4 frases que dicen los hombres tóxicos para hacerte sentir atrapada

When a third party sees a victim staying next to her toxic abuser for years, despite everything he’s putting her through, the first question which logically arises is: “Why?”

¿Por qué alguien en su sano juicio permanecería un minuto más junto a alguien que está convirtiendo su vida en un infierno?

Well, what most people don’t know is that toxic men use a set of strategies to keep their victims next to them as long as possible.

Parte de estas estrategias suelen ser algunas frases comunes que utilizan para que te sientas atrapado en la relación con ellos.

“I will change”

La primera mentira, y la más común hombres tóxicos say is that they will change. When you’re involved with a guy like this and when you start seeing his destructive behavior, naturally you want to leave.

However, he doesn’t allow you to get rid of him so easily. In fact, he traps you to remain in this harmful relationship by giving you numerous false promises.

Según él, es la última vez que te trata mal. Al parecer, por fin se ha dado cuenta de sus errores y está dispuesto a cambiar las cosas.

Crees que el amor que siente por ti es tan fuerte que está dispuesto a cambiar de actitud por ti. En el fondo, quieres creerle, ya que le quieres mucho.

You’re more than happy to give him another chance. Nevertheless, over time, you end up giving him endless second chances.

A pesar de tus expectativas, tu hombre tóxico en realidad nunca cambia. Y lo peor es que, sinceramente, nunca ha pensado hacerlo.

En cambio, todo esto era parte de su gran plan. Una parte de su esquema para mantenerte cerca el mayor tiempo posible.

Yes, after a while, you realize what he’s been doing. However, that is once you’re already buried in his manipulations so deeply that you don’t see a way out.

“I’d be lost without you”

Algunas mujeres tienen una necesidad subconsciente de salvar a todos around them. If you’re one of them, you must think of yourself as this superwoman.

You assume that you have the capacity to open a man’s heart to love and the ability to turn his life upside down.

Bueno, déjame decirte una cosa: los hombres tóxicos lo perciben. Eligen sabiamente a sus víctimas y este hombre sabía que eras una empática a la que podía atrapar con su triste historia de vida.

That’s exactly why he keeps you next to him by telling you that he would be completely lost without you.

Whenever he says something like this, he is emotionally blackmailing you. You think that you can’t leave him because he needs you.

According to this sentence, you’re the only ray of light in this man’s existence. If you abandon him, he will be surrounded by darkness and his life will be ruined.

“You need me”

Por otra parte, también existe un tipo diferente de gente tóxica que se concentran en el hecho de que usted los necesita y no al revés.

When you’re trapped with this kind of a man, he does everything in his power to convince you that you could never make it without him.

He will put his maximum effort into making you financially and emotionally dependent on him. This guy brainwashes you into believing that you don’t have anyone besides him.

Even though he doesn’t care about you at all, he will persuade you into thinking that no man besides him would love you the way he does.

After some time, this toxic man makes you believe that you’re not meant to be loved. So you end up staying with him because you think you have nowhere else to go.

“You’re too sensitive”

A list of common phrases narcissists use goes something like this: “You’re overreacting,” “You’re too sensitive,” “What I did wasn’t a big deal”.

Al decirte estas frases, tu pareja tóxica está minimizando tu dolor. Está intentando darle la vuelta a la tortilla y poner la situación a su favor.

According to him, he is not the one to blame for the hell he’s putting you through. He is not the abuser and you’re not his victim—you’re just overly emotional and take everything too personal.

This is actually one of the forms of gaslighting. While you’re going through all of this, you start to question your own sanity.

You can’t help but wonder whether he is really right. Are you really exaggerating?