Recuerda: estás enseñando a los hombres a tratarte a ti

Desde que tienes uso de razón, has tenido malas relaciones, por no decir ninguna.

De hechoHay un patrón continuo en la mayoría de sus romances, por lo que podría decirse que la historia se repite cuando se trata de usted.

You don’t pick guys who are douchebags at first sight. You don’t go after jugadores. En cambio, la mayoría de tus ex novios parecían agradables al principio.

Mientras te cortejaban, te hicieron un montón de promesas y te consideraste afortunado por haberlos encontrado.

Sin embargo, a medida que avanzaba cada relación, las cosas empezaban a cambiar lentamente. Estos hombres agradables se convirtieron en monstruos.

Lo peor es que te trataban aún peor en cuanto les mostrabas tu lado vulnerable. Cuanto más los querías, más imbéciles se volvían.

Entonces, ¿cuál fue el problema? Bueno, el hecho es que probablemente empezaste con mal pie.

Verás, cada uno de estos hombres logró encantarte tanto de inmediato que olvidaste establecer algunas reglas básicas. De hecho, parece que te olvidas por completo de tus "deal-breakers" una vez que te enamoras.

I get your point of view. You think that compromise is everything and you don’t want to ask for too much from the man you care about.

Al fin y al cabo, si el amor es real, no hay ninguna necesidad de jugar. No te cuesta admitir tus emociones ante tu pareja, ni le exiges lo imposible.

Bueno, por desgracia para ti, La mayoría de los hombres ven este comportamiento como una oportunidad para hacerte daño. Empiezan a darte por sentada y dejan de esforzarse en vuestra relación.

Don’t misunderstand me; I’m not advising you to become hard to get. I’m not telling you to suddenly become a bitch just to get your boyfriend’s attention.

However, don’t lower your standards for him either. Don’t settle for the things that shouldn’t be acceptable just because you love him.

Remember one thing: you’re training men how to treat you. 

Every time you put your man’s needs in front of your own, without expecting him to return the favor when you are in need, you’re showing him that you don’t matter.

You’re indirectly telling him that he is more important than you and that you’re perfectly okay with your well-being coming last.

Every time he insults you and you keep quiet, you’re telling him that you don’t mind his behavior. You’re showing him that you really do believe him that you’re not good enough.

Every time he cancels plans without you saying anything about it, you show him that your time isn’t valuable. You’re actually telling him that you can put your life on hold and wait until he has the decency to see you.

Every time you double or triple text him, despite him not answering your messages for hours without a valid reason, you’re telling him that he has your undivided attention, no matter what.

You’re showing him that he doesn’t have to lift a finger to win it and that he doesn’t have to fight for your love. You’re indirectly saying that you’re not going anywhere, despite his treatment.

Every time you catch him flirting with other girls but stay by his side, you’re showing him that you wouldn’t have a problem sharing him with someone else. You’re telling him that you would even accept his infidelity.

The list can go on forever but I’m sure you see where I’m going. It’s up to you how you will set rules in your relationship and your partner will just follow your example.

Whenever you accept this man’s lack of respect, you’re showing him that you don’t respect yourself either.

Whenever you settle for crumbs of his love and attention, you’re telling him that even you think you don’t deserve more. 

Whenever you complain about him not treating you right but don’t actually do anything about it, you’re applauding him for his behavior. 

Cada vez que le das un segunda oportunidad for something he shouldn’t have done, you’re showing him that your capacity to forgive is endless.

Whenever you tolerate your boyfriend’s misbehavior, you’re giving him the green light to keep up the good work. 

You’re telling him that everything he does is perfectly acceptable and that you don’t have a problem with his actions.