Ricordate: state addestrando gli uomini a trattarvi come si deve

Da quando avete memoria, avete avuto relazioni a dir poco pessime.

InfattiLa maggior parte delle sue storie d'amore è caratterizzata da uno schema continuo, per cui si potrebbe dire che la storia si ripete quando si tratta di lei.

You don’t pick guys who are douchebags at first sight. You don’t go after giocatori. Invece, la maggior parte dei suoi ex fidanzati sembrava essere gentile all'inizio.

Mentre vi corteggiavano, vi hanno fatto un sacco di promesse e vi siete considerati fortunati per averli trovati.

Tuttavia, con il progredire di ogni relazione, le cose iniziarono lentamente a cambiare. Questi uomini gentili si sono trasformati in mostri.

La cosa peggiore è che ti hanno trattato ancora peggio nel momento in cui hai mostrato loro il tuo lato vulnerabile. Più li amavi, più diventavano degli idioti.

Qual è stato il problema? Il fatto è che probabilmente avete iniziato con il piede sbagliato.

Vedete, ognuno di questi uomini è riuscito a incantarvi così tanto da subito che avete dimenticato di stabilire alcune regole di base. In effetti, sembra che una volta innamorati ci si dimentichi completamente dei propri punti deboli.

I get your point of view. You think that compromise is everything and you don’t want to ask for too much from the man you care about.

Dopo tutto, se l'amore è reale, non c'è assolutamente bisogno di giocare. Non avete problemi ad ammettere le vostre emozioni al vostro partner, né a pretendere da lui l'impossibile.

Beh, purtroppo per voi, la maggior parte degli uomini vede questo comportamento come un'occasione per ferirvi. Cominciano a darvi per scontate e smettono di impegnarsi nella vostra relazione.

Don’t misunderstand me; I’m not advising you to become hard to get. I’m not telling you to suddenly become a bitch just to get your boyfriend’s attention.

However, don’t lower your standards for him either. Don’t settle for the things that shouldn’t be acceptable just because you love him.

Remember one thing: you’re training men how to treat you. 

Every time you put your man’s needs in front of your own, without expecting him to return the favor when you are in need, you’re showing him that you don’t matter.

You’re indirectly telling him that he is more important than you and that you’re perfectly okay with your well-being coming last.

Every time he insults you and you keep quiet, you’re telling him that you don’t mind his behavior. You’re showing him that you really do believe him that you’re not good enough.

Every time he cancels plans without you saying anything about it, you show him that your time isn’t valuable. You’re actually telling him that you can put your life on hold and wait until he has the decency to see you.

Every time you double or triple text him, despite him not answering your messages for hours without a valid reason, you’re telling him that he has your undivided attention, no matter what.

You’re showing him that he doesn’t have to lift a finger to win it and that he doesn’t have to fight for your love. You’re indirectly saying that you’re not going anywhere, despite his treatment.

Every time you catch him flirting with other girls but stay by his side, you’re showing him that you wouldn’t have a problem sharing him with someone else. You’re telling him that you would even accept his infidelity.

The list can go on forever but I’m sure you see where I’m going. It’s up to you how you will set rules in your relationship and your partner will just follow your example.

Whenever you accept this man’s lack of respect, you’re showing him that you don’t respect yourself either.

Whenever you settle for crumbs of his love and attention, you’re telling him that even you think you don’t deserve more. 

Whenever you complain about him not treating you right but don’t actually do anything about it, you’re applauding him for his behavior. 

Ogni volta che gli si dà un seconda possibilità for something he shouldn’t have done, you’re showing him that your capacity to forgive is endless.

Whenever you tolerate your boyfriend’s misbehavior, you’re giving him the green light to keep up the good work. 

You’re telling him that everything he does is perfectly acceptable and that you don’t have a problem with his actions.