Por qué debes elegir siempre la bondad y 10 formas sencillas de hacerlo

¿Por qué elegir la bondad en estos tiempos en los que el mundo parece desmoronarse? Precisamente por eso.

Participar en actos de bondad al azar puede no significar mucho en el gran esquema de las cosas, pero para una persona, puede significarlo todo.

Personalmente, incluso en esos días en los que me siento perpleja e incomprendida, elijo la amabilidad. Desde fuera, puede parecer una tontería, pero a mí estos pequeños actos me ayudan a ver las cosas con perspectiva.

Piensa en la última vez que hiciste desinteresadamente algo bueno por otro ser humano. ¿Cómo te sentiste?

In my experience, it helps with personal growth and it’s always reassuring knowing that you may have helped someone who was having a bad day. And doesn’t that count for something?

Elegir la bondad y liderar desde el corazón

One of my absolute favorite sayings on kindness goes a little something like this – “When in doubt, elige la bondad.”

Es algo que pretendo inculcar a mis hijos algún día. Todos sabemos lo brutal que puede ser el mundo. Ni que decir tiene que todos nos encontramos en situaciones que nos ponen a prueba en más de un sentido.

So I choose to respond with kindness. It’s so important to be courageous in standing up for what you whole-heartedly believe is right.

It’s vital to be able to elige la bondad cuando te encuentres en una situación incierta. Apoye contra el acoso escolar. Choose to react supportively. Aim to see things from others’ points of view.

Los actos amables tienen esa capacidad trascendental que te permite mejorar no sólo tu propio bienestar, sino también repercutir en otra persona.

I am far from perfect though. I’ve been known to have a short fuse on more than one occasion. There have been countless instances where I let my initial reaction get the better of me.

But I’ve been trying to change. And to me, that’s the brave first step. I’m not saying I’m going to get a kindness bumper sticker and parade it around town, that’s not the point.

Kindness is a small act that shouldn’t be broadcast. It’s opening your eyes and choosing to see someone’s pain. It’s holding the door open for a stranger behind you on your commute.

It’s not about bragging and hoping to get something in return. It’s about consciously leading from the heart at all times.

So how can you engage in kindness activities and make sure you leave a lasting impact on someone else’s life as well as your own? Here’s how you can start.

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10 Pequeños pero significativos Actos de bondad

Ofrezca su ayuda a una persona discapacitada

¿Cuántas veces ha visto a una persona que se esfuerza por empujar su silla de ruedas? ¿O a una persona mayor incapaz de llevar la compra sin que nadie a la vista le ofrezca ayuda?

Usted puede ser esa persona. Puedes elegir la amabilidad, acercarte a ellos y ofrecerles tu ayuda sin pedir nada a cambio.

No puedes comprender lo mucho que este pequeño acto de amabilidad significará para ellos sin que a ti te cueste absolutamente nada. Especialmente durante toda la crisis de COVID.

Sabes que todo el mundo mira sólo por sí mismo, así que ¿por qué no ser mejor persona y ayudar a quien realmente lo necesita?

Invita a tu compañero a un café de camino al trabajo

Think about it. How amazing would it be if your favorite co-worker walked into work right now with a huge coffee-to-go exactly the way you like it? Wouldn’t that be something?

And honestly, it’s truly not that big of a deal. But the thought behind it is truly inspiring. It’s the little things like that making a difference.

It doesn’t necessarily have to be coffee! You probably know your colleagues’ preferences (at least those you’re close with, right?)

That’s the point. Get them something you know they like and trust me it won’t go unnoticed. People appreciate kind gestures such as this more than you may think.

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Llama a alguien que se sienta solo

It may be an old friend you kind of fell out of touch with, or a neighbor that you know doesn’t have anyone in her life. It can also be someone from your own family life.

Las palabras amables nunca pasan de moda, sobre todo cuando llegan por sorpresa. Esto puede ser como tu propio proyecto personal de amabilidad.

Think about everyone you know who might feel particularly isolated and lonely these days and give them a call. It’ll bring a huge smile to their face and make them feel loved.

We all just want to feel seen and heard. And not only will you make this person’s day, but you’ll feel ten times better as well!

Abrir la puerta a un desconocido (¡o a cualquiera!)

We’ve ALL been there. Walking in a rush down the street with a person in front seemingly going to the same location.

You might think to yourself: “Awesome! I might just walk up and introduce myself!” and then regret it instantly after they slam the door in your face and leave you baffled.

It happens. People are just wired that way. But you don’t have to be. Be mindful of the person behind you. If you notice them going to the same place, hold the door open.

It’s a small, yet appreciated gesture that will make you both feel good.

Haga la compra semanal para su familia

¿He mencionado lo buenos que son los actos de amabilidad? No sólo liberan oxitocina (que se sabe que reduce la tensión arterial), sino que también ayudan a mejorar la autoestima.

Así que coge tu bolsa, ve al supermercado y compra todo lo esencial para la semana (o dos, si lo prefieres).

Your family will be pleased to have raised such a kind person, and you’ll know that your mom can check one errand off her list. 

To me, that’s priceless. You see, being kind isn’t just about strangers…it extends to your family as well. And boy does it feel refreshing.

Compliment your partner (or any loved one) on something they’re self-conscious about

We all have something that makes us feel not so hot. For some, it’s a facial feature they feel is too big/small or a part of their body they’ve always hated.

So use that to pay them a compliment. Tell your partner how amazing they look, particularly the thing they’re not so crazy about. Increase their self-esteem and watch them blush.

Personalmente, siempre he tenido una relación de amor-odio con mi pelo, aunque últimamente ha empezado a gustarme (¿lo pillas?).

Así que si hoy alguien me dijera lo bien que me queda, seguro que me sentiría bien conmigo mismo. Pruébalo alguna vez.

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Sonríe aunque tengas ganas de fruncir el ceño

This might sound a bit odd, but trust me, it works. You can train your mind to start smiling more often by first making yourself, and after a while, you’ll notice it’s become a habit.

Fruncir el ceño es fácil. Pero mantener la compostura y encontrar un rayo de esperanza en una situación desesperada es un poco más complejo.

Así que elige sonreír. Incluso cuando tu mejor amigo te abandona y lo único que quieres hacer es poner mala cara. Incluso cuando tu pareja te cabrea y te arruina el día.

Opta por encontrar otra cosa que te levante el ánimo. En lugar de fruncir el ceño, pon una sonrisa en tu cara, porque nunca se sabe cuánto puede beneficiarse de ella un desconocido cualquiera en la calle.

Ser empático

Try to be more mindful of people, their actions, and their point of view. Whenever you sense that your anger is getting the better of you, stop yourself and think about the situation you’re in.

Ask yourself what this person is currently going through and how that particular thing might affect their behavior. Recognize that sometimes your frustration simply isn’t warranted.

La gente tiene derecho a pasar por sus cosas personales sin tener que dar explicaciones. En esos momentos, activa tu empatía y sé amable.

Considera sus circunstancias y comprende su posición. Cuando tengas ganas de gritar, elige la amabilidad. Al final valdrá la pena.

Press pause when you feel you might say something you’ll regret

There will be an array of situations when you’ll be on the verge of letting your anger out. Someone might accidentally bump into you on your way to work or give you harsh criticism you don’t think is fair.

And in those moments, you’ll feel a strong urge to break away from your kindness campaign and release your anger onto them. Don’t.

Tu reacción instantánea rara vez es la correcta. Respira hondo, da un paso atrás y reevalúa la situación. ¿Realmente quiere hacerte daño o tiene razón?

I’m certain that you’ll realize it’s in no way personal. Things happen, people say things, and it can get misconstrued. But before you get mad, be sure to look at the whole picture.

Enseñe a sus hijos a ser siempre amables y compasivos

Mi mayor objetivo en la vida es criar niños amables, compasivos y conscientes que traten a todos con respeto y dignidad.

I want to instill in them the values I hold so dear to my heart. And it’s all quite simple. Whenever you’re feeling uncertain – choose kindness.

Antes de dejarte dominar por las emociones, cuenta hasta tres y espera antes de reaccionar instintivamente. Todos hacemos lo que podemos. Ser amable no cuesta nada, pero significa mucho.

Every person of every race, age, gender, and background deserves to be treated the same. Nobody has it all figured out, but with an open mind and a kind heart – almost cualquier cosa es posible.

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Recopilación de las frases más inspiradoras sobre la bondad

Siempre que me siento deprimida, recurro a un inspirador elige la bondad cita para cambiar mi perspectiva. Me ayuda a reconocer que mis penurias no son nada comparadas con lo que algunos pasan a diario. 

Espero que estas citas te impacten tanto como a mí.

1. “Sometimes it takes only one act of kindness and caring to change a person’s life.” – Jackie Chan

2. “Do things for people not because of who they are or what they do in return, but because of who you are.” – Harold S. Kushner

3. “Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you.” – Princess Diana

4. “Because that’s what kindness is. It’s not doing something for someone else because they can’t, but because you can.” – Andrew Iskander

5. “Remember there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end.” – Scott Adams

6. “Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.” – Barbara De Angelis

7. “What wisdom can you find that is greater than kindness?” – Jean-Jacques Rousseau

8. “You can accomplish by kindness what you cannot by force.” – Publius Syrus

9. “Kindness can become its own motive. We are made kind by being kind.” – Eric Hoffer

10. “Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt

11. “We can’t help everyone, but everyone can help someone.” – Ronald Reagan

12. “Kindness begins with the understanding that we all struggle.” – Charles Glassman

13. “A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees.” – Amelia Earhart

14. “Wherever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for kindness.” – Lucius Annaeus Seneca

15. “Unexpected kindness is the most powerful, least costly, and most underrated agent of human change.” – Bob Kerrey

16. “Gratitude is the inward feeling of kindness received. Thankfulness is the natural impulse to express that feeling. Thanksgiving is the following of that impulse.” – Henry Van Dyke

17. “Kindness is a passport that opens doors and fashions friends. It softens hearts and molds relationships that can last lifetimes.” – Joseph B. Wirthlin

18. “A little thought and a little kindness are often worth more than a great deal of money.” – John Ruskin

19. “The words of kindness are more healing to a drooping heart than balm or honey.” – Sarah Fielding

20. “Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate.” – Albert Schweitzer

21. “Kindness is like snow. It beautifies everything it covers.” – Kahlil Gibran

22. Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.” – Lao Tzu

23. “Kindness is the sunshine in which virtue grows.” – Robert Green Ingersoll

24. “Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.” – Mark Twain

25. “Kindness is more important than wisdom, and the recognition of this is the beginning of wisdom.” – Theodore Isaac Rubin

26. “Kindness makes you the most beautiful person in the world, no matter what you look like.” – Anonymous

27. “Kindness is always fashionable, and always welcome.” – Amelia Barr

28. “Kindness and politeness are not overrated at all. They’re underused.” – Tommy Lee Jones

29. “I’ve been searching for ways to heal myself, and I’ve found that kindness is the best way.” – Lady Gaga

30. “Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind.” – Henry James

31. “Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.” – Roy T. Bennett

32. “Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.” –  Desmond Tutu

33. “No one has ever become poor by giving.” – Anne Frank

34. “Help others without any reason and give without the expectation of receiving anything in return.” – Roy T. Bennett

35. “A good head and good heart are always a formidable combination. But when you add to that a literate tongue or pen, then you have something very special.” – Nelson Mandela

36. “How would your life be different if…You stopped making negative judgmental assumptions about people you encounter? Let today be the day…You look for the good in everyone you meet and respect their journey.” – Steve Marabol

37. “Courage. Kindness. Friendship. Character. These are the qualities that define us as human beings, and propel us, on occasion, to greatness.” – R.J. Palacio

38. “Tenderness and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair, but manifestations of strength and resolution.” – Kahlil Gibran

39. “I don’t care if you’re black, white, straight, bisexual, gay, lesbian, short, tall, fat, skinny, rich or poor. If you’re nice to me, I’ll be nice to you. Simple as that.” – Robert Michaels

40. “Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.” – Lao-Tzu 

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Elige la amabilidad. Elige ser la mejor persona incluso cuando las circunstancias estén en tu contra.

Es probable que la gente olvide lo que has dicho y lo que has hecho. Pero nunca olvidarán cómo les hiciste sentir. Nunca se sabe la lucha interior por la que está pasando alguien.

Así que guíe siempre desde el corazón y resista el impulso de actuar de forma poco amable. No te costará nada, pero puede significar mucho para un perfecto desconocido.