Cómo hacer que alguien te vuelva a querer: 20 maneras efectivas de tener éxito

Hay una persona que te gusta, pero no tienes ni idea de qué hacer con tus emociones.

What should you do to make this person understand you’re worthy of a chance, what are the psychological tricks to make this person see you in a new light?Sounds familiar, right?

Well, that’s because we’ve all been there. How to get someone to like you back? How to make someone to fall in love with you?

These are the questions we’ve all asked ourself at least once during our lifetime. Well, finally, we have the answer.

Sólo tienes que seguir estos 20 consejos sobre citas and I promise you that you’ll get the person you want in no time.

Más información sobre su estado civil

The first step many people sadly want to surpass while trying to win over their crush is getting to the bottom of this person’s relationship status.

Tienes que ser perfectamente consciente de que las cosas ya no son ni de lejos como antes; la línea que separa la soltería de la cohabitación es cada vez más difusa.

So, how exactly can you know whether someone is off-limits or not, if we’re talking about a person you know nothing about?

Well, you can ask your mutual friends about them and if they don’t know the answer, you’re sentenced to stalking through their social media profiles and searching for trails of a romantic partner.

Si te das cuenta de que esa persona no está soltera, retírate desde el principio. Después de todo, usted no es un rompehogares o una tercera rueda y lo último que necesita es arrastrarse a una situación con un infiel.

However, even if they’re officially single, there is the possibility of them being emocionalmente no disponible.

Bueno, antes de gustarle a alguien, deberías intentar conocer también su carga emocional.

Trabaja tu autoestima

Antes de esperar gustar a otra persona, primero tienes que gustarte a ti mismo y sentirte bien en tu propia piel y antes de exigir respeto, tienes que tener sentido del amor propio.

Sounds like a cliché, I know, but trust me when I tell you that it couldn’t be truer.

Therefore, if you are on a mission of catching someone’s attention, you have to become a confident person and build an image of someone who knows what they want and is not afraid to get it.

You can’t show this special somebody your qualities unless you yourself are not completely aware of them, can you?

Así pues, el primer paso es reforzar tu confianza y hacerte sentir especial. Es más fácil decirlo que hacerlo, lo sé.

Empieza por anotar todos tus aspectos positivos y rasgos de personalidad. ¿Cuáles son las cosas que alguien del sexo opuesto podría encontrar atractivas en ti?

Every morning when you get up, look yourself in the mirror and repeat after me: “I’m beautiful, good-looking, have a sharp wit and an interesting sense of humor.

I’m worthy and there is nothing I should be afraid of.”

Don’t put all of your focus on this person because a boosted self-esteem will help you in other life areas, besides love. Make a list of short-term goals and work on them, step by step.

This way, every time you achieve something new, you’ll see how capable you actually are and that will serve you as fuel for your self-confidence.

Deja de compararte con los demás, especially to your crush’s exes. Instead, focus on your own value and the things which make you unique.

Deja de pensar que esa persona está fuera de tu alcance y deshazte de los pensamientos pesimistas sobre el fracaso.

I won’t lie to you—there always exists the possibility of this person not reciprocating your feelings. You could do everything by the book but if they don’t feel they’ve clicked with you, you can’t force them to like you.

Sin embargo, por ahora no es algo en lo que deba concentrarse. En lugar de eso, tenga la certeza de su éxito y espere lo mejor.

After all, even if you fail, you know it was heroically. You’ll know you tried and gave your best and you won’t have any regrets later on in the future.

Cuida tu aspecto

Lo primero que tienes que hacer si quieres atraer a alguien del sexo opuesto es tener el mejor aspecto posible en todo momento.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that you should go get plastic surgery just to be more similar to top models from fashion magazines because that is not the only way to get someone’s attention.

You see, people in general are quite superficial, even though most would never admit that. I’m sure you have a great personality and a lot to offer but tu enamoramiento who still hasn’t had a chance to meet you can’t know that.

Por lo tanto, para que al menos te den una oportunidad y sientan el impulso de escarbar bajo las múltiples capas de tu personalidad, primero tienen que sentirse atraídos por tu aspecto físico.

Por supuesto, más adelante, cuando vean lo simpático que eres en realidad, tu aspecto será lo menos importante.

Sin embargo, ahora importa. Al fin y al cabo, tú mismo sabes que tienes que sentirte atraído por una determinada persona para que crezca tu interés por ella.

Por tanto, empieza por una buena higiene personal. Asegúrate de ducharte siempre y de llevar el pelo limpio y aseado.

You don’t have to be dressed in branded clothes but they have to clean and ironed. Also, always dress according to the occasion and not as if you’ve put on the first thing that you spotted in your wardrobe.

Otra cosa importante es tener un perfume reconocible que pueda ayudar a tu enamorado a recordarte.

It doesn’t have to be anything too strong but trust me, every time they sense that scent on someone else, they’ll think of you.

Sé positivo con ellos

A nadie le gusta la gente gruñona y el objeto de tu afecto no es diferente. Sí, ya sé que, como el resto de nosotros, tú también tienes derecho a tener un mal día de vez en cuando.

Nevertheless, at least at first, do your best to be as positive as possible every time you’re around your crush. Smile every time you see them, make a funny comment to make them laugh and bring light into the room whenever you show up.

Be as easygoing and relaxed as you can. Don’t be a party pooper and if you have a chance to, propose fun and interesting activities where the two of you can bond.

Don’t put all of your focus on to winning this person over and try to put your feelings for them aside. Instead, become someone they enjoy hanging out with.

Este planteamiento te ayudará a liberarte de la presión de lo que va a ocurrir a continuación, te ayudará a dejar de obsesionarte con cada pequeño detalle y te dará la oportunidad de ser tú mismo.

Don’t get trapped in the friendzone pero imagina que es tu amigo con el que te sientes a gusto y te aseguro que te seguirán.

I’m not saying that you should be a people pleaser and nod your head to everything they say just to make this person feel better but don’t argue about every little thing because that’s not the way to bring positive attention to yourself.

Don’t be a nervous drama queen who makes a fuss about everything, don’t drain their energy and don’t bring pessimism into their life.

En lugar de eso, céntrate en convertirte en alguien que siempre pueda hacerles sentir mejor, pase lo que pase. Deja que piensen en ti como la persona más divertida y graciosa que jamás hayan conocido.

This way, you’ll not only improve their mood, but they’ll also connect the feeling of joy with you.

Envíeles señales de lenguaje corporal

So, you’re trying to get this person to like you back—there is no doubt about that. However, at the same time, you don’t want to tell them how you feel straightforwardly.

Maybe you’re too shy to talk about your emotions, maybe you’re afraid of rejection or you’re waiting for them to make the first move.

Sea lo que sea, lo importante es que encuentres otra forma de demostrarle tu enamoramiento.

Pues bien, la mejor manera de hacerlo es enviar al objeto de tu afecto signos del lenguaje corporal que tienen más de un beneficio.

First of all, you’ll intrigue them and represent a kind of challenge. They will never be certain whether they’re imagining things or you’re really sending them hints that you’re into them.

Also, you’ll have a chance to assess their feedback just by looking at their bodily and facial expressions.

Are they responding positively to the signs you’ve been sending or are they looking at you as a creep who is invading their personal space?

Another good thing about body language signs is that they save you from getting rejected. If you see that the other person isn’t digging your signals, you pull back and avoid the awkward conversation about them not liking you back.

Contacto visual

Una de las grandes verdades es que los ojos son el espejo del alma. Por eso, la mejor forma de expresar tus sentimientos es a través de los ojos.

Para empezar, intente mantener contacto visual prolongado. Cada vez que pases junto a ellos, dales una mirada sexy y compruébalo.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that you have to stare like a maniac or put all of your focus on their sexual attributes. Instead, look them directly in the eyes and wait to see whether they’ll look back.

Sonría

While you’re maintaining deep eye contact, the important thing is to never take the smile off your face.

After all, staring at someone with a completely serious face is creepy; you don’t want them to get the impression that you want to pick a fight or something like that.

You don’t have to hysterically laugh but make sure your facial expressions send the message that you like what you’re seeing.

Mientras haces todo esto, presta atención a si la persona que te gusta te devuelve la mirada. ¿Qué te dicen sus ojos?

Don’t lose all hope even if they look away while you’re staring at them. Maybe they’re just embarrassed and need more time to relax.

Toque accidental

The next step is to get your crush’s body used to yours and the way to do so is to accidentally touch them with every chance you get.

Por supuesto, lo más importante aquí es no cruzar la línea, no invadir su espacio personal y retroceder en el momento en que veas que tu cercanía está molestando a tu crush.

However, if that doesn’t happen, you can start by kissing them on the cheek or hugging them a little bit longer whenever you two greet.

When you’re making a point, hold their hand, put yours on their shoulder or knee when they say something funny or just hold a la mano en la cintura.

El juego de los labios

Quieres que esa persona te bese, ¿verdad? En ese caso, tienes que atraer su atención hacia tus labios.

Accidentally bite your lower lip when you catch them looking at you or glance over at their lips in the middle of a conversation. Trust me—nothing says, “Kiss me,” more than this!

Estar cerca de ellos

If you’re not brave enough to try and have physical contact with your crush, at least do your best to be as near them as possible.

Aunque pueda parecer irrelevante, en realidad os acerca a los dos e intensifica vuestra intimidad.

When you two are in the company of others, always grab an opportunity to sit next to them. When you’re standing together, your feet should be pointed at them.

Of course, these are all the signs you can follow if you want to see whether you’re making some significant progress.

If your crush is starting to do more and more of the things mentioned above, one thing is for sure: they’re beginning to like you back.

Be available…

Para gustarle a alguien, lo primero es conocerle. Y para que eso ocurra, tenéis que pasar tiempo juntos.

That is exactly why you should be available to the person of your interest. You can call them to hang out if you don’t want to ask them on a primera citapero si te invitan a algún sitio, asegúrate de aceptar.

More importantly, show them that you’re there and that they can count on you.

Be the first one to offer them a hand when they need it, the one who calls to check on them when they’re feeling bad and the one who helps them with their problems when they’re going through some hard times.

When the two of you are texting, respond quickly and show them that you find their conversation important. Answer the phone when they call and never act like they’re bothering you.

… but a little bit mysterious

Sin embargo, el truco está en no estar tampoco demasiado disponible. De hecho, añade un poco de misterio a tu personalidad.

I’m not saying that you should play mind games or send mixed signals here because that is immature and will only drag both of you into an endless circle from which you won’t be able to escape.

It will just be enough not to reveal everything about yourself right away.Of course, you’ll have to show your crush your true self and expose your rasgos de personalidad.

Don’t be guarded but always leave them wanting to find out more about your personal life.

This way, you’ll intrigue their imagination and become an object of their thoughts. They’ll want to know what’s hidden underneath the layers of your personality and have a desire to be the first one to get to the bottom of you.

Recuerda pequeñas cosas sobre ellos

Una de las cosas que enamoran a casi todas las personas es que la otra conozca algunos pequeños detalles de su vida.

I’m not saying that you should appear like a stalker and reveal all the intel you’ve gathered regarding this person through your mutual friends or redes sociales pero estaría bien que recordaras algo aparentemente pequeño pero realmente significativo para tu enamorado.

For example, surprise them by congratulating them on their birthday even though they’ve never told you the date, don’t fail to notice when they change their hairstyle and show them that you remember the name of their childhood friend they told you about ages ago.

Todo esto les demostrará lo mucho que te importan y lo importantes que son para ti.

More importantly, make this person realize that you notice them and their mood swings. Pay attention to their behavior and ask them if something’s wrong whenever you see that they’re feeling low.

Mostrar interés por su vida

Another quality your crush is definitely looking for in their potential partner is the ability to listen. And when I advise you to listen to everything this person has to say, I’m not saying that you should just sit there quietly while they’re talking.

I’m telling you to become a good listener and their confidant in the real sense of these words. Show them that you’re devoted to everything they say and that they’re not boring you by blabbing about themselves.

Simplemente, muestre interés por su vida. Hágales preguntas, pero procure no parecer demasiado entrometido y evite temas que puedan ser demasiado personales o delicados.

Deje que le hablen de sus amigos, familiares, trabajo y aficiones.

También puedes incluir preguntas sobre su pasado sentimental, que te ayudarán a saber más sobre su estado sentimental y sobre el tipo de personas con las que suele salir.

Of course, you won’t be rude and expect them to tell you all the details of their past romances and love life but you two can talk about your longest relationships, toughest los rompedores de acuerdos y normas.

By redirecting the communication in this direction, you’re actually sending them a hint about the field of their life which you’re most interested in.

Toda esta información puede servirte para comprender si los dos seríais potencialmente amantes compatibles o no.

Have you been idealizing this person just because you didn’t have a clue about them or do you like them even more, now that you’re getting to know them?

También puede ser una oportunidad para que los dos descubráis todo lo que tenéis en común.

Maybe you can dig up some information about the object of your affection and find out more about their hobbies and things like that and then surprise them by talking about those things, as if you’re talking about your preferences.

However, don’t be passive in these conversations. Instead, talk to them about yourself as well.

After all, you don’t want them to conclude that you don’t have a life and that you don’t have anything to say.

Put in some effort…

Even though you don’t want to confess your feelings straightforwardly, you want this person to know how much they mean to you.

Por lo tanto, tienes que encontrar la forma adecuada para que se den cuenta de la profundidad de tus emociones.

It’s pretty simple; you have to put some effort into this entire story. Show this person that you take care of their well-being, that you want to make them feel good, that spending time with them matters to you.

Ayúdales también cuando necesiten ayuda, haz un gesto romántico which will knock them off of their feet and make them realize you’re worthy of their attention.

… but don’t try too hard

Sin embargo, lo que es crucial es que no esforzarse demasiado tampoco.

Yes, I know that this balance is difficult to find but you need to understand that every person is different so you’ll simply have to sense the situation, follow your gut and go with the flow.

You see, when they like someone very much, many people want to please that person’s every need and they put all of their strength into winning this person over.

Pues bien, aunque esto es bastante tierno, lo cierto es que puede ser contraproducente.

You don’t want to become this person’s maid or pet. They shouldn’t feel like you’ll always be there, patiently waiting for them for as long as they want.

Si eres demasiado duro con la persona que te gusta, empezará a considerarte un perdedor aburrido que la asfixia.

It’s actually simple romantic math: When you give yourself to someone on a silver platter, they know that they don’t have to put up a fight into making you theirs so they stop finding you interesting right away.

Besides, putting all of your focus on one person is not good for your own emotional and mental health. As much as you like your crush, they’re not your entire world and you should never act as if they are.

Haz algo para que se sientan especiales

Usually, big, romantic gestures are reserved for couples only. However, if you’re wondering how to make someone fall in love with you, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you throwing them a little surprise.

Of course, I’m not advising for this to be a firework, a carta romántica or a plane flying above their house, writing, “I love you,” all over the sky. Instead, do something small but make sure to make this person feel special.

Bastará con que les des una pequeña sorpresa de cumpleaños o incluso que memorices cuál es su chocolate favorito y se lo compres.

Haga lo que haga, asegúrese de que sea algo único y digno de recordar.

Hágales cumplidos

Who doesn’t like compliments? It doesn’t matter whether your crush is male or female—either way, they enjoy hearing something nice about themselves.Therefore, another way of making someone like you is complimenting them.

However, please, don’t be pathetic and don’t use typical compliments.

Don’t get me wrong—this doesn’t mean that you should praise their every move or applaud them when they’re clearly making a mistake because that would sound too dishonest and you would give the impression that you’re actually kissing their ass.

Sin embargo, hacerles un dulce cumplido de vez en cuando no puede perjudicarte.

These compliments don’t have to be only related to their looks. After all, you don’t want to appear superficial.

En lugar de eso, concéntrese mucho más en su belleza interior. Elogia su agudeza mental, su habilidad para resolver problemas, su gusto musical o su sentido del humor.

All of this will help this person understand that you’re not just trying to meterse en sus pantalones—they will see that you want something serious with them.

Pídales consejo

Let’s be honest—all of us enjoy feeling important in someone else’s eyes. Well, if you’re trying to figure out how to get someone to enamorarme de tiUna de las formas de hacerlo es pedirles consejo.

Además de aumentar su ego, esto también puede servirte para ver si vuestras actitudes son compatibles y similares o no.

Is this person telling you something you probably wouldn’t do in a million years or are they advising you to do something you would probably do without them?

After all, you’re not asking for the opinion of everyone you run into. Instead, you only do this with someone you appreciate and think fondly of.

Este hecho por sí solo será prueba suficiente para que esta persona vea lo importante que es para ti.

Sé tú mismo

So, you’re a living human being made of flesh and blood. It is natural for you to have a set of flaws both you and everyone around you dislikes.

However, when you’re trying to attract someone, you won’t show all of your bad sides right away. Instead, you’ll be your best self in their presence.

No, this is not me telling you to pretend you’re someone you’re not or to change yourself for the sake of this potential relationship.

What I’m saying is that you should just put some effort into showing this special someone your most appealing sides.

Haz que se den cuenta de lo cariñoso y atento que eres y hazles ver un fragmento de cómo sería su vida si decidieran compartirla contigo.

Show them that you’re one of a kind and that you’re nowhere else to be found. Show them your empatíasabiduría, madurez y educación.

To put things simply, in this phase, it is your job to convince this person that you’re boyfriend/girlfriend material, that you’re worthy of a chance and later on, of their love.

Demuestra tus dotes de comunicación

Cuando quieres ganarte a alguien, tienes que tener una gran capacidad de comunicación.

Tienes que hacer que se interesen por hablar contigo antes de nada, así que lo mejor será que busques algunos temas para iniciar la conversación y líneas para ligar.

Besides being a good listener, become a great talker as well. Don’t be cheesy and don’t use the usual phrases they probably heard a million times before.

Cuando surja la oportunidad, bromea un poco con ellos y haz que se pregunten qué querías decir en realidad. Incluye alguna charla amorosa o sexual sólo cuando veas que tienes una respuesta positiva y sólo si el momento te lo permite.

Mientras tanto, céntrate en plantearles algunas preguntas profundas que representen una especie de reto para ellos y les hagan reflexionar.

Don’t engage in too much small talk and don’t make them feel as if they’re being interrogated—just let the conversation flow its natural course.

Recuerda que es tu trabajo evitar los silencios incómodos y mejorar tu comunicación.

If you know you’ll be seeing this special someone but have absolutely no idea what to talk about with them, come up with a list of interesting topics that might amuse them.

Utilizar el humor en las conversaciones siempre es una ventaja, pero es muy importante no exagerar. Ten cuidado de no pasarte de la raya ni utilizar chistes demasiado vulgares, a menos que quieras que te consideren inmaduro o poco serio.

Don’t be judgmental and let them speak. Respect their opinion even if you disagree with it but don’t be scared of saying yours either.

Aproveche las redes sociales

Las reglas modernas de las citas han traído muchos obstáculos y problemas a las relaciones románticas.

Y aunque la mayoría dice que las redes sociales son uno de esos baches en el camino, si juegas bien tus cartas, pueden ser tu mejor aliado.

Even when you don’t know anything about the person of your interest and have no way of approaching them in person, you can always do the easiest possible thing—follow them or add them as a friend on some of your social media accounts.

Después de que acepten tu solicitud, like o comentar su entrada actualizaciones o fotos.

Puedes enviarles un mensaje privado en relación con algo que hayan publicado, lo que puede servirte para romper el hielo y continuar la comunicación.

Also, if you’re too shy to approach this person face-to-face, this is the way to go. You have more time to think of a reply while you two are texting and they cannot see your nervousness from the other side of the screen.

Búscate un copiloto

You might find this step childish but the truth is that it has helped out a lot of people who didn’t have the courage to seal the deal on their own.

Don’t worry, your fear of approaching the opposite sex doesn’t make you weak and it has nothing to do with your age or experience; it is perfectly normal and it only means that you’re head over heels for someone.

If this is what you can relate to, your solution is to find yourself a wingman. I’m not saying that this person has to literally approach your crush and ask for their number, like in the movies.

Sin embargo, debe ser un amigo común y alguien en quien ambos confíen incondicionalmente.

Yes, in this case, your wingman will be violating your crush’s trust but that will happen just because they’re aware of your feelings and want what’s best for both of you.

This is someone who will give you intel about your person’s romantic status, love life history and, most importantly, their opinion of you.

Are you making any progress? Are things going in your favor and are they starting to like you? Or do you repulse them and they can’t wait to get rid of you?

Get yourself a wingman and you’ll know!

Exige respeto

Looking at all the steps above, it might seem like you should obey your crush at all costs. Well, even though winning them over is your final goal, it doesn’t make you submissive or less worthy in this situation.

Instead, the way to make someone like you is to demand respect. You won’t literally ask them to give it to you but from day one, you have to act as if you won’t tolerate any disrespect.

You’re a mature person who has a lot of self-respect, who appreciates and loves themselves and you want the same treatment from everyone else as well.

Just because you like this special somebody very much, it doesn’t mean you’ll put up with any of their crap to have them by your side.

Tu tiempo, tus amigos, tus deseos y, sobre todo, tus sentimientos importan y no son en absoluto menos importantes que los suyos.

Yes, you want them but that doesn’t mean that you’re ready to lose yourself completely just to have them.

Este paso es mucho más importante de lo que imaginas. Además de ser importante para su propia sensación de autoestima y autoestima, así como tu salud mental y emocional, también es una forma de que tu enamorado te tome en serio y no intente jugar contigo en el futuro.

Es una forma de desafiarles y hacer que se interesen más que nunca. Una forma de hacer que se enamoren de ti con la misma fuerza con la que tú te enamoraste de ellos.

Hable abiertamente de sus sentimientos

Finally, if you see that none of this works out, it’s time to be honest about your feelings.

Yes, I know that this is something you want to avoid but your confession won’t come out of the blue—you’ll do a lot of things which will both relax you and prepare the person of your interest for it.

You have to realize that some people simply don’t take the hint and need to be told things directly in order to truly understand them. And if your crush is like that, you have no other choice but to come clean.

Of course, this doesn’t have to be some huge, romantic love declaration. You won’t tell them that los amas profundamente and can’t live without them because that is not the truth.

On the contrary, you can just say that lately you’ve started seeing them as more than a friend and that you would like to give it a shot.

After all, if you are scared of getting tongue-tied when you finally face them, you can always write yourself a little speech (which shouldn’t look rehearsed) and practice everything you want to tell them.

Tal vez esto sea lo que necesiten para empezar a percibirte desde una perspectiva completamente nueva y lo que les ayude a comprender que también han estado interesados en ti todo este tiempo sin ser conscientes de ello.

Let them think about your words and don’t pressure them to give you an answer right away.

They might be shocked by your confession, despite all the signals you’ve been sending, and need time to sort out their thoughts and feelings.

However, don’t wait forever. Agree on a deadline by which they have to give you a response and if they don’t contact you in that given period of time, everything is more than clear.

Whatever happens, remember to be proud of yourself for trying and please, don’t let the worst possible case scenario ruin your self-esteem.

On the other hand, if you do succeed, which you probably will, congratulations because you’ve managed to make your crush like you back.