Come attrarre le ragazze belle e sexy come un ragazzo dall'aspetto medio

If you’re an average looking guy desiring hot, beautiful women but at the same time thinking that they’re way out of your league and that you’ll never be able to attract one (even if you won the lottery), then it’s time to change that and convince you of the opposite!

Conosciamo tutti la procedura. Un caldo, ragazzo attraente approccia una ragazza sexy in un bar. Lui la fa ridere di gusto e lei gli dà il suo numero nel giro di circa cinque minuti.

From the look on her face, it’s evident that she’s really enjoying this hot guy’s company and that he left a good impression. 

Now, as you’re observing this scenery as an average looking guy from a corner, you get convinced that average men could never do the same thing and succeed as that good looking guy just did.

You get convinced that beautiful, attractive girls only fall for handsome men with trending haircuts, Brad Pitt’s facial features, and Ryan Gosling’s charisma.

(Beh, forse nei film, ma questa è la vita reale).

Summarized, you get convinced that average looking men’s attempts with hot women are doomed.

Beh, molti ragazzi come te condividono la stessa opinione, e non hai idea di quanto ti sbagli! 

It’s true that persone attraenti (in questo caso gli uomini attraenti) hanno sempre avuto maggiori possibilità di rimorchiare con donne sexy, but this doesn’t mean that an uomo medio like you doesn’t stand a chance.

E sapete perché? 

Because you’ve got it all wrong! 

Attractive women don’t fall for handsome men just because of their looks. Of course, looks helps, but what really makes hot women fall for them is their FIDUCIA IN SE STESSI.

Sì, l'ho messa in maiuscolo e in grassetto per assicurarmi che ognuno di voi la leggesse e riconoscesse l'importanza di questa parola davvero potente.

Naturalmente, ci sono molte altre cose, come il senso dell'umorismo, che sono importanti quando si tratta di attrarre belle donne, ma il punto fondamentale è che tutto deriva dalla fiducia in se stessi!

È la base di tutti gli incontri di successo a cui avete assistito finora nei bar, nei club, per strada, ecc.

Women want to see that a man knows what he wants, that he’s confident in what he’s doing, that he’s passionate about something, that he has interesting things going on in his life, that he has manners and so on. 

E, come avrete notato, tutto questo non ha assolutamente nulla a che fare con l'aspetto di un ragazzo. 

It doesn’t matter if you’re an extrovert, introverso, handsome guy, average looking guy or what’s considered a normal guy—when in a bar (or somewhere else), you all have an equal chance of winning that gorgeous woman and the only thing you need to do is CREDERE che sia così! 

Confident men believe it, and that’s why they always seem to be one step ahead of the game. And today is the day when you will learn the same!

You will learn how to accentuate both your internal and external qualities and present yourself as a guy who knows what he wants and what he’s doing.

Come un ragazzo che ha fiducia nel proprio corpo!

Being an average looking guy, you’ve probably been focusing too much on how you can change your appearance or your personality.

But, the trick is not in changing. You don’t need to look flawlessly perfect in order to attract a hot woman out there. 

Tutto ciò che dovete fare è potenziare e accentuare le qualità interne ed esterne che già possedete e imparare a presentarvi come un gentiluomo che ostenta sicurezza con ogni parola, azione, linguaggio del corpo e simili. 

Remember that you already have all of this inside you. It’s just that you need to wake up that average looking guy, and tell him it’s time to step up his game!

And this is how you’ll do it!

QUALITÀ INTERNE: COSTRUIRE IL PROPRIO CARATTERE E ACCENTUARE LA PROPRIA PERSONALITÀ

It’s important to mention that internal qualities are more important than external qualities because you attrarre e mantenere una donna con la vostra personalità, il vostro senso dell'umorismo e la vostra sicurezza.

Quindi, assicuratevi di prestare particolare attenzione a questi aspetti e presto diventerete una calamita per tutte le donne belle e sexy là fuori!

1. Concentratevi sulle vostre passioni

It’s universally acknowledged that women are crazy about guys who are driven by their passion (or passions), regardless of whether you belong to the category of beautiful people or average-looking people. 

So, finding something you’re passionate about and devoting your time to it will make you ten times more attractive and appealing to every damn girl out there (trust me because I’m a girl, so I’m speaking on behalf of other girls). 

Passion is the essence of human beings, and there’s something truly special about a guy who is artistically inclined or crazy about that one hobby he can’t imagine his life without.

Just think of Ed Sheeran and his famous, heart-melting song, “Perfect”. You have no idea how many women have imagined that he wrote it for them because they wanted to feel special.

E, credetemi, se foste voi a scrivere quella canzone per una bella ragazza che vi piace, lei si innamorerebbe di voi come se foste Sheeran stesso.

Now, don’t get me wrong and think that you need to start guitar lessons ASAP if you want to improve your love life. 

No, you just need to find something that you’re good at, something that you really enjoy doing, and present it to her in some way.

You need to let her know that you have something you’re passionate about and this could be gaming, programming, singing, playing an instrument—you name it. 

You can post some “passionate pictures” on your social media. You can write her a song, or help her if she needs your assistance when it comes to fixing her laptop or similar. 

She will be mesmerized with how thoughtful and inspiring you are, and this is exactly how you win any beautiful, hot girl out there, regardless of whether you’re a 20 or 40 year-old average looking guy or 20 or 40 year old attractive guy!

2. L'umorismo è il vostro migliore amico

There’s a reason why so many men—and people in general—pay attention to a person’s sense of humor and accentuate the need to nourish this appealing quality of being amusing or comic.

Il motivo sono le vibrazioni positive, non prendere la vita troppo sul serio, essere rilassati, essere intelligenti. Significa saper trovare il lato positivo in ogni cosa che si fa.

Pensateci in questo modo: Immaginate che qualcuno vi tenga una lezione in modo noioso e poco interessante, facendovi addormentare e annoiare a morte.

Ora, immaginate qualcuno che sia eccessivamente ottimista, che sappia fare qualche battuta qua e là e che sappia come attirare la vostra attenzione.

I don’t even have to ask whom would you choose between the two, right?

La stessa cosa vale per le ragazze e per il resto della popolazione. Tutti vogliamo assorbire le informazioni in modo divertente.

Tutti noi vogliamo essere in compagnia di persone positive, spiritose e che sappiano trarre il meglio dalla situazione. E lo vogliono anche le ragazze belle e sexy!

Now, I don’t mean that you need to learn thousands of jokes on the Internet by heart.

No, you don’t because this would only make you look like you have no idea what you’re doing or why you’re doing it. 

Potete sempre scherzare sul vostro conto o raccontare qualcosa di divertente sulla situazione attuale. Potete sempre raccontare i vostri eventi passati in un modo divertente che la farà piangere dalle risate.

And while she’s laughing her ass off, her brain will subconsciously memorize that she enjoys your company A LOT, and she will want more of it.

And that’s why, my friend, humor is your best friend!

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3. Siate premurosi e attenti ai dettagli

Per quanto possano sembrare indipendenti e potenti, a tutte le donne piace essere accudite. Vogliono sentirsi speciali e desiderano un uomo premuroso e affidabile.

It’s in their nature, and they can’t fight it no matter how hard they try. 

Le donne vogliono un uomo che sia in grado di riconoscere le loro esigenze e di agire di conseguenza. Vogliono un uomo che presti sempre attenzione ai dettagli, perché per loro i dettagli sono fondamentali.

All hot guys know that, and it’s time you learn that, too!

So, if you notice that she’s changed her hairstyle or her hair color, complement her and tell her how beautiful she looks and that this hair color accentuates her eyes perfectly.

If you notice that she’s feeling down, ask her what’s wrong, listen to her, and comfort her. And remember that you don’t need to solve her problems! 

In 99% of cases, women just need someone to listen to them (speaking from experience), so there’s no need to go out of your way and instantly start organizing an attack on the root of her problem like her collaboratore o qualcun altro.

Just listen to her, and you’ll be just fine!

Pay special attention to her body language as well. If her arms are crossed, it means she’s a little bit reserved because she doesn’t feel that comfortable.

In that case, try to relax her with a little bit of your unique humor. If she’s avoiding eye contact, it might mean that she’s bored, and you need to change the topic.

Details, details, details…

Just as humor, details are your best friends as well. You need to always be on track with her wishes, needs, desires, and you’ll know how to act accordingly.

That way you’ll always be one step ahead of the game. 

Think of it like chess. In order to win, you need to know your opponent’s moves in advance, and you need to do everything in your power to fill the gaps and convince them that your moves are more confident, more powerful, and more dominant. 

So, imagine that you’re playing chess, and she’s watching you. Imagine that you need to convince her that you’re exactly what she needs!

4. Believe that you’re special

You’re probably familiar with the fact that all the girls today want someone special.

Vogliono sentirsi speciali, vogliono qualcuno di speciale e vogliono tutto ciò che ha a che fare con la specialità. Perché? 

Perché a nessuno piace l'ordinario. L'ordinario è noioso. L'ordinario non è interessante. Punto. 

And that’s why, my friend, you need to believe that you’re special (even if you don’t feel that way).

Because if you believe that you’re one of a kind and that you’re unique, then you will truly become special in everyone’s eyes around you (and not just hers).

Ora, esibire il proprio lato speciale non ha nulla a che vedere con giocare duro per ottenere, vanto o simili.

Tutte queste cose sono assolutamente da evitare. Dovete invece farlo in modo sottile! Dovete essere abbastanza sicuri di voi stessi da parlare degli hobby più strani del pianeta o di qualcos'altro che catturi la sua attenzione.

Devi essere te stesso! 

Dovete essere orgogliosi di ogni vostro risultato e di ogni vostro fallimento fino ad ora. Devi mostrarle il tuo lato gentile.

You need to convince her that you’re a perfect combination of strong and sensitive. because macho bullshit is not special but being who you are is totally special!

You need to believe that you’re irreplaceable because you are. Lord knows that there’s not another person like you in the world.

You’re one of a kind, so make sure to exhibit all of your unique traits and make sure to show her how special you truly are! 

E sarà più che felice di far parte del vostro mondo, perché il vostro mondo non è noioso o ordinario. Il vostro mondo è un luogo divertente!

Vedi anche: 30 modi per far sentire una ragazza speciale (e innamorarsi di voi)

QUALITÀ ESTERNE: SVILUPPARE IL PROPRIO STILE E ACCENTUARE IL PROPRIO ASPETTO.

Le qualità esterne sono quelle che una donna nota per prime, ma non appena aprite la bocca e vi avvicinate a lei, passano tutte in secondo piano e iniziano a prevalere le vostre qualità interne.

But, when combined, external and internal qualities become a killer combination, and that’s why it’s important to pay attention to developing your own style and accentuating your appearance as well.

You want that woman to see how special you are inside out, and this is how you’ll do it!

1. Vestirsi in modo gradevole alla vista

Il tipo di abbigliamento, il fatto che si tratti di abiti puliti e persino la scelta dei colori sono tutti elementi di grande importanza quando si tratta di fare una prima impressione.

It’s true that you can’t judge a book by its color, but wanted or not, our clothes and hygiene indeed tell a lot about our character.

Questo è particolarmente vero quando si tratta di donne, perché notano tutto.

Women pay more attention to details than men, and that’s why they’re literally able to tell everything about you by only observing you. And that’s where you come into the story!

Se si vuole lasciare un buona impressione su quella bellissima, donna sexy, dovete vestirvi per fare colpo! 

But, don’t worry, this doesn’t mean that you need to take out a loan in order to be able to buy the most expensive clothes.

All you need to do is make sure that what you’re wearing is clean, that the colors match (at least to a certain degree), and that there are no bad odors or any kind of weird smells (because women are allergic to that).

You want her to see that you know how to take care of yourself and that you’re paying attention to details every time you’re about to go to town or somewhere else.

You want her to see that you’re neatly dressed because that’s one of the number one signs of every true gentleman!

2. Creare la propria immagine

Remember that part about believing that you’re special? Well, you need to incorporate that idea into dressing as well.

One of the easiest ways to show her that you don’t care about following the crowd and you have your own beliefs and principles is by developing your own, unique style.

You can find ideas in the latest magazines, but don’t ever try to look exactly like a model on a runaway.

The easiest thing a man can do is to spend a large amount of money on something that’s considered popular or trending, but this doesn’t necessarily mean that it will fit him.

Every man needs to find his own niche, his own style that will tell the girl: “This is who I am! I am a gamer; I am a businessman; I am an artist; I love rock’n’roll; I love metal; I love pop…” 

Basti pensare al personaggio di Elliot Alderson in quella famosa serie, Mr. Robot. Indossa sempre la stessa felpa nera con cappuccio, gli stessi pantaloni neri e le stesse scarpe Converse nere.

And still he manages to look mysteriously unique in the eyes of every girl out there. He still manages to gain respect from the masses of people because he’s built up his own style.

And you can do the same. You don’t need a lot of money to succeed in creating your own image. All you need is creativity and thinking about how you can match your personality with clothes.

Vedi anche: Come fare colpo su una ragazza: i 15 modi migliori per conquistarla

3. Accentuate le vostre caratteristiche migliori e nascondete imperfezioni

L'errore più grande di cui molti uomini e donne sono colpevoli è quello di non sapere come accentuare le loro caratteristiche migliori o nascondere le loro imperfezioni.

Una volta che avrete imparato a farlo, sarete i padroni del guardaroba!

So, if you have at least one part of your body that is muscular (that’s usually arms and torso), you want that hot chick to notice it!

Vuoi dirglielo: Hey, I’m sweating my ass off at the gym lately! I’m determined, disciplined, and confident. 

Well-fitting pants will help your legs seem longer which is good for those suffering from “short legs syndrome”, and darker shades of clothes will make you look more fit— aka less obese.

There are numerous pieces of advice on the Internet about this, so feel free to check them out if there’s something you’re interested in specifically. 

4. Rimanere semplici ma degni di nota

Un altro grande errore di cui molti uomini e donne si rendono colpevoli è quello di sforzarsi troppo.

When we really like someone, I mean when we’re really crazy about that one person, it comes natural to us to spend a whole week or a month in front of a mirror trying to find the perfect combo that will impress them.

Il desiderio di essere notati e apprezzati da chi ammiriamo è così forte che a volte ci costringe a esagerare nel vestirci.

So, always keep in mind that less is more! Don’t mix tons of different patterns, colors, or materials.

Choose two to three colors max per outfit.  Subtle patterns are preferred, and don’t wear screaming or fluorescent colors EVER (no matter how much you were desperate for her to notice you).

Se lo fate, lei vi noterà sicuramente, ma non farete di certo una buona impressione.

Volete essere semplici ma degni di nota. Volete dire molto dicendo meno. Volete essere audaci ma disinvolti. 

Volete essere un gentiluomo premuroso e di carattere!

You want her to notice that you know how to take care of yourself, that you pay attention to details, that you have passions and hobbies, that you enjoy life, and that you’re feeling confident in your own skin! 

Volete essere percepiti come un gentiluomo premuroso e di carattere e non solo come un uomo dall'aspetto medio, perché siete molto di più!

Avete un grande potenziale a prescindere dal vostro aspetto e prima ve ne rendete conto, meglio è. 

Potete avere tutte le ragazze belle e sexy che volete. Tutto quello che devi fare è CREDERE.

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