notable. Quiere decir mucho diciendo menos. Quiere ser atrevido pero informal.
¡Quieres ser un caballero considerado y con carácter!
You want her to notice that you know how to take care of yourself, that you pay attention to details, that you have passions and hobbies, that you enjoy life, and that you’re feeling confident in your own skin!
Quieres ser percibido como un caballero considerado y con carácter, y no sólo como un tipo de aspecto corriente, ¡porque eres mucho más que eso!
Tienes un gran potencial independientemente de tu aspecto, y cuanto antes te des cuenta de ello, mejor.
Puedes tener a cualquier chica guapa y caliente que quieras. Todo lo que necesitas hacer es CREER.
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